Shit's Hard

I have been in LA for a little over 1 year now!! We’re talking about my time in LA so far: the things I’ve done, people I’ve met, and places I’ve gone :)) I’m giving the dirty deets of working for an influencer, becoming a personal trainer, and moving on from everyone I came here with. It's truly been a year of growth and change, but I wouldn’t want it anything other way. Thank you LA for the...

The holidays can be really hard for some people, whether that be because of family issues, distance, money, or just the societal standard of having a perfect white Christmas with matching sweaters! The holidays look different for everyone and for me it feels like the holidays look significantly different every year. This is my 2nd year spending Thanksgiving in Los Angeles, and it’s not so bad. We’...

Friendships are one of the hardest relationships to maintain… they’re are so many levels of friendships with acquaintances, friends, best friends, and long distance besties. We’re diving in on communication, effort, and energy. All expenses that are not limitless and you have to be cautious who you give these things too!! We’re also going to touch on mistakes and how to not internalize them. And h...

Being 20 something is deffff hard. We’re getting into white collar jobs, passion vs. contentment, and quality of life!! I have autonomy over my work schedule and my quality of life is insanely better than when I worked a 9-5. We’re touching on hustle culture, fuckin’ around vs. grind time, and getting organized about what we want out of life. After all, it is YOUR journey, and you should do whatev...

What does the perfect version of you look like? Per the title, I’ve not been doing great mentally, not really feeling like myself. Been wondering what the perfect Amber would do in this situation … WWAD? What would Amber do? lol. So we are chatting about feeling disconnected from your feelings, going back to therapy, and giving yourself credit where it’s due!! We’re reconnecting with ourselves and...

Well shit…healing is for sure Hard. This break up is proving that to me. This past weekend was rough for me, it’s the small reminders that hurt the most :/ Healing is not linear, I’ve been so up and down lately. We’re going over feeling your feelings, it’s okay to hurt, and it’s okay to cry!! I’ve been up to a little self sabotage too lately…not to worry we’ll go over that as well. I will never lo...

Ahh discipline, the ultimate guilt word in all avenues of success. I hate it and I love it tbh. How do you remain disciplined? Let’s talk about it! From being my own boss to working out, disciplines shows up in my life everyday. We’re going over my tips n tricks on habit forming, my write-it-down rule, and OF COURSE giving credit where it’s due ;) because you’re doing amazing sweetie <3

Confidence is a tricky one and I’m no master of confidence but I have learned a few things in the past few years that have really helped me, so I hope they can help you too! We’re talking about the voice inside your head, the power it holds, and a successful girlie’s mindset. I have a few tips and tricks for making sure the voice inside your head is on your side. Insecurities, self-talk, and confi...

Identity is something I’ve always struggled with. Between career, fashion, music, and just a general understanding of myself - I’ve always been a little lost. We’re going over closing/opening chapters of your life, the current version of yourself, and regrets of your past self! What the fuck does identity even mean anyways? Let’s talk about it!!

Ahh yes, love IS hard. Fair warning, this is a very depressive episode. We’re going to go over mistakes I made in my last relationship, reflecting on the last 2 months, and my relationship faults/fears. Oh to be young and in love <3 I have some strong feelings about love lately, and they’re fairly cynical. I know it will not be like this forever, but this love shit really is hard, so let’s talk...

Alright so this one is a given.. Being a women is hard as fuq, especially in a male-dominated space. We are diving in on controversy around women’s gym attire, jealous in comparison to other women, and self-talk. I address the whole, “Is she dressed slutty or does she just have a dump trunk?” issue and catching yourself when you’re judging another girl for her outfit. We are not perfect, but we ar...

I feel like I’ve been a worse person since the break up… what happened to my morals?? Being a better partner (and one day, spouse) always motivated me to work on myself, whether that’s communication, honesty, or priorities. Now that I’ve lost him, do I not have ANY motivation to be good?! Let’s explore this… and let’s talk about friends who call you out on your Shit. The people in your circle are...

Today we are talking about family - family dynamics, jealousy, and my unpopular opinion on family … This one is a little more personal, I’m sharing some of my own family relations and how I grew to be so independent. If you’re struggling with family stuff lately you are most certainly not the only one. Let’s focus on what we do have control of and how we get through.  After all is said and done -...

