Screw the Hierarchy

From our workplaces to our state legislatures, groups design processes for change that don't actually work. And it's by design. In this episode, I talk about the rigged processes in both workplaces and state legislatures — and a tool we can use to go around the rigged processes that don't work. If you've been abused at work and would like to share your story anonymously, email info@dignitytogether...

Psychological abuse at work won't go away until we demand it goes away. That means creating a groundswell of people who say we've had enough. In this episode, I talk about what it takes in our states to start the process of introducing the Workplace Psychological Safety Act (Evan's Law). Find out more about introducing the bill in your state: https://actionnetwork.org/forms/learn-more-about-introd...

While therapists can help you with day-to-day struggles or life patterns that you'd like to deeply examine from your childhood, coaches can help you get through present blocks to move forward. In this episode, I talk about five ways a coach can help you feel unstuck after abuse at work. If you'd like to work with me, a work healing coach, visit DignityTogether.org/targets or email me at info@digni...

We get that Donald Trump, who focuses on loyalty (read: his own power), uses abusive behaviors to maintain his power. But how exactly does he follow the same playbook that so many abusers at work follow? In this episode, I go through my top 4 ways Trump followed the abuser playbook around the January 6 insurrection as described in the June 9, 2022 hearing (day 1). If you've been abused at work and...

Suicide due to workplace stress is difficult to track. But the latest data from the Bureau of Labor Statistics shows an uptick in the number of suicides related to workplace stress in the U.S. since the year 2000 — an increase of 39%. In this episode, I talk about the issue, the stigma around mental health at work, and what we can do about it. If you've been abused at work and would like to share...

Workers across the nation are fighting for an end to abuse of power and for a common sense baseline of human rights — for the ultimate goal of fairness, opportunity, and health. In this episode, I talk about 24 active workers' rights bills we need passed ASAP — and how you can take action to move the needle on how employers treat workers in the U.S.. If you've been abused at work and would like to...

Workplace mobbing is group bullying. But it's a bit more complicated than that. In this episode, I talk about how bullying at work typically escalates to mobbing by the employer itself — all for a high performer speaking up. If you've been abused at work and would like to share your story anonymously, email info@dignitytogether.org. If you feel like you need more help, I have a free guide to recov...

When any type of environment or relationship doesn't align with our values, we're left to make a choice: change the situation or change how we respond. And we know we can't change situations or other people. Not only does it not work, but it also wastes our energy. Focus on others means less time to get in touch with ourselves. So if we can't change the situation or other people, what do we do? In...

Actions come from thoughts, and thoughts come from beliefs. But we can challenge those beliefs that don't serve us — often developed in childhood. In this episode, I talk about how to challenge limiting beliefs and how to then create new patterns that DO serve you in ways you prefer to feel served. If you've been abused at work and would like to share your story anonymously, email info@dignitytoge...

Looking at our purpose can help us get back to what we CAN control and what OUR values are so we can live our lives intentionally and make choices around our values (not our employer's values, our parents' or siblings' values, or anyone else's values). When we look at our lives in the long-term, or get altitude as career coach Liz Ryan calls it, we can work toward detaching from current toxicity a...

How much do you know about workers' rights in the U.S.? In this episode, find out how much you know about how our culture values workers. If you've been abused at work and would like to share your story anonymously, email info@dignitytogether.org. If you feel like you need more help, I have a free guide to recovery steps at http://www.dignitytogether.org/targets and a signup for daily boosts throu...

When we listen to those expressing negative emotions, we tend to want to fix the situation and make our own discomfort go away. But what targets of workplace bullying and mobbing (or any type of trauma) actually need is to feel seen and heard. Advice and fixing don't help. In this episode, learn how to listen to BE with someone instead of fixing someone so you can connect with them and help them p...

Abusers typically learned to focus on power and control at a young age. When we try to control them back after they grab our personal power, we end up attempting to use control on them after control harmed us. But we know we can't control others. We can incentivize them, we can inspire them, and we can lead them, but we ultimately can't control them. In this episode, I talk about how letting go ca...

