Roots of the Rise | Authentic Alignment and Transformation

Today, we’re focusing on acts of service, which is all about showing love through helpful actions. This could mean noticing what’s weighing on your partner and stepping in to ease that burden—it could be something like  doing the dishes, running errands, or handling a task they find stressful. The key is to take initiative when possible, or if your partner asks for help, responding quickly and wit...

This week focuses on exploring the five love languages, with today's topic being physical touch. Physical touch is essential for everyone, but for those whose primary love language is touch, it’s the most impactful way to feel loved and emotionally connected. It includes more than just sexual intimacy—simple acts like hugs, kisses, holding hands, or cuddling can be deeply meaningful. Learning...

Do you ever feel like you and your partner are speaking a different language? That no matter how much you try to explain why it’s so important to you that they do something, they don’t seem to get it? Or feel like you’ve lost the spark, there’s no more romance? The problem might be that you actually are speaking different languages- different love languages that is. Today we are discussing the bas...

Non Violent Communication (NVC) has been around since the 60s, but it’s recently having a little bit of a resurgence, likely because of the times we are currently living in and the desperate need for a way to talk about hard things in a loving way. Today we go over the four basic components of NVC and give you a place to get started.  Non Violent Communication by Dr. Marshall Rosenberg Related Epi...

Do you ever have a flash of awareness that you’re not showing up the way you want to for a loved one- not in a big way, but in a small moment, where you recognize you pushed away joy instead of contributed to it? Let’s talk about stealing little joys from our loved ones and why it's such a problem. Questions or Comments? Message me! Support the show Interested in becoming a member and gaining...

The 20th episode already! I thought I’d take a quick minute to touch base and share how things are going on my end,  ask for some input, and talk about the very useful relationship practice of state of the unions.   Questions or Comments? Message me! Support the show Interested in becoming a member and gaining access to notes, prompts, guided meditations and more? Listen to the membership episode...

Today I'm giving my five big takeaways from a recent Armchair Expert episode with Dr. Blaise Aguirre, who has worked with over 5000  individuals struggling with self hatred.   Armchair Expert with Dr. Blaise Aguirre (on overcoming self-hatred) Dr. Aguirre's book  I Hate Myself: Overcome Self-Loathing and Realize Why You're Wrong About You Episode 54 - Why Loving Who You've Been...

We wrap up our week on self-care by pulling together insights on nurturing the physical, mental, emotional, social and spiritual aspects of ourselves without becoming overwhelmed. Instead of turning self-care into another full-time job, we explore practical approaches to integrate it into our lives. • Breaking self-care into manageable pieces by focusing on weekly rather than daily practices • Alt...

Spiritual self-care goes beyond religious frameworks to connect us more deeply with ourselves and something larger. When we nurture our spiritual well-being, we learn to love ourselves and others more fully, creating ever-widening circles of connection and understanding. • Spiritual self-care involves asking deeper questions about our lives and pursuing greater self-understanding • Religious frame...

We explore social self-care through real-life stories, research on longevity, and practical tactics for staying connected when life is full. We share how to set rhythms, ask for what you need, and rebuild faded ties with curiosity and grace. • social connection as a predictor of longevity • different social needs across partners and friends • standing dates and calendar design that sticks • naming...

We explore mental and emotional self-care and how our underlying beliefs drive our emotional responses, offering practical strategies for processing feelings and stimulating our minds.  • Emotions are essential feedback mechanisms that tell us important information about our lives and boundaries • Our beliefs, often subconscious, are the true source of our emotional reactions • Cultivating awarene...

The second in a six part series on self care. Today we discuss the physical, and  three major ways in which we can take care of our bodies: sleep, diet, and movement.  Questions or Comments? Message me! Support the show Interested in becoming a member and gaining access to notes, prompts, guided meditations and more? Listen to the membership episode to learn more, or G o here to check it out  for...

