Ride with Nbs Malay

I went to a retreat called, “The Pink Party” hosted by @gurltheretreat ! I know my purpose is to speak my pain to you to help us all heal together. I learned at the retreat that I must execute that plan and continue being BRAVE by being VULNERABLE. At first, I thought I was releasing too much, but the truth is... I’ve been silent for too long and I don’t care about how any other soul feels about i...

As you know, life is not easy. Most of the time your friends can’t help you and other times you may feel like people don’t care enough. Well, that’s how I’ve felt. But I do care about myself enough to get the healing I deserve after so much hurt and pain in my life. I know I’m not the only one going through this, so I don’t mind sharing my process. I believe one day... my happiness will be genuine...

Talk about a “fuck boi”... eh—that’s not very nice, Malay. That’s actually shady af. Nah. Real shyt... there was pros and cons to it. I guess you’ll have to listen to find out. This is the first time people sent in questions for me to answer. So, that means people care about what I have to say! I can’t apologize for this episode being so long... it’s worth it!!!! Peace.

Yerrrro—talk about bad blood. Like, how do things be so great one second and the next it’s like—uuuuh...? I spoke about ambivalent relationships and holding on to people that need you. But I changed my mind. Lol. It don’t always work out that way!!! You need you more than anybody else. I am slowly starting to realize that. I am a gem. I would be mad if I lost me. But what do you think? Should I ha...

It’s always good for people to see things from a different perspective. Judge people all you want, as you should, but give them a chance to explain who they are. It’s not that we have to explain, but we choose to give you our reason. Do you know what a renoB is?

Can I be real with you? Can I tell you a secret? I honestly don’t care what anybody thinks about me after this. I am human... I’m a real person. Real people go through real things like depression and some people take the worst route. My routes haven’t always been straight and narrow. I fell a few times... got off track... ran out of gas while I drove down this lane... but I am the only one respons...

Where do we go from here? When do we put an end to our own pain? When is it okay to lean on somebody else? Is it possible to love and not lose? Don’t pity the single folks... we can be in a relationship if we wanted to. But I refuse to be in a relationship that isn’t worth it. I want someone to think about me all the time and call me. Text me good mornings and goodnights. I don’t want to be kicked...

Do you think a person can love more than one person? I’m not saying you can justify it, I’m just looking at views. If you were to agree with someone’s side to it, how would you feel? What would you say? Can you ever see yourself in a polygamous relationship if you benefitted the most?

Going through a lot, I guess. Venting about it and reading articles helps me. It sucks to be in a mood and feel like you can’t switch it. Who helps you through it? A lover? A friend? A therapist? Everybody needs somebody or something. I have pen and paper— pretty much all I need. But, I’ve got to release. I need my friends! My creatives! We gotta help each other through it. If I ever said I would...

Do we ever talk about the journey through co-parenting? 🤔 Let me just share a little personal story with you. It took forever to feel this comfortable and it took forever to understand that I am not his only “‘mother” figure. How does it make you feel?

We came from talking about kids needing father figures in their life to some unspeakable thangs lol. No... you really have to listen in. It’s always fun talking with Eb and Nugget! 🤗

Eh—Don’t you just hate talking about this? Losing people in your life. Like... for what? Why does it have to be that way? But people come and go... all the time... it’s life. We’re human! Our job is to just BE THERE, I guess.

Sometimes we don’t know how to ask for help. Sometimes we want to keep our business to ourselves. Most times we’re sure people won’t understand. Other times we don’t give people a chance to listen. We are what we eat. We are what we tell ourselves we are. If you believe you’re a failure... you ARE. If you believe you’re a winner... you ARE.

We are going to have so much fun tonight! We are going to enjoy so much talent tonight! And we are going to create so much peace tonight! Make sure you come out and don’t miss the vibes!

Fun with Friends

So many people feel they know it all. They feel like they can just glance at a person and they know their entire life. You don’t know anything about a person because of photos, social media and the things people say about them. And you have no right to tell a person how they should be either. We accept people for who they are and the better person they will become in life. It starts there.

Play games and end up talking bout threesomes lol so unexpected! Hahaha

Just friends and me up at almost 3 am still drinking and chilling !!! Fun and the best conversation!

Sometimes we feel discouraged—but that’s okay. That’s what we have each other for! I will lift you because I know you would do it for me. There is no time for discouragement!

Everything happens for a reason, right? Wrong! Well, I’m my opinion... but let’s talk about it... let’s talking about losing love that wasn’t meant to be lost. Let’s talk about avoiding regrets and let’s talk about forgiveness and how to become better... Thanks for listening.

I often wonder why people hate their skin color. I created this piece(peace) to remind us of what our skin tone means—how people would love to be a different tone while you are hating it. People are bleaching their skin to be lighter while others are burning their skin to be darker. Why can’t we just be happy with how we were made? You don’t get to choose your skin tone because then you lose a par...

Great open mic turn out... it’s always good to release negative emotions to develop positive ones. Make room for love! Make room for peace and strength! We can build and be free. Talk to others to stop painful emotions or let it go at an open mic.

We’ve all worked super hard on something and didn’t get what we expected at least once in our lives. But if we stopped there, then what? Sure, we have each other. But what good is that if we aren’t confident within ourselves.

I don’t believe that you should completely let go of negative people in your life. Because maybe those negative people need you. Maybe negative people are put into your life because you need to teach them how to be positive. You don’t want to regret letting go.

Self-love is awesome, yasss! But what happens if we add 1 to our 1? I believe we should meet half-way!