RiseUp - Live Joy Your Way

If you have social anxiety, a lot of the time people associate that with shyness or introversion. It can be a bit strange to find out that extroverts might also struggle with social interactions and anxiety. These feelings are not mutually exclusive to one type of person!    We should clarify and define what introversion vs. extroversion is. People who are introverted prefer to recharge when they’...

Let’s talk about conscious parenting. It is very common to go through a rollercoaster of emotions when trying to raise your child, especially if you’re a first time parent. Sometimes we lose our cool and we don’t always react appropriately to a situation.    Kamini recently witnessed a father completely lose his cool and berate his daughter for walking off and out of sight. It can be scary to lose...

Self-care doesn’t mean you have to treat yourself to a lavish spa day or spend large quantities of money to take care of yourself. Your self is as personal and as intimate as you want it to be. A self-care day could simply mean finding low-tier ways to rejuvenate your spiritual, emotional, social, and physical well-being.    We want to think of self-care as a space that you create that allows you...

When we set boundaries, a side effect or a thought that can pop into our heads could be that we’re giving up or walking away from something important, but that couldn’t be further from the truth! When you set boundaries, you’re not forcing someone to ‘stop’ or you’re not ‘giving up’ and resigning, you’re reinforcing what you will or will not tolerate. If that person refuses to listen, then that’s...

Today, let’s talk about conflict! Sometimes, when we do not want to confront something, our people-pleasing traits get activated so that we can move through the discomfort as quickly and as less confrontational as possible. Conflict is scary!    However, it’s important to train ourselves that conflict isn’t always so bad. If we avoid conflict, then we also avoid the opportunity for growth and furt...

Kamini works with a lot of high-functioners and over-givers, and without realizing it, they’re typically primed for covert emotional abuse. This is because whenever something goes wrong, they can feel so, so responsible for the problem and like it was their doing all along. All it takes is to be around someone who doesn’t have the best intentions, and these high-funciones are off to the races with...

Conscious parenting has been making the rounds on social media and whenever it shows up on your feed, there are typically comments below saying that we are raising a soft generation. Is this true? As a parent of five children, Kamini shares her perspective as to why conscious parenting should be the status quo and status norm for how to raise emotionally stable and regulated children.    Kamini is...

With so much information going on in the world, we can feel like we are never able to take a break. This can lead us to have a mental fog that disrupts our clarity. The biggest thing we have to pay attention to is what is taking our energy away from the meaningful things in our lives.   We might be familiar with the external distractions that occur in everyday life. This could be a co-worker stopp...

So many myths get spread across social media, news articles, etc around the topic of anxiety. We like to think that anxiety is only a ‘me’ problem and that we are somehow flawed. The biggest myth that still gets pushed today is that anxiety isn’t a ‘real’ or that it isn’t a very common problem, but that couldn’t be further from the truth!   We all experience anxiety in some shape or form. Granted,...

The inner critic voice will often point out some of our deepest insecurities. It knows what to say, when to say, and how to say it, to get you to spiral and doubt yourself. Some of the inner critic's words might cut deep, but in this episode we talk about how we can lessen the load and be kinder to ourselves.    If we first get curious and ask what’s the intention behind why your inner critic is b...

Words have a lot of power. We sometimes like to believe that actions or physical behavior can carry consequences, and they do, but words should be seen in the same light. Toxic words over time have an effect and can change our brain chemistry or belief system to believe in these false truths. Words have the power to corrode our sense of self. If you’re exposed to verbal abuse, people can 100% beli...

Codependent relationships can be a hard thing to get out of. Even when people are self-aware about how codependent their relationship truly is, they still can’t seem to shake it and remove themselves from the unhealthy dynamic. People find themselves in these types of relationship dynamics because it's a survival mechanism. There is something in this relationship that feeds them and nurtures them;...

Self-esteem, self-confidence, and self-acceptance can show up very uniquely and personally for different types of people, which can make it slightly difficult to define. Self-esteem is how we see ourselves. Our self-esteem can often be clouded by a wide variety of external measurements like societal pressures, unrealistic benchmarks, criticisms, and internal self-doubt. Self-confidence is how we s...

