SECOND CLOCK™

There are certain people and experiences that test us and shape us, for the better. This is the story of my sister-in-law walk with cancer and me by her side.

What if our life is not about our purpose but instead is about the myriad of experiences that together form us and how we experience people and the world? So, with this idea in mind, I decided to accept what comes and even seek out experiences, including the embarrassing and the ridiculous. Here are a few of those stories. 

When you or a friend is caught up in a situation, I refer to that as being "In It". When I found my way out I tried to figure out how. In this episode I share my findings.

There are things we learn from our parents and there are ways we become like our parents. To understand myself, it starts with HER. My mother.

I do not remember when I lost the desire to say NO and started saying YES instead. As I settle into my forties I hear NO knocking and the journey I began to reclaim my NO.

It is hard to know what someone wants and what will fulfill their needs but after an unusual conversation I was left seeing relationships for what they are.

Have you thought about your love language and others? Most people would say, "not really." So I decided to spend some time getting to know them all and report back on what I learned.

After 30 years of receiving gifts poorly, one gift would shift my thinking to acceptance.

Life happens and how we handle the things that come at us comes down to our actions. So I started to just breathe.

A chance encounter made me realize that I no longer just thought differently... I now felt differently and was different. It was time.

What if you could remove the questioning of WHY and the wishes that come with SHOULD and by doing both you shed the victim story? That is what I experimented with.

When the stories we tell ourselves hold us back, and how to let go.

When fitting in becomes harder than standing out.

When I realized that not everyone is a giver I found new ways to understand, accept and navigate the takers.

How do the stories we tell ourselves drive our thoughts and our decision making and what if they didn't?

What If we removed the word SHOULD from our vocabulary, from our thoughts and accepted what IS? I did this experiment and I found it equally freeing and confusing. All these SHOULDS keep us comparing, hoping, expecting and held back.

When it is time to walk away from old limiting beliefs and navigating relationships and work differently.

By taking a look at what you believe in now versus when you are young you can work to shedding what doen't serve you.

There are times in our lives when we may want to be invisible, but during our marriage should not be the time. But, what happens when you find yourself there? What next?

What if your life could look different by taking one step in the direction of different? Some people dream and then stay stuck, and some people live their What If's and find out

What If you made the choice to start to think differently? I did just that and I started to feel differently and then I became different.

If you have expectations then you can expect disappointment. My look at what expectations bring.

If I could share this with my mom, and knew that she would take it in, understand my side, my experience, I would share it with her, however this is not the case. So instead, this is for all the children of alcoholics, and all the children that have tried to be heard but their messages were not received.

Learning how to say goodbye to so many parts of us and our lives teaches how to accept and let go.

When slowing down is the best path forward.