Sexual Assault Survivor Stories

To know David, you'd think he's living a great lifestyle. And the truth is, he is! But it wasn't always that way. David was born and raised in Virginia, but life started taking some harsh turns when David turned four. That's when he remembers his father abandoned him, telling his mother that he couldn't take being around David anymore. It wasn't long afterward that his mother married the next-door...

This show seems to inevitably bring guests that are not only willing to share their sexual assault or rape experience with this audience, but who have the true desire to help, inspire, and uplift others on their own healing journey. Melissa Fairchild is an exceptional example, and I am honored that she reached out to me, asking to be a guest on this show. She is the epitome of a sexual assault and...

Sometimes I am flabbergasted by how things work out to bring someone into my life for the purpose of helping to heal others through this show. This is one of those times…I found Ashley Bendiksen through Instagram, being duly impressed with her mission and accomplishments of bringing her story to national audiences to help bring justice to victim and survivors of interpersonal violence. But she als...

John Jay Wiley is a retired police officer (Baltimore Police Department) who is now the founder and host of Law Enforcement Talk Radio & Podcast…both a radio show and a podcast. I had the honor of being a guest on LET Radio in an episode that was aired on 09 June 2024. You can listen to that episode here. It was quite the experience, and I appreciate John Jay for allowing me the privilege of being...

I sometimes surf social media in search of someone I think might be an excellent guest for this show. When I found retired US Army soldier Orvie B. Baker, Jr. I knew I had found true excellence! See, Orvie is a former SARC, Sexual Assault Response Coordinator, for the Army SAPRO (Sexual Assault Prevention and Response Office). He has tons of experience as a sexual assault victim advocate and super...

92. Dave Markel: A Shared Episode of The Jan Broberg Show! I am honored to be able to bring to you an episode from The Jan Broberg Show, in which Jan invited me to be a guest on her show. After it aired (June 18, 2024; https://www.thejanbrobergshow.com/trauma-informed-perspectives-understanding-the-neuroscience-of-sexual-assault-with-dave-markel/), I contacted Jan and asked her if I could air a co...

If you haven't already heard Bailie's two-part interview, Episodes 49 and 50, give them a listen—you'll hear one of the most compelling and intriguing interviews of sexual assault and rape that will hold you spell-bound and awestruck. You don't need to listen to those episodes before you listen to this one, but definitely take the time to listen to Bailie's story on those two previous episodes; yo...

This story is compelling for lots of reasons: because it's told by a man, Chris McGhee, whose daughter was sexually assaulted by a cop; because the cop was convicted, but didn't serve any jail time; because Chris and his daughter are working hard to get a Pennsylvania law changed so that cops are charged with a felony instead of a misdemeanor when they sexually assault a child. Because their story...

Erika's life story sounds like a fictional crime novel…but the amazing aspect is that the truth really is sometimes stranger than fiction. The truth of Erika's horrific story is that her father killed himself when Erika was just 15. Years later, a brother also ended his own life. At 19 Erika was raped by a friend of the young man she was dating; and he set her up for the rape! But there were addit...

Laurie McBride was sexually assaulted by her brother when she was a young girl. She was also emotionally abused by her mother while growing up, and then when she was in high school, she was the victim of two separate rape attempts. By the time Laurie was 18 and left home, she felt lost. In a situation like Laurie's, it isn't difficult to understand how her worldview would be skewed. She felt she h...

Because Caroline was traveling so much of last month, I wasn't able to record an April episode with her. But now, she's back home and busy at work. But not so busy as to miss another episode with me! This month, Caroline talks about where she was these past several weeks, who she was traveling with, what they were doing on this extended trip, and the many insights and lessons she learned along the...

Kelly and I have a few things in common: our admiration and support of the mission of Project Callisto, and our belief that normalizing the converstation around rape and sexual assault will help reduce the prevalence of rape culture. With regard to Callisto: I won't go into the full explanation of how Callisto works, you can find out that information on their website; but suffice it to say that Ca...

