Self-Defined Human

Self-Defined Human Podcast

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Transmissions from the edge of thought, ritual, and reality. Piano, philosophy, the internet, gods and glitches. Not every voice echoes beyond the walls—but those that do carry weight. But...what is happening to the old episodes??? nomichaelhere.substack.com

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#39 – Requests and Being Bulletproof#39 – Requests and Being Bulletproof 29.01.2022 35:51

Let’s talk about requests: how to ask for what you want. And, what to do when people don’t agree to those requests. Timeline 00:00 – Nonviolent Communication requires repetition. 01:42 – It changes you on a deep level. You have to change how you talk. 02:53 – If you want something, you have to ask for it. 04:06 – Doing things for people is FUN. How I got addicte...

#38 – Empathy#38 – Empathy 28.01.2022 25:54

This is the second episode about Nonviolent Communication. Today, we’ll talk about empathy. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit nomichaelhere.substack.com

#37 – Happy New Year 2022#37 – Happy New Year 2022 02.01.2022 35:23

This is simultaneously the last episode of 2021 and the first of 2022. It’s an experiment in storytelling. I didn’t plan out anything beyond that and I feel embarassed. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit nomichaelhere.substack.com

#36 – Why You Don’t Need a Brand#36 – Why You Don’t Need a Brand 17.11.2021 32:42

Timestamps: 0:00 Your business can be as flexible as your personality and include all the facets of you. 3:55 Six fears that stop you from experimenting. 5:10 Speaking your mind, experimenting, and being true to your own personality doesn’t mean you have to stop being a “business”. 6:50 Deciding on a job title without getting pigeonholed. 11:45 The people who matter aren’t...

#35 – Food#35 – Food 17.09.2021 28:00

I love food. Diets don't work. Society has trained you to hate yourself. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit nomichaelhere.substack.com

#34 – Nonviolent Communication#34 – Nonviolent Communication 15.09.2021 52:21

Nonviolent Communication is an awesome approach to learning how to say what you mean and mean what you say. NVC teaches you to think and talk in a way that tries to serve life, rather than disconnect us from our feelings and needs (the way we’re normally taught to communicate). Here’s how you can learn NVC: 1. Search “nvc marshall rosenberg” on YouTube and watch the 3-hour video with him in the re...

#33 – Loneliness and Social Anxiety#33 – Loneliness and Social Anxiety 26.07.2021 30:42

Is loneliness good or bad? Social anxiety. Could you survive on a desert island? Should white people be singing spirituals? Finding flow in your speaking (like Rush Limbaugh). Amplifying your singing and speaking voices. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit nomichaelhere.substack.com

#32 – Blame isn’t the Problem#32 – Blame isn’t the Problem 21.06.2021 51:53

When you get sufficiently advanced, spiritually speaking, you’re likely to view blame as a problem. As in, you shouldn’t do it. But, this is a misunderstanding. In this episode, I revisit the Drama Triangle and the Empowerment Dynamic, as well as Nonviolent Communication. The key phrase here is “it’s about function, not form.” This is a public episode. If you would li...

#31 – What’s the Deal with Michael Korman?, with David Servias#31 – What’s the Deal with Michael Korman?, with David Servias 20.06.2021 1:03:22

Cancel culture in the world of collaborative piano! David Servias sat down to interview me about trouble brewing in some of the Facebook piano groups. Read the full story . 0:02:16 – What’s the deal with Michael Korman? He seems to have a gift for offending people. 0:04:26 – Michael’s post in the Collaborative Piano group. 0:07:29 – Did Michael know it would piss peop...

#30 – 3 Stages to Learning Any Skill#30 – 3 Stages to Learning Any Skill 14.06.2021 31:09

Why I deleted all my Instagram followers. Why responsibility is a good thing. The 3 stages in learning any kind of skill. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit nomichaelhere.substack.com

#29 – When Insight Strikes, with Blake Shields Abramovitz#29 – When Insight Strikes, with Blake Shields Abramovitz 30.05.2021 2:05:23

Blake Shields Abramovitz is a meditation teacher and an actor, and this is a followup to our conversation from October of 2020, which you can hear in Episode 7: When Meditators Get Cancelled . In this episode, we talk about piano playing, awakening, multiple selves, what happens as you go down the path of insight, psychedelics, and acting. I hope you enjoy it. 0:01:50 – Cancel culture at med...

