Resiliently Rising Podcast

In this episode, Carrie sits down with licensed clinical nutritionist Devon Ragan to explore what really happens in your gut, hormones, and nervous system when you’ve lived through chronic stress and trauma. Devon shares her own story of burnout and loss, the link between trauma, IBS, autoimmune issues, and “mystery” symptoms, and why so many women are dismissed or misdiagnosed even when their bod...

Episode Summary: In this episode, Carrie and David unpack why so many communication breakdowns aren’t actually about saying the wrong thing… they’re about what’s happening in the nervous system. They explain what happens in the brain and body during conflict, why survival responses like fight, flight, shutdown, and fawn take over, and how betrayal trauma adds another layer of sensitivity and fear...

If you’ve ever wondered, “Why can’t I calm down? Why can’t I feel safe? Why does my body feel like it’s always bracing?” — this episode will finally give you the answers your nervous system has been trying to tell you. Carrie and David break down the three core things every nervous system needs to feel grounded… and how betrayal shatters each one. You’ll learn why your brain won’t stop spinning, w...

In this episode, Carrie sits down with Dr. Debi Silber, founder of the Post Betrayal Transformation Institute. Together, they explore why betrayal is unlike any other trauma—and what it really takes to move from shock and survival into genuine healing, self-love, and transformation. Debi shares how her own betrayals led to the discovery of the five stages from betrayal to breakthrough, an evidence...

In this episode, Carrie and David dive into what it really means for the body to feel safe after betrayal — and why that sense of safety can’t be forced, faked, or found through willpower alone. Through a powerful metaphor, they explore the unseen ways you subconsciously experience safety or danger. They share honest stories from their own healing, moments of tension and tenderness, and insig...

In this episode, we break down denial and betrayal blindness, two common responses in betrayal trauma that can make it hard to recognize what’s happening even when the signs are there. We explore how the nervous system chooses protection and attachment over awareness, and why both the betrayed partner and the partner acting out can struggle to see the truth clearly. We talk about the role of gasli...

Carrie talks with trauma and addiction psychotherapist Jan Winhall , author of Treating Trauma and Addiction with the Felt Sense Polyvagal Model. They explore how trauma lives in the body, why self-destructive behaviors are survival responses, and how safety—not shame—is the key to healing. Together, they discuss betrayal as a root wound, rebuilding safety in relationships, and how reconnecting wi...

In this episode, we unpack what to do when one partner seems “all in” on healing after betrayal and the other looks hesitant. We explore some of the reasons for this mismatch, and you’ll learn three practical moves to navigate it. Note: this conversation is for couples where both partners genuinely want to rebuild; chronic dismissiveness or defensiveness needs a different approach.   Connect...

In this episode of Resiliently Rising , Carrie and David walk through the Gottman Institute’s three-phase Revival Method for healing a relationship after betrayal—Atone, Attune, and Attach. They share how each phase rebuilds trust, emotional connection, and intimacy, weaving in their own lived experience to make the roadmap feel practical and hopeful. Carrie also introduces her new course, Rebuild...

Noticing someone’s attractiveness isn’t betrayal—it’s human biology. In this episode, we unpack the difference between a neutral glance and lingering/objectifying, why the betrayed partner’s nervous system can go on high alert, and how couples can co-regulate in the moment. We share simple tools that rebuild safety through consistent “trust bank” deposits. Hopeful, practical, and research-informed...

Episode Summary: In this episode of the Resiliently Rising Podcast , Carrie and David dive into a raw listener question: Can a marriage be repaired without forgiveness or trust returning? Together, they explore the difference between patching a relationship and truly rebuilding, the toll of living in a guarded nervous system state, and why “staying for the kids” may not provide the safety parents...

In this episode of The Resiliently Rising Podcast , Carrie and David unpack the phrase “once a cheater, always a cheater” and explore why it feels protective—but can actually keep both partners stuck. They share personal insight, the neuroscience behind real change, and a more helpful reframe: “An unhealed cheater will remain an unhealed cheater.” Whether you’ve been betrayed or are working to reb...