Writing rules as they go regardless of what their bylaws say. Not holding elections and retaining power. Removing people who disagree and positioning their behavior as bullying regardless of what outside investigators find (gaslighting). Not holding yes-people accountable. Taking on rights but not responsibilities of leadership. Allowing smearing of colleagues to happen at formal meetings. Reinfor...

On the one year anniversary of the suicide of Evan Seyfried, the nearly 20-year exemplary Kroger employee who two supervisors and Kroger itself allegedly psychologically abused to death, advocates from across the country took to their State House and courthouse steps to demand an end to workplace abuse and mobbing. In Ohio where Evan worked, California, Massachusetts, Michigan, New York, Oregon, R...

How come we can't just let go after abuse at work? And if not, what are some ways we can begin that process so we can lead our best lives? And if we're loved ones or bystanders, how can we best support targets? Jolynn Nelson, who has a PhD in industrial and organizational psychology, explains how we can move on. If you've been abused at work and would like to share your story anonymously, email in...

When we look at social hierarchies and the effects of positive stereotyping, social weight, and economic freedom and the opportunities it affords those at the top of the hierarchy, we can easily see the damage of sexism, both individually and systemically. But co-founder of the men's rights movement in 1977 Fred Hayward sees men facing issues and stereotypes that have negative effects — not just p...

On March 9, 2021, 40-year old Evan Seyfried took his own life after workplace abuse and mobbing. He was a 20-year exemplary employee at Kroger, one of the largest grocers in the US. Hear what abuses the lawsuit outlines. According to The Washington Post, in a "wrongful death" lawsuit, Evan's family alleges his death resulted from a six-month harassment campaign by two co-workers at the Milford, Oh...

On March 9, 2021, 40-year old Evan Seyfried took his own life after workplace abuse and mobbing. He was a 20-year exemplary employee at Kroger, one of the largest grocers in the US. Hear from five advocates working on the Justice for Evan campaign. @JusticeForEvan According to The Washington Post, in a "wrongful death" lawsuit, Evan's family alleges his death resulted from a six-month harassment c...

After trauma, we may believe we're broken. But according to coach, healer, and Guide Sophie Frabotta of Awaken, we're not broken — we're hurt. In this episode, Sophie walks us through her 4 Rs Method — the path to radiate when we feel stuck in the hurt. Find Sophie at AwakenWithSophie.com. If you've been abused at work and would like to share your story anonymously, email info@dignitytogether.org....

LUMO's Sarah Olin believes we as a culture should shift from talking about work-life balance, which is a myth, to alignment when it comes to working parents. In this episode, Sarah reveals what working parents face and how she supports them and organizations to offer support, too. Find Sarah at LusciousMother.com/lumo. If you've been abused at work and would like to share your story anonymously, e...

Unresolved trauma festers in our nervous systems, causing conditions, disease, and illness. In this episode, Creating Serenity's Sharon LaFlamme reveals what happens when we don't release trauma from our bodies — and what we can do about it using somatic experiencing. Find Sharon at CreatingSerenityNow.com. If you've been abused at work and would like to share your story anonymously, email info@di...

Betrayal trauma can happen when we feel our employer does nothing to address our workplace abuse situations, and the government invalidates us in the absence of a law to protect us. This type of trauma can feel more personal than other types of trauma. And not only does it set the tone for relationships with others, but it also affects our relationships with ourselves. In this episode, Relationshi...

Leaders often experience limiting beliefs around feeling enough that affect their ability to build high performing teams and increase bottom-line results. In this episode, leadership consultant Michele Molitor talks about how our brain wiring can play into feeling fear and anxiety, what happens when we don't address these feelings, and how her rapid rewiring approach can help leaders improve their...

Research shows that ALL of us have experienced childhood trauma. But how does it show up for us later in life? In this episode, Global Life & Love Coach Riana Milne shares her top 10 Traumas from the Childhood Trauma Checklist Tool and reveals how childhood trauma plays out in adulthood — and what we can do to address it. Find Riana at RianaMilne.com. If you've been abused at work and would like t...