#28 – Anti-Perfectionism and Real Life#28 – Anti-Perfectionism and Real Life 24.05.2021 17:13

Why it’s easier to perform well in real life than when you’re practicing. Anti-perfectionism. Different types of personalities. Sometimes adrenaline is what makes you do a good job. It’s just conservation of energy. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit nomichaelhere.substack.com

#27 – What is Perfectionism?#27 – What is Perfectionism? 16.05.2021 20:13

What’s the deal with perfectionism? In this episode, I’ll talk about where it comes from, why it’s a problem, and what to do about it. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit nomichaelhere.substack.com

#26 – Michael is Just a Character#26 – Michael is Just a Character 01.05.2021 22:39

Is “Michael Korman” a character, or a “real” person? Are you? What’s the difference? All your questions answered in this episode. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit nomichaelhere.substack.com

#25 – Something About Habits#25 – Something About Habits 29.04.2021 19:16

Let’s talk about habits. And why science is not always such a great thing. (You might be interested in my blog post How to Build Habits ) This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit nomichaelhere.substack.com

#24 – Random Talking About Meditation and Piano, with Ruth Djatmiko#24 – Random Talking About Meditation and Piano, with Ruth Djatmiko 24.04.2021 59:44

This is a conversation I had with Ruth Djatmiko. Ruth is a piano teacher in Amsterdam. She also recently started meditating with my No Problem course. I asked her to have this conversation because I wanted to hear about her difficulties with meditation and how she relates it piano playing. 01:45 – Definition of “meditation” 04:49 – Michael’s meditation routines 06:02...

#23 – Why Generosity Is Impossible, But Necessary#23 – Why Generosity Is Impossible, But Necessary 09.04.2021 19:57

Let’s talk about human nature. Should we be generous? Are we inherently selfish? This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit nomichaelhere.substack.com

#22 – Stories Are Just Tools#22 – Stories Are Just Tools 06.04.2021 23:04

The stories you tell yourself aren’t “true” or “false”. They’re tools, like a hammer or a screwdriver. In this episode, I talk about why that’s important, and give an exercise for helping you destroy your own personality in a blaze of contradictions. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus e...

#21 – Oppression Is All In Your Head#21 – Oppression Is All In Your Head 04.04.2021 19:02

Did Jordan Peterson invent “cultural Marxism”? Is oppression real? Do we have to take down Bill Gates in order to become rich? In this special episode of the Self-Defined Human Podcast, we take a break from meditation and offend some people who never gave a damn about meditation in the first place. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or ge...

#20 – How to Fix Boredom#20 – How to Fix Boredom 28.03.2021 20:19

I hope this episode isn’t too boring. If it is…well…you should be meditating. It might do you some good. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit nomichaelhere.substack.com

#19 – If You Have Anxiety, You MUST Meditate#19 – If You Have Anxiety, You MUST Meditate 15.03.2021 39:58

It’s non-negotiable. I’ll tell you why all the other options for dealing with anxiety are insufficient. Also, we’ll slow WAY down and cruise down the highway. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit nomichaelhere.substack.com

#18 – Why You Can’t Satisfy Everybody#18 – Why You Can’t Satisfy Everybody 01.03.2021 16:14

In this episode, I’ll talk about the big problem the INTP faces: the obsession with pleasing other people. Also, life sucks and meditation will help you with that. Workability is the key. Religion. Truth. And finally, how you MUST deal with those idiots. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit nomichaelhere.sub...

#17 – How to Get Your Money#17 – How to Get Your Money 25.02.2021 31:03

This is about how I can get YOUR money. We’ll talk about meditation, marketing, spiral dynamics, and the problems INTPs and ENTPs face on a daily basis. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit nomichaelhere.substack.com

#16 – The 5 Biggest Meditation Mistakes#16 – The 5 Biggest Meditation Mistakes 23.02.2021 23:23

I’m going to try being helpful in this episode. You’ll learn about the 5 biggest mistakes meditators are making these days. I hope I can stay on track the entire time. Recorded in the car, while driving. Don’t worry, there’s no road rage. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit nomichaelhere.s...

#15 – I Will Destroy You 22.02.2021 21:31

This isn’t a threat of violence. It’s a threat to speak louder. Back off, “friends” and public safety officers. I’m trying to run a business here. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit nomichaelhere.substack.com