Having Roger Canaff join me on this show has long been a goal, and I finally was able to reconnect with this former colleague. I met Roger when I was working for the US Army in a position known as a Highly Qualified Expert for the Criminal Investigation Command (known as CID-Criminal Investigation Division). Part of my job was co-managing a 2-week Special Victims Unit Investigation Course (SVUIC),...

When it came to healing from her rape by Jeffrey Epstein there first had to be a realization by Jess Michaels that she was raped. Because, Jess had been taught by society and the culture of the 90's that what had happened to her must not have really been rape…she hadn't screamed, she didn't try to fight him, she hadn't even tried to push him off her—she didn't do anything that would, in her mind,...

It's difficult to imagine having a bright future with a life full of promise, fame, and prestige, living that life doing exactly what you were wanting to do: dancing, modeling, acting, singing, and a career trajectory that was leading to Broadway and world travel and fame on July 8, 1991…and then on July 9, 1991, having it all stomped out in just a few minutes by a man whose only goal was to rape....

It was only two weeks ago that I had Anne Winslow on this show to talk about her new role as Co-Executive Director of the Sexual Assault Advocacy Network, SAAN, an online community of advocates, victims, and survivors of rape and sexual assault. During our discussion, Anne mentioned that the former Executive Director of SAAN was Dr. Lori Pitts, who is now Anne's life coach and healing guide, and s...

Recording this episode was a fantastic experience...I was fortunate to have my guest, Cassie Nicholas, join me in the studio! It's not often that this occurs, as most of my guests are long distances from St. George, UT. But Cassie is staying in a nearby city and was willing to drive into town to record this episode. It was a real delight that we got to see each other in the sense that it was aweso...

The last time Anne was on this show was just over a year ago. She shared with us her harrowing story of enduring almost 30 years of intrafamilial rape as well as marital domestic violence and rape. Yet, despite all of that, Anne managed to become one the most softspoken advocates for others who've endured similar experiences as she advocated and guided others through her outreach with the Sexual A...

Some communities are safe harbors of individuals who identify as an assemblage who have known each other for a long time…grown together, supported each other, learned together…who have the common denominator of having gone through the same things together, particularly school. Such was the case for Ray Epstein as she progressed through a very small elementary school and middle school. Her friends...

As promised in January, Caroline Markel is back for her monthly episode on SASS. Caroline Markel (no relation to myself, at least that we know of!) is the CEO of Safe in Harm's Way, a non-profit organization dedicated to "providing online trauma-informed resources to survivors, their children, and pets, while identifying the unique needs based on race and identification." (source: SafeinHarmsWay.o...

When long lost memories, suppressed for decades through fear and dissociative amnesia, start to surface in the cognitive mind, the results can lead to frustration and confusion over what the memories stem from. Emotional trauma survivors often spend an inordinate amount of time trying to figure out the cause and meaning of these memories that are often accompanied by unexplained compulsive or habi...

Sexual assault is a deeply personal and often traumatic experience that affects millions of individuals worldwide. For survivors, the decision to share their stories with the public is one fraught with complexities and potential consequences. In this episode I'll help examine and explain the pros and cons of someone telling their sexual assault story to the public, or anyone for that matter, consi...

Part of the common experience in doing interviews of victims and survivors of rape, sexual assault, and other interpersonal violence, is to hear the person I'm interviewing say that they only remember certain parts of their trauma experience, or that there are parts that they've tried really hard to remember, but just can't. Or say that there are parts of their trauma experience that they wish the...

Several months ago I started noticing on my Instagram feed, several posts and reels that were initiated by an organization called Callisto. I was not particularly paying attention to these posts until one day I noticed one that was entitled "Sexual Assault Prevention," and had the phrases, "Holding perpetrators accountable," "Consent education," "Changing the culture," and "Bystander intervention....

Activation and discretion warning: This episode contains explicit and graphic descriptions of physical assault, animal abuse, sexual assault, and rape. Caution and discretionary action are required. This episode is not for children. Please use extreme self-care in listening to this episode and if you are activated or triggered and need help, call the national sexual assault telephone hotline at 1-...