Results & Relationships

We all need to bond, from our first ever second to all of them throughout life. Especially when doing new, insecure things. I personally believe introverts also needs this. We just bond to different things. When I was young I was going thru a nightmare for years (from some perspectives, other parts where OK) and … Continue reading We all need to bond to something →

Teambuilding story – Why Bother with Relationship Power? I guess we all have to find out our own reasons for leading the way we lead, but here's some thoughts about why I behave like I do. I love taking the initiative. I love helping others. I love inspiring myself and other to courage. I also … Continue reading Teambuilding story – Why Bother with Relationship Power? →

How to leave the table when there is not enough love coming from it? I believe in sharing the knowledge, power, compassion, courage, generosity and most stuff around that but there can be no power of any kind without saying no when you feel its required. But its also very important to know when its … Continue reading How to leave the table when there is not enough love coming from it →

Dont Fix it if it aint broken – listen for what others REALLY want fixing – otherwise its just about you, and that is rarely the best way to build Relation Power with anyone. Its important to let go of our own ideas. Even if you know you're helping its very easily that we come … Continue reading Dont Fix it if it aint broken →

Guessing takes energy from Relationship Power. Don't make others guess what you do for work, and who you do it for and primarily what THEY get out of it. Also aim stand out by a unique answer  not just the same lull like everyone else. Yes that means more work now thinking the answer up … Continue reading Guessing takes energy →

The Power of rest continuned. My podcast recommendation for today: Michael Hyatt Michael Hyatt is talking about the power of rest. Its so important to get sleep and exercise.. Michael is doing a way better job than I did half a year ago in explaining the benefits so please go listen to him and take … Continue reading The Power of Rest. Sleep more – Archive more →

How full is your bucket? Be mindful of the words you use internally to yourself as well as to others, Words are more powerful than we think of. Try to give energy to those around you and yourself every day   Book Recommendation: How Full Is Your Bucket? http://strengths.gallup.com/114079/Full-Bucket.aspx

Gamification at work if you simplified your work into just a few rules… What would those be?  Just the top ten most important things and ways to archive them? I understand that life and work is complex things, but try to zoom out by making a game out of it. How would the metrics be … Continue reading Gamification at work →

Quite often I find myself thinking "oh there's a ember glowing under there, should i help ignite it? Help light the passion?" Its my own curiosity mixed with my deep-rooted urge to help others grow, help others into insight, help others to get rest and regeneration, help others to passion. When you hear something touch … Continue reading Fan the flame – awaken the spark →

Everything Gives Feedback – Boardgames are excellent examples for becomming aware of your own patterns and figure out how to transform those insight into "in real life" Learning is a choice. You can learn from whatever you are doing. The only time we dont learn is when whe decide not to. I love board games … Continue reading Everything Gives Feedback – Boardgames are excellent examples →

That Other Way often works Just Fine – Continued Some listeners requested I add a few more thoughts to a previous  cast since they said the original really helped them connect and get more accomplished by doing so. So I hope these thoughts will help you and others as well.

Help others just because you can and want to. I belive in a world of helping others for no other reason than the strong should help those they can. And we all have som strong area and no one has only strong areas. But its important that we help for our own reasons, without expecting … Continue reading Help others without expecting anything back →

Last Thursday I released something sub-par. It was my podcast on team-building that WE feeling. And the thing is, i don't even know if most of you noticed that the outro was cut off a few seconds and that I myself didn't think I added "that much value" to you that I aim to do. … Continue reading the balance between kindness to one self and stretching one self →

Building a team isnt just about the big actions to form it, its also the very small repetetive gestures that affect the "we/us feeling" the most. Dont underestimate them, make sure you include small things every day instead of waiting for that big team kick off that will "solve it all" … And help other … Continue reading Teambuilding – building a WE feeling →

Easy for you might not be easy for others. Just because its easy for you, dont take for granted that its easy for others. Look for the Positive intent! It might not be due to disrespect its "not finished". They're "not getting it". Its not done "your" way. It could just be plainly due to … Continue reading Easy for you might not be easy for others →

We can learn more about ourselves using anything. I'm a computer gamer and love healing people but you know what? most often its the ones that ask the most for HEALS that doesn't learn to avoid the need in the first place. And once your out of power to keep helping them they blame you … Continue reading HEAL ME plz plz →

You need Results in order to grow power. Otherwise, eventually, the powerful people will not invest their time and other resourses with you. Help others get there results done. Help them complete their missions. Their plans. Their delivery promises to their managers or themselves. Doesn't have to be much or taking much from you. Could … Continue reading People AND Results →

Most of the successful people I know say it's mostly due to small repetitive progress. Don't wait for that huge one thing that will make ALL the difference. Start doing anything, however small, TODAY!   And help others see the value of what they are already doing, even in the smallest of things. If you … Continue reading Embrace Reality – small progress is progress too – help others see theirs →

Unmet needs and your expectations Unmet needs and your expectations. You have to own your own expectations, because no one else but you can give you want you one. No one else has walked in your shoes for the length of time you have. We all have un-met needs, but when those repeatedly carry over … Continue reading Unmet needs and your expectations, only you can own your own expectations →

When to talk and when to not… Choose active listening to build power with awareness Listening is, according to my humble opinion, by far the most effective Relationship Building action you can take. One of the times when it can be really good to just shut up is when you're invited to a demo of … Continue reading When to talk and when to not.. Choose active listening to build power with awareness →

The Power of Positivity within – to yourself and others   Be positive. As much as possible. Manager Tools, of whom I am a big fan say "start with 3 months positive feedback" BEFORE going into what can be perceived as negative. Positivity is the only real way to encourage someone to want to listen, … Continue reading The Power of Positivity within – to yourself and others →

Fear is natural – Showing vulnerability will connect you – to yourself and to others Honor your fear. Listen to it. Trust it. But do what you can not to let it define your reality. Fears unvoiced often are much worse remaining shadows then when we talk about them and illuminating them. ..And … Continue reading Fear is natural – Showing vulnerability will connect you →

Todays episode is more philosophical in nature than most of my previous ones. I hope you enjoy it and that it helps you shift perspective, encouraging you to take action today – For a better future for yourself and those close to you soon. This is from a "positive outlook" its not about surrendering to … Continue reading Everything decays – What actions do you take for what effect? →

What Game Are you Playing? Learn the Rules Beyond it

Dare to be a beginner again. You will find you inspire others AND become clearer to others on what you excel at by being clear of what you know very well and what you are a beginner at. That you also show as en example by taking action connects us all on a deeper level … Continue reading Dare to be a beginner again →