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We tend to sabotage our own happiness when finding love because we project our past relationships onto our new relationships; which causes us to attract out past hurts.

Women I want you to understand something, you are the prize! Enough said! You are the backbone of men; we need you to survive and vice versa.

Sometimes we are so hard on ourselves when our dating life and relationship life doesn't go as plan and it puts us in this mood of saying F#@& It; that's ok but we can't stay there. Don't let others Insecurities control your outcome.

More often than not, I find most people that is on their journey to find love; they are infatuated with the idea of love which causes them to be pushed further and further away from their designed partner.

More often than not, I see so many women chasing behind a man that does add any value to their lives; vice versa with men as well. And the intentional chase and pursuit is not reciprocal.

Ladies you are meant to be found not you searching. Trust the process and not rush the process on this journey. Do not force the hand.

Truly our words subconsciously have a make or break outcome over our love life and what we attract into our lives.

We have conformed to the mindset of just settling in this dating and relationship space for the sake of saying that I have a warm body next to me at night; which causes us to delay blessings in this space.

On this journey of finding love, we tend to negate the red flags along the way and we begin to settle by looking the other way.

Oftentimes we negate the red flags in hopes of change, but the change never comes and the words never line up with the actions. How we Navigate through that?

How many deposits are you making into your relationship and are deposits being reciprocal. Oftentimes, we become numb to acceptance of the constant withdrawals in our life; it becomes a norm. We have to command the value we are worth.

We tend to rush the process in finding and searching for love to speed up the timing process. In doing this we continue to push ourselves further away from the person we are meant to be with.

We focus so much on searching for Mr/Mrs. Right in our love life, that we negate the preparation it takes to receive them or attract them into our lives.

We sometimes lose ourselves in our dating experiences or relationships for the sake of others. In doing this we begin to forget that we are individuals first and we question our value.

If you really zone in and focus on your process and not just the fact of being lonely, you can really find clarity on the Why!

Sometimes in order for you to make it through the low moments and lonely moments we have to get to the point of enriching ourselves; even when other don't.

We pray and ask God to send us true love or send us someone that will appreciate us, but ask yourself are you in position or prepared to receive what you prayed for.

Oftentimes when we have experienced trauma and hurt in relationships and throughout the dating process, we begin to question our value and state of being a priority.

Oftentimes we lose sight of being intentional about the process of dating. We try speed up the process to fast track outcomes, but in reality it messes us up mentally.

Oftentimes we are to content with our norm dating and in relationships, but yet continue to stay on the same roller-coaster of hurt. In order to attract something different we have do things differently.

Every decision that we make in our dating life has a consequence attached to it; whether good or bad.

Sometimes when we feel that we are ready to move on in this journey of dating or relationship process, we tend to us others to mask our hurt; which actually causes us to fall for the triggers of our past.

Oftentimes in this process of finding love and dating, we hang onto the words of a person moreso than their actions.

Oftentimes when we are going through our tough times in our relationships, dating experiences, and breakups; we tend to let a person control our emotional happiness in this regard.

In every situation that has taken place in our lives, dating experiences, and in our relationships there are lessons that we need to learn. What are yours?