Episode Summary: In this episode, I’m joined by my friend, former colleague, and Trauma Trained Somatic Practitioner, Meg Schnetzer, to talk about why healing in isolation keeps so many of us stuck. We share personal stories, explore the power of being witnessed without judgment, and talk about how co-regulation helps calm shame and fear. This is exactly why we created our group coaching space—to...

In this episode, Carrie and David speak directly to the ones who’ve caused harm—offering an honest, compassionate look at what it means to feel the weight of shame and still choose to grow. They unpack the difference between wanting forgiveness and becoming someone who is ready to receive it, and share personal insights about the quiet, steady work of repair. If you’ve ever wondered how to rebuild...

After betrayal, even moments of calm can feel threatening. In this episode, we explore why it becomes so hard to trust yourself, how protective parts show up to shield you, and what true intuition actually feels like. Using the 8 C’s of Self from Internal Family Systems, we’ll help you begin to tell the difference between fear and knowing—and share practical tools to reconnect with your inner wisd...

After betrayal, it’s not just trust in your partner that breaks—it’s trust in yourself. In this episode, Carrie and David explore the three core pillars of rebuilding self-trust and why this inner work is essential to healing. They share personal stories, somatic insights, and practical ways to reconnect with your inner knowing after it’s been shattered. Whether you're walking this path alone or a...

After betrayal, one of the hardest and most haunting questions is: How do I know I can trust them again? In this episode, Carrie and David unpack what trust really means after it’s been broken—beyond just behavior change and apologies. They explore the difference between sobriety and recovery, how the nervous system responds to safety, and the subtle signs that trust might be starting to rebuild....

In this episode, we unpack one of the most misunderstood parts of healing after betrayal: boundaries. We explore what boundaries really are (and what they’re not), how they help us stay connected to ourselves and each other, and why they often feel so uncomfortable—especially in the aftermath of broken trust. Whether you’re learning to set boundaries, honor them, or receive them with less defensiv...

In this episode, we’re diving into the world of triggers—what they are, why they feel so intense, and how they’re connected to the body and nervous system, especially after betrayal trauma. We share personal stories of being blindsided by triggers and explain what’s really happening beneath the surface when you suddenly feel like you’re right back in the pain. You’ll walk away with a deeper unders...

In Part 2 of this conversation, we’re continuing to explore the common mistakes couples make when trying to rebuild after betrayal—because awareness really is the first step toward doing things differently. We talk about the impact of overpromising and under-delivering, using betrayal as leverage, neglecting your own healing, and why grand gestures don’t rebuild trust—consistent actions do. If you...

Part 1 of 2: Rebuilding a relationship after betrayal is possible, but it’s also incredibly complex. In this episode, we’re sharing four of the most common mistakes couples make during the healing process that can actually slow down or sabotage trust repair. We talk about why acknowledging the betrayal matters, why rushing healing backfires, how avoiding hard conversations creates more disconnecti...

In this episode, we unpack what it really means to prioritize your nervous system in relationships—especially after betrayal trauma. We explore the difference between safety and comfort, self-abandonment vs. healthy compromise, and why true healing and connection require discomfort. We also talk about people-pleasing, setting boundaries, and the deep fear of being “too much”—and how learning to st...

In this episode, we dive into why talk therapy alone isn’t always enough—especially when it comes to betrayal trauma. We talk about how the nervous system is the lens through which we see everything, why your body responds before your brain does, and what it really means to be a bottom-up being. We’ll break down the science in a simple way, share personal stories, and explore how somatic work help...

In this episode, we break down what betrayal trauma really is—and why it runs so deep. It’s not just about affairs. Betrayal can come through secrecy, emotional disconnection, broken trust, and more. We’ll talk about how betrayal trauma impacts the nervous system, creates an inner tug-of-war, and why healing isn’t just about thinking differently—it’s about feeling safe again in your body. If you’v...

Episode Summary: In this first episode, we’re sharing some of our story - where we started, what we’ve been through, and what brought us to this place of healing. We’ll talk about betrayal trauma, disconnection, the impact of unprocessed pain, and our process of rebuilding - both individually and together. You’ll hear how somatic work, mindfulness, and learning to actually feel and express what wa...