High-achievers tend to have a tendency to be people pleasers and perfectionists, which can create a common pattern of being sucked into highly abusive and/or toxic relationships. When a relationship becomes so toxic, the victim or survivor might take on very aggressive traits and even become toxic and abusive themselves. This is what’s called reactive abuse. Why does this happen and how does it ha...

Let’s talk about grief! Grief doesn’t have to happen whenever a loved one has passed on. Grief can happen when you’ve lost your job when you’ve moved into a new role or identity (motherhood/fatherhood), and so much more. Grief is not as one-dimensional as we might think. In its simplest sense, grief is when we’ve lost something that’s near and dear to us.   Whenever we have a non-death-related los...

When we hear about relationship bonding, we often think about relating to another human in a safe and healthy kind of way. The opposite of that is trauma bonding, where we end up bonding to our person for all the wrong reasons. We end up feeling incredibly attached to someone who ends up harming us.    In these trauma bonds, the victim often feels a strong sense of loyalty to the person who is act...

Do you have trouble making decisions independently? Do you struggle to identify your own needs and wants? Maybe even your own preferences? Do you seek approval and guidance from all the wrong places or from unhealthy ‘mentor’ figures? And, finally, do you feel personally responsible for the individual feelings of your family members?    If any of this resonates with you, you might have enmeshment...

What is self-compassion? Kristien Neff, the lead researcher in self-compassion, gives a three pillar self-compassion framework: Kindness over judgment, common humanity, and mindfulness. Self-compassion is all about practicing gentle kindness towards yourself and the things you do. So often we have an inner-mean critic that won’t let us breathe. A regular self-compassion affirmation practice will h...

People who tend to have overgiving and overfunctioning traits can be easily susceptible to toxic dynamics and relationships with other people. These overgivers are not able to clearly set their own boundaries and often aren’t always aware when they’re own boundary has been crossed.    Even though we might be aware that this person is toxic to us, it can still be incredibly hard to let them go. The...

As you’re going through life and its challenges, emotional resilience becomes incredibly important. We can’t control all of our stresses, but we can control how we show up for the things that do stress us out. When we increase our emotional resilience, we are able to show up for others in a healthier and calmer way.    People high in emotional resilience are able to notice their emotions but not g...

The word ‘boundary’ is coming up a lot, especially in pop psychology, that it can become overused or even weaponized by the wrong people. We keep thinking about boundaries, but what does that actually mean and are we indeed using (and acting) on this term correctly?    When it comes to setting boundaries, do you continuously get upset that people are violating them or simply just not respecting yo...

Have you ever heard someone in your family or even a friend/coworker say, "It's not me, it’s you.” Or even shift blame and fault onto you when you were just a bystander? This is a classic tactic that narcissists do to shift the ‘bad’ spotlight away from them and onto you. They might even use misdirection to change the topic entirely so that they confuse you and put you in a defensive state.     Pe...

As the holiday season rolls around, it’s important to spot some tell-tale signs that a narcissist might be baiting you into drama. Remember, they thrive off chaos and the ability to control the narrative/dynamic. When they feel a loss of control, they’ll use subtle or not-so-subtle tactics to get an emotional reaction out of you.   Some of these might be deliberately insulting you or touching on a...

Shame has a tendency to come up a lot in our everyday lives, but so few of us actually recognize it as internalized shame or guilt. For example, we might not want to show up publicly on social media; even if it’s for a good cause like in support of a friend, your personal brand, or charity. We feel icky to even be posting. This is a form of shame that can be much more hidden and subtle.   What’s t...

Compassion and empathy tend to overlap, but they are both very different and it’s important to understand this difference; especially when it comes to setting boundaries. Empathy is the ability to put yourself into somebody else’s shoes and feel what they might be going through or even try to experience what they’re going through.   Compassion, on the other hand, involves recognizing someone else’...