Rooted in the Really Real

Fr. Steve and Ashley end this series on Attachment Theory by discussing, where do we go from here? How do we move from an experience of an insecure attachment style to a posture of a secure attachment style?  Freedom is possible, growth is real. Something that’s central to growth in our journey here from the perspective of the attachment styles is finding the freedom to love and be loved.   Satan...

Fr. Steve and Ashley talk about the disorganized attachment style, which is one of the four attachment styles within attachment theory. People who have a disorganized attachment style have a negative view of self and a negative view of others, they have a hard time believing they deserve love and that they’re worthy of love. They also don’t trust others or believe they would be willing or able to...

Fr. Steve and Ashley talk about the ambivalent attachment style, which is one of the four attachment styles within attachment theory. The ambivalently attached person tends to believe “I am not worthy of love, I am not capable of getting the love I need without being angry and clingy.” In regards to others, they tend to believe “others are capable of meeting my needs, but might not do so because o...

Fr. Steve and Ashley talk about the avoidant attachment style, which is one of the four attachment styles within attachment theory. Those with an avoidant attachment style believe "I am worthy of love and I am capable of getting the love and support I need," however they also believe others are either unwilling or incapable of loving them because they are untrustworthy. Others are not re...

Fr. Steve and Ashley talk about the secure attachment style, which is one of the four attachment styles within attachment theory. Those with a secure attachment style believe "I am worthy of love and I am capable of getting the love and support I need." There is confidence and security within their own acceptance of themselves. They also believe "others are willing and able to love...

Fr. Steve and Ashley continue their discussion of attachment theory by looking at how our different attachment styles may affect our relationships, especially our prayer.  When we have an insecure attachment style, our prayer life has the potential to cause doubt or fear in us based on the unpredictability of it.  Much of our prayer turns into fighting the lie that God isn't who He says He is...

We are back from our brief summer break! In this episode, Fr. Steve and Ashley discuss the basics of attachment theory- what it is and why it matters. This is the first episode in our new series delving into the different components of attachment theory and how our attachment style affects our relationships and prayer. There are four attachment styles: secure, avoidant, ambivalent, and disorganize...

Fr. Steve and Ashley discuss how to forgive ourselves due to past regrets, mistakes, weaknesses, or temptations and how to show ourselves mercy in these places. They also discuss the difference between guilt and shame, and how shame has an integral role in preventing our self-forgiveness and forgiveness of others. Email us at ashley@rootedinthereallyreal.com with questions, episode topic suggestio...

Fr. Steve and Ashley discuss forgiveness- what it is and what it is not, as well as the difference between reconciliation and forgiveness. We can only forgive by grace because Jesus forgives us first! So how do we begin to forgive? Listen for more! Email us at ashley@rootedinthereallyreal.com with questions, episode topic suggestions, prayer intentions- you name it! Please also subscribe to our po...

Fr. Steve and Ashley conclude the series on identity by discussing how to reconcile the different sources of our identity in order to become our true selves. By virtue of our baptism, we can call upon the name of Jesus to help us renounce lies and claim truths related to our identity. Take a listen to learn more!  Email us at ashley@rootedinthereallyreal.com with questions, episode topic suggestio...

Fr. Steve and Ashley continue their discussion on identity, this time looking to the areas we find our false identities that are not rooted in the Lord by asking the question, "Who does the world say that I am?"  Email us at ashley@rootedinthereallyreal.com with questions, episode topic suggestions, prayer intentions- you name it! Please also subscribe to our podcast, leave a rating, and...

Fr. Steve and Ashley talk about the origins of our true identity, looking to the Father and asking, "who do you say that I am?" We'll be looking at two of the main areas the Lord bestows our identity upon us: Creation and Baptism. Email us at ashley@rootedinthereallyreal.com with questions, episode topic suggestions, prayer intentions- you name it! Please also subscribe to our podca...

Fr. Steve and Ashley talk about imagination from a Catholic perspective and the impact it has on our prayer. There is a sacramentality to our faith that comes alive through the faculty of the imagination that brings about an encounter with the Lord! Email us at ashley@rootedinthereallyreal.com with questions, episode topic suggestions, prayer intentions- you name it! Please also subscribe to our p...

Fr. Steve and Ashley continue discussing Lectio Divina, but in a new way. We can use the principles of Lectio to notice the Lord throughout our whole day. What stands out to us as we reflect on our day? What are the patterns? How does the Lord speak to us? He can speak to us through anything! Are we asking for the grace to notice Him?  Email us at ashley@rootedinthereallyreal.com with questions, e...

Fr. Steve and Ashley talk about Lectio Divina: the Sacred Reading of Scripture and how to apply this method of prayer to our life. During Lectio we read with the heart, not only our eyes. We take some time in this episode to practice praying with a passage of Scripture using these techniques.   Email us at ashley@rootedinthereallyreal.com with questions, episode topic suggestions, prayer intention...

Fr. Steve and Ashley discuss the various expectations we may have for our prayer and the disappointments that follow, as well as how to approach sharing these with the Lord. They also talk about how to deal with distractions, boredom, and perseverance in prayer. Email us at ashley@rootedinthereallyreal.com with questions, episode topic suggestions, prayer intentions- you name it! Please also subsc...

Fr. Steve and Ashley talk about the two plans for your life: God's plan and the devil's plan. God desires relationship with us; He creates big, beautiful plans for us and wants us to thrive. However, the devil seeks out these beautiful plans and creates a forgery, seeking to discourage and deceive.  Email us at ashley@rootedinthereallyreal.com with questions, episode topic suggestions, p...

Fr. Steve and Ashley discuss the role of emotions in prayer, how to grieve, and the importance of deep breathing. Why is it important to notice emotions and relate them to the Lord? How can we notice if we have unrelated grief or pain? What does breathing have to do with prayer? Email us at ashley@rootedinthereallyreal.com with questions, episode topic suggestions, prayer intentions- you name it!...

Fr. Steve and Ashley discuss the foundations necessary to have a fruitful prayer life, including the reality that prayer doesn't depend on us making the first move. The Lord pursues us, calls us by name, and loves us. We don't need to perfect ourselves or clean ourselves up before being able to go to God; He desires us just as we are, in the mess. He receives us perfectly as we are and b...

Fr. Steve and Ashley conclude their discussion on story by talking about how to walk in the spiritual life with the growing awareness of our story.  Encountering our story pivots our perspective on life and gives us greater insight into our purpose and mission. Email us at ashley@rootedinthereallyreal.com with questions, episode topic suggestions, prayer intentions- you name it! Please also subscr...

Fr. Steve and Ashley continue their discussion on story , specifically how to begin processing our story within a culture that constantly invalidates us.  Hint: prayer and relationship is key! Email us at ashley@rootedinthereallyreal.com with questions, episode topic suggestions, prayer intentions- you name it! Please also subscribe to our podcast, leave a rating, and share it with a friend. Thank...

You have a story! Fr. Steve and Ashley discuss story - what is it and why does it matter?  Also, how do we begin to encounter our story?  Recommended resources:  The Place We Find Ourselves podcast by Adam Young The Allender Center Podcast by Dr. Dan Allender  The Allender Center Story Workshop: more info at theallendercenter.org To Be Told: God Invites You to Coauthor Your Future by Dr. Dan Allen...

Fr. Steve and Ashley share a bit of their background and vision for the podcast, including the meaning behind the title: Rooted in the Really Real .