Retrain your Brain for success

Sometimes, if we have grown up being a "fixer" for whatever reason, that becomes a strategy for getting praised, avoiding trouble and getting on with others - and it works, people like someone who can solve their problems, but do it too much (for other adults) and they come to rely on you, they may take advantage of you, and they also never learn to empower themselves.  This podcast expl...

I cannot guarantee these will work, and neither am I offering legal advice, but in this episode I break down my approach to making a complaint which has enabled me to achieve mainly satisfactory resolutions/refunds/compensation - without the need to resort to the courts or other formal action. #howtocomplain #makingacomplaint #takingaction 

Feeling unseen? If we have grown up learning to supress our needs, we can become very good at seeing them in others, BUT ALSO less good at asking for what we need ourselves.  This leaves us thinking - I'm so good to everyone, why don't they see me?  Sadly, what you may need to do is learn to voice what you need, or at least don't make it seem so easy if you're doing something &...

If you are giving and giving and giving because you believe it's the right thing, but you're exhausted and you're getting little in return, perhaps it's time to change the value a little to something a bit more discerning.  This podcast explains why we do that, and how we can start to make healthy tweaks. #values #acceptancandcommitmenttherapy #selfworth 

Using a reflection on my near acceptance of a potentially dangerous situation...because I really wanted it to work out as an example, I look at why we ignore red flags.  If we are choosing to do this, we need to ask ourselves - how much of the potential consequences are we truly willing to get used to? #redflags #usedcar #selfawareness

Being a high/over achiever is not necessarily a compliment, especially if that is your only focus.  While learning is wonderful, and it's important to grow, this podcast gives you ways in which you can press pause and reflect on how far you've come, which gives you a much more solid foundation to build further (as opposed to doing so - in case someone tells you you're not enough!!)...

While convenience is all well and good for the things that you are indifferent to, don't let it rob you of pleasure.  Yes, the time and effort it takes to see the people you love or to do the things that make you feel fantastic may not always seem worth it, but they are going to be far more meaningful than a lifetime of "meh" #convenience #maketheeffort #selfvalue #worthit

Are you a bit of a "drama queen" - do you always seem to be solving everyone's problems...and is there a bit of a love/hate feeling about that?  This podcast explains why we might feel that way and what we can do about it. #thefixer #whiteknightsyndrome #chaoticenvironment #reinforcement 

If we don't role model wellbeing or expressing emotions in a healthy way - how can we expect our children to?  This podcase episode offers simple tips and tools to support children in expressing emotions as well as healthy self-soothing to build empowerment and self-efficacy. #wellbeing #children #selfefficacy #empowerment #selfsoothing 

This episode is about recognising that if we can draw from our own strengths we can BOOST what additional help we may have.  Too often our pasts may have shaped us into something we believe is who we are...but that may not be true.  Identify what YOUR authentic needs are with the prompts in this podcast, and start to reshape your life - YOUR way. #empowerment #selfhelp #changeandgrowth 

While we know "the best things come to those who wait" - the world seems set up to make us want things now now NOW.  Understand why, and use these tips to take a moment to press pause before jumping in too fast to something which might have been all the sweeter if you'd just waited a little while.  #impusivity #benefitsofwaiting #presspause #ideallife

In part a reflection on one of the charity events I did - a karting race - with The Lewis Foundation, but very much a recognition of the true value of a gift.  Often given short shrift as "materialistic" - gifts can actually be so much more.  They are a real expression of love wrapped up in a package, and that is the most meaningful thing of all.  I look at how gifting can also include t...

Are you a morning person?  How do you feel about a date before work!?  In this episode I reflect on the pros and cons of this new trend as well as offer some tips on making it as safe and conducive to relationships long term as possible!

Sometimes it's not about the ability to spin straw out of gold, with a better spinning wheel your output might be even greater.  While we commonly say " a bad worker blames their tools" - sometimes it really is that the tool needs to be improved/  How can a business hope to go online if the WiFi cannot sustain that, or how can someone be expected to work from home if they aren'...

I reflect on both my interview with the Hope Centre CEP, Robin Burgess and my own experience of sleeping "rough" in "The Big Sleep Out" to really shed some light on the "business of being homeless".  It isn't necessarily mental ill health or drink and drugs that CAUSE homelessness, but it can be a by product of the hugely traumatic experience.

The content of this episode was created as part of a collaboration with VANQUIS BANK on financial compatibility.  This looks at how behaviours around money can cause problems in relationships - not just because of the real consequences, but also because they can reveal attitudes and values when it comes to everyday actions.  It includes red flags to be aware of and things to be mindful of if a par...

We may watch scam programmes to gain insight into behaviours and think "it'll never happen to me" - but the reality is, in the context of life, we may not be thinking clearly...or worse our emotional draw is so strong that our logical mind looks for things to SUPPORT our view rather than question it.  Here are some of the scams to be aware of and some little prompts to help you be m...

When we jump to conclusions we are only ever working on our own perceptions of life.  If we take the time to ask why, not only will we learn more about the person, but we may also learn more about the world in general.  Asking not only boosts our interactions, but it also boosts our cognitive empathy as we learn about the perspectives of others which we may never have experienced ourselves. #empat...

This is a lovely little podcast which looks at 3 ways you can spread positivity with those you love - sharing good news, sharing gratitude and sharing time.  Each of the elements comes with a challenge that you can put into practice right now! #sharepositivity #informalwellbeing #gratitude #positivepsychology

Talking is a performance skill, it gets easier with practice.  So despite being told "it's good to talk" in this podcast I look at why it's so difficult, and how we can not only become better at expressing what we need to, but also how we can become better listeners for others trying to find their voice! #goodtotalk #speakup #communicationskills #listeningskills

It's Dr Audrey Tang back again with her practical ways we can boost our sense of wellbeing every day.  It doesn't need to be a formal therapy session, there are loads of little things we can do regularly that can build our positivity.  This podcast gives you simply tips for joy which come from positive psychology which studies the science of happiness. #positivepsychology #everydaywellbe...

Founder of Welltory, the app which can advise on your wellbeing through your phone camera talks about the importance of knowing some of our health stats for overall wellness, not just improving our fitness. #wellbeingapps #wellness #welltory #fitnessapps

Rob Hobson gives us his tips for choosing supplements, and discusses the benefits they can have on our physical goals. #fitness #supplements #healthspan

Eve Palinski of University Liggett School, Michigan discusses why it’s so important to balance support and empowerment as young people grow up – she also talks about “snow plough” parenting which can do more harm than good long term.   #education #wellbeing #supportforyoungpeople 

Alessandra Bester founder of social enterprise Nono Cocoa talks about her work in giving those sometimes marginalised visibility and employment – and we hear from Gemma and Gaby – two of her team who have a diagnosis of autism.   #autism #diversity #inclusion #employment