RiseUp - Live Joy Your Way

Kamini would like to take a moment to talk about what’s happening in Ukraine. At the time of this recording, a lot of new information about the war is coming up and she has been feeling very overwhelmed by what’s going on.    What do we do when we feel emotionally drained like this, especially by events that seem so out of our control? If you feel like you’ve been in this state for a very long tim...

Oftentimes we look at self-sabotage as a way to keep ourselves safe. However, we end up keeping ourselves from actually moving towards the goals and what we truly want in our lives. Self-sabotage in its covert way that we keep ourselves from actually living into the goals and dreams that we have and keeping ourselves safe through controlling the fallout.   Self-sabotaging behaviors are generally u...

A relationship with a narcissist usually feels like a constant walking on eggshells and trying to avoid setting off narcissistic rage. Narcissists have an exaggerated sense of self-worth and a lack of empathy where they always have the need to put their needs first. As a result, they have a need to control and manipulate the relationship that makes their partner feel like they can do nothing right...

If we have people in our lives that have a short fuse and find ourselves walking on eggshells around these specific persons, that might indicate an element of narcissistic rage. Understanding narcissistic rage and how to deal with it can help you manage a relationship with a toxic person and protect yourself.   Narcissistic rage is described as a sudden and powerful outburst from narcissists. They...

When we are thinking about how to value ourselves in the workplace, it’s recognizing that we all have things that we might need to improve on but also having a healthy understanding of what our strengths are. When we have a clear understanding of that and accept our strengths and our areas of growth, we can leave room to make mistakes and recognize that we can grow and improve.   A lot of us exper...

No one is perfect and no matter how kind, polite, and friendly we are perceived by others, we do have parts of ourselves that we may not like or necessarily want to show to others. These undesirable aspects of ourselves are referred to as the “Shadow Self.” Once we learn to embrace our shadow self, we can emotionally grow and live with it.   The term shadow self is used to describe those parts of...

Anxiety represents our bodies’ natural response to danger or stress. We all experience anxiety from time to time, however, there are times that these feelings can become persistent and overwhelming. Recently, we also hear that those who suffer from depression can also suffer from anxiety.   But what is high-functioning anxiety? People with high-functioning anxiety can still manage their everyday t...

The line between care/kindness and codependency can often be blurred. How do you really know if you’ve become overly invested in people's lives? When do you know if it’s gotten to unhealthy levels? A great first question to ask yourself is, “Am I always the one available to help and fix other people’s problems even when they don’t ask me to?” Do you sometimes put in extra hours at work or on weeke...

Life can throw us curve balls and knock us to the ground. How can we quickly bounce back and adapt to the situation and what does it mean to be mentally strong?    Mental strength represents our ability and capacity to manage stressors and challenges in life and make most of our strengths. It is a skill and muscle that can be learned and mastered. Building mental strength involves developing posit...

Do you ever feel that you have very little control over your life? Do you feel like everything is always against you? Or that things never turn out good for you? Sometimes, we don’t recognize that we get stuck in a victim mentality. Victim mentality refers to a self-sabotaging mindset that could be formed from trauma or messages we received or experienced in the past. It is a perspective that serv...

Humans are relational beings wherein we have an innate need for social connection and affection. Social connections decrease stress, increase happiness, and can lead to giving us a sense of purpose. In essence, having healthy and satisfying relationships can contribute to leading longer and healthier lives.   An interdependent relationship refers to the deep emotional bond with another that allows...

What is a time thief? These are usually subtle things or distractions that pop up during the day that take you away from your core ‘to-do’ list. This could be things like answering a non-critical phone call, your inability to say no to people, or you finding creative ways to procrastinate like scrolling on social media. If you ever felt like you didn’t know where your day went, this podcast is for...

How often do you find yourself dwelling on the past or the potential dramas that can happen in the future? Truth be told, a lot of us spend most of our waking hours thinking, analyzing and worrying about different issues. Spending too much time thinking about topics that upsets us causes stress and makes us emotionally drained.   To stop overthinking, we first need to understand it. Overthinking i...

As human beings we have an innate need for social connection and community. When we are connected, we are less stressed and we are happier. When things fall on bad times, we rely on our friends and family to help us through these painful moments.    However, with that being said, functional and rewarding relationships do require effort and commitment from both parties. A healthy and productive rel...

Kamini wants to talk about perfectionism on this week’s episode. As a recovering perfectionist, she knows how hard it is to simply just let things go. Kamini has identified five ways perfectionism can show up in our daily lives. The first one being self-oriented perfectionism, which means you have very high personal standards. You give yourself the expectation to be perfect all the time, which is...

How do you actually talk to yourself? Are you someone who has an overall negative talk or are you somewhat more positive? What does the voice inside your head really say about you? Let’s take a deeper dive into this and really notice not just exactly what we’re saying to ourselves but how we’re saying it.   When we’re in a good mood, positive self-talk can actually compound and make you feel bette...

Our beliefs contribute to our mindset, which can trickle down into everything we do and not do. The way we see ourselves and those around us has a big influence on our thoughts, feelings, and behavior. And because of this, it also shapes the reality we are living in and the quality of our relationships.   Many of our core beliefs can be traced back to our early childhood. Those beliefs will contin...

Let’s talk about overthinking! Do you think or replay scenarios in your mind where your thoughts end up being so intrusive that you can’t shut them out? Overthinking can be linked to anxiety and depression. It can also contribute to PTSD and eating disorders!    What causes overthinking? It happens when you can’t stop thinking about an experience or when you just fixate on a feeling. If we overthi...

Are you experiencing procrastination? Do you seem to just keep putting off your tasks so that you can focus on something that’s not as important? To be clear, there is a difference between procrastination and laziness. Laziness involves apathy and us choosing not to act whereas procrastination is the replacement of activities we don’t want to be doing.    For example, sometimes we procrastinate be...

Toxic work environments can cause us to feel anxious, stressed, and can sometimes lead to physical illness. A survey came out that said 30% of workers had experienced bullying at work. Sometimes, we don’t notice the telltale signs, and we think these work environments are just ‘normal’. Kamini sheds some light on what’s unacceptable and what to be aware of if these things are happening to you!   ...

There are different voices in our heads that can prevent us from living a life of true happiness. It’s called self-sabotage and it isn’t always so obvious when these voices are at play. Self-sabotage usually involves a negative mindset that reduces your motivation and hinders your chances for success and happiness.    If you’re trying to move up in life, whether that be bettering yourself or getti...

An attribute that healthy communicators have is the ability to stay curious. If you don’t know how to ask the right question, you discover nothing. The only stupid quesiton out there is the one that hasn’t been asked yet. Asking questions will always be a good thing, and to cultivate that is to be a curious person.   Asking questions can do more than just dig for information, it can build relation...

What are some of the best ways to manage and monitor our emotions? It’s important to strive to a point where your mood doesn’t shift dramatically based on the insignificant actions of someone else. Don’t allow your emotions to overpower your intelligence. The one who has the most self-control has the most power.   When it comes to effective communication, the ability to manage our emotions will gr...

How do we become healthier, more effective, communicators? In last week’s episode, Kamini talked about active and engaged listening to be a better friend and partner. This week, Kamini focuses on non-verbal cues and communication to help you build a better connection.    In fact, the most important thing in communication is your ability to hear what isn’t being said. Most communication is non-verb...

Kamini continues her conversation about communication and building healthy communication skills to help bring your relationships closer. Today, Kamini does a deep dive on how to have a great conversation through the act of honing in on your listening skills.    Listening is an act that requests attention over talent, over ego, and over self! Being a great listener is a vital skill, not just for yo...