We explore the fundamentals of self-care and why it's critical to establish practices before hitting emotional rock bottom. A personal wake-up call involving my son taking responsibility for my happiness catalyzed my commitment to consistent self-care practices that transformed my life. • Self-care defined as strategies promoting healthy functioning and enhanced wellbeing • The importance of...

Box breathing is a simple technique that can lower blood pressure, relieve stress and anxiety, and benefit those with lung conditions by activating the parasympathetic nervous system. This slow breathing practice works by allowing carbon dioxide to temporarily build in your blood, lowering your heart rate and creating a calming effect throughout your body. • Find a quiet place where you won't...

Self-forgiveness is a challenging yet essential part of our healing journey, closely tied to acceptance of what has happened. Examining our resistance to forgiving ourselves offers a pathway to release guilt and transform our relationships with ourselves and others. • Forgiveness and acceptance are deeply interconnected • Our inability to forgive often stems from resistance to accepting what happe...

Acceptance isn't just a spiritual concept but directly impacts our health and wellbeing, serving as a foundation for living peacefully. When we resist reality by thinking "this isn't fair" or "this shouldn't be happening," we create suffering for ourselves and prevent inner peace. • Stress at its core is resistance to what is • The task is learning how to get in...

Our assumptions create harmful misunderstandings and unnecessary suffering in our daily lives.  • Assumptions feel like truth but are often just stories we tell ourselves • We take things personally and create drama based on misunderstandings • We fear asking for clarification, especially with loved ones • Relationship problems often stem from expecting partners to read our minds • We wrongly assu...

Abhyanga is an Ayurvedic oil massage regularly recommended as an integral part of daily self care.  In this episode I talk about how to do it, some words of caution, and discuss the potential benefits. Click here to watch a video to see how it's done. Questions or Comments? Message me! Support the show Interested in becoming a member and gaining access to notes, prompts, guided meditations an...

I'm excited to talk to you about Heart Based Meditation today. Unrelated to any religion, easy, and effective, this method of meditation has brought peace and healing to so many.  I've practiced it for the past decade and it is foundational to my daily self care routine.  To learn more or to sign up for training, please go to the Heart Based Meditation website by clicking here .  Questio...

What's needed for acceptance, healing, and growth? Curiosity. You don't need hope, or to believe any religious practice or follow any particular steps in a certain order- but the ability to ask empowering questions is an absolute necessity for inner development.  Related Episodes: Episode 54 - Why Loving Who You've Been Can Change Everything Episode 53 - Know Who You Are: The Founda...

Journaling is a powerful tool for personal growth with multiple approaches to fit different needs and goals. We dive into five key journaling methods that can transform your mental clarity, emotional processing, and even physical health. • Line-a-day journaling provides a five-year snapshot of your life with minimal daily effort • Morning pages help declutter your mind and set intentions for focus...

Gratitude is in direct opposition to scarcity. The more grateful you are for what you can do, the less what you can't do bothers you!   Questions or Comments? Message me! Support the show Interested in becoming a member and gaining access to notes, prompts, guided meditations and more? Listen to the membership episode to learn more, or G o here to check it out  for one week free! Stay connect...

I just finished listening to another fabulous Armchair Expert podcast episode with Sunita San on defiance.  Here, I talk about a couple points that really struck me, especially pertaining to those people who really struggle with saying "no"... the proverbial people pleasers.  I want to note that, while I make suggestions in this episode about how to play around with  setting firmer bound...

Today I'm talking about a passage from Dawson Church's book Bliss Brain, a book I've recently been enjoying. The essence of the passage I share is that of looking for the deeper meaning of the difficult things that happen to us.  If we can come to do that, our whole lives shift.  I also talk a bit about confirmation bias and how it correlates to our happiness, and share the author&a...

On the day I released my 50th episode, I went back and added a preface to this, my very first episode, because so much has changed! I'm choosing to leave the full episode intact, just with my added preface, because I don't believe in revisionist history; however, this first episode is definitely not indicative of what the podcast has grown into.   So, if you’re here to get a feel for Roo...