Welcome back to Shit’s Hard SZN 2!! I am so happy to be back and we have so much to catch up on. A lot has changed, as you can tell by the title lol. I recently broke up with my boyfriend of 5 years so we’re going over the dirty details of a healthy break up, moving out from our apartment, and the season of growth that is to come. Also, a little update on the new job, my tik tok hitting 3.5M views...

Starting a new chapter in life, some news for Shit’s Hard, and Karma! Let’s get into it; turns out this whole “struggling in your 20s thing” lasts a whole ass decade. BUT we are making decisions, sticking with what works, and ditching what doesn’t. The Shit We’re Working on this week is doing MORE of what makes you UNCOMFORTABLE!! I am scared but there is no room for growth if you’re comfy. Let me...

Cooking is one of my PASSIONS in life!! I love to cook and I cook fresh meals almost everyday. I am not a leftovers kinda gal and I HATE the microwave!! If I’m reheating leftovers, I’m air frying everytime. Today we’re going over how to get started: supplies you’ll need, tools available to you, and your grocery budget. If you’re eating out more than 3 times a week, you’re spending too much on food...

So it’s been 7 months since I quit my job in Ohio and moved across the county to LA. We’re doing a little update on how I am feeling now and what progress I’ve made toward figuring out ~ who I am ~ . We are starting to making decisions and doing more of what we enjoy, and QUITTING what WE don’t! I am sharing some good advice from therapy and the beauty of quitting. Also, I had an interview last we...

Men deserve a clean house, a good meal, and laundry done. So how come NO ONE TAUGHT THEM HOW!!! I just realized that 60% of my listeners are men, so I am dedicating this episode to you boys. I have a theory that men are raised to be useless. No one teaches their boys how to cook, clean, or in general take care of themselves. Why is that? Parents, why don’t you want your boys to cook themselves a t...

Deciding when it’s time to go to therapy is Hard!! Let’s talk about it. We’re going over when I decided to go to therapy, mental health amidst the pandemic, and virtual therapy. And most important, prioritizing yourself. I mean, for real, how often do you do things that benefit you and ONLY YOU? I’ve said it once and I’ll say it again, we all need to BE MORE SELFISH! Have you been to therapy? Do y...

LA GYMS SUCK! I said what I said. It’s either $200/mo and it’s actually clean but you’re on your own for parking. Or it’s $20/mo and there is no cable attachment or cleaning wipes in sight. Gym shopping is Hard!! I’m looking for a comfortable gym that’s cost effective and has clean equipment. In LA that is Hard to find. I am reminiscing about Kent State’s Rec Center … It was beautiful. Also, I had...

I was voted MOST CHANGED in highschool!! I have changed so much over the years and growing up IS HARD :/ I brought a piece for show-and-tell today if you’re watching the video on YouTube. We are hitting on religion, politics, family, and overall feeling disconnected from your old self. But some things NEVER change, and for that I am grateful, cause this Shit is Hard :) Have you changed over the pa...

Of course, after last week’s episode on ADULTING I got into a little fender bender :( So now I’m really learning about insurance. BUT I am also learning to KEEP MY COOL. We’re talking about emotional control, training your brain, and emotional regulation. Because losing your Shit is EMBARRASSING! So let’s keep it cool and handle our shit like ADULTS. We are NOT pushovers, but we are handling our s...

Why did no one teach me what insurance was?? Adulting IS hard, let’s talk about it. Being in LA, 2,000+ miles from my family, I gotta find my own dentist, doctor’s office, AND figure out how insurance works. And why is dental insurance and health insurance NOT the same thing!? Is there a reason learning these things isn't a part of high school education? It’s like they WANT to see me fail! I don’t...

Long-story-short, my car is not doing well and cost me A GRAND this weekend. Money is definitely Hard!! So we are doing big girl things and saving for a new car! I am going to be totally honest about money here, and talk about the financial help I’ve had. THANKS MOM AND DAD : ) But really, how much does general health and wellness cost? Can money buy happiness? Also, therapy is EXPENSIVE! Let’s ta...

You are the MAIN character of your own life! Sometimes we focus on what we can’t control and we get stuck. Shit we’re working on this week: focusing on what we CAN control and making choices accordingly! Here we celebrate QUITTERS! Girl, QUIT that shit that is no longer serving you! Hence my storytime Airbnb Lemon Grove, CA housing fiasco. This is not a “PicK yOurSElf Up bY tHE bOotSTrAps” episode...