ReMothering with Clara Belize Wisner

I touched a tender spot this weekend around not fitting in. I taught an in person workshop and it was a lovely experience but afterwards I found my mind spinning off into stories like “nobody likes me” and how “nobody can see me.”  Which is an old and tired story of mine. It’s a young part of myself that just wants to fit in and be likable.  Teaching the way I teach, because I truly let people fee...

The times I feel victimized by motherhood are few and far between these days.  The first year of my oldest daughter’s life I was victimized constantly.  I got pregnant very unexpectedly with my youngest daughter when my oldest was just 5 months old.  This is when the victimization of motherhood took on an almost moment to moment frequency.  Almost every second I was hit by another wave of blame of...

There is definitely a lot of nuance and bio-individuality when it comes to how much and how frequently a body needs to eat properly raised animal products.  There can be quite a lot of variation from person to person and even throughout different seasons of the same person’s life.  However, eating nose to tail.. eg eating muscle meats but also organ meats, bone marrow, cuts of meat that include bo...

The thing no one wants to hear in the health and wellness world is: it depends. People want hard and fast rules. They want to be able to say this is healthy and this is not. They want to jump on a bandwagon and have it be the bandwagon they are on for life. There are very few rigid, definitive statements about what is healthy I can make at this point in my over a decade experience in the world of...

If there is one thing and one thing only I want to transmit it is: reverence for the sacredness of life. This is my deepest and most compelling practice. Reverence for the sacredness of life sounds “good”.  It sounds really, really “nice” and if you haven’t actually practiced that much with it you might even say to yourself, “oh yes! Life is sacred. I know that,” and think about a baby being born...

I have been really on this thread of the lie of conventional beauty standards. They are, most certainly, a lie. The idea that changing how you look could change how you are is a lie. If you don’t love yourself now, as you are, you will not love yourself 10, 20, 40, or 100 pounds lighter. If you don’t take care of yourself now, as you are, you will not take care of yourself later. Your physical app...

I have been deep in the nutrition and holistic wellness world for over a decade. If you count my obsession with food and exercise since I was about 13, it’s been well over half my life I’ve been trying some sort of diet or attempting to manipulate my body in some way.  A lot of it in my younger years was fueled by a sort of self loathing and desperation to change how I looked and how I was perceiv...

I’ve been in a little bit of a portal as far as haters coming at me online. This comes with the territory. When you put your work online in this day and age you are bound to get trolls, hateful commenters, and jealous people coming into your inbox trying to shut you down. I’m very well prepared for these types of commenters because I’ve been doing this work online for almost a decade now. And actu...

Your family is a co-creation.  I talk a lot about the mother’s responsibility for setting the tone and values of the family, but ultimately the family is a co-creation between all family members. A family is an ecosystem. From the inner nuclear family stretching to all the humans that you spend any amount of time with. It’s all part of a massive web of relationships you are in a co-creative interd...

One of the ways I know I am changing and becoming more and more authentically human is by how much I have softened as I’ve grown older; how much more I allow Life to touch me in real time.  As much as my ego hates to admit this to the public (although I am betting if you know me well, this will come as no surprise to you): My innate nature is soft, open, grounded, and warm.  Being in my presence w...

The Earth longs to feel your feet in her soil. She wants to feel your heart beating against her ground. She wants to hold you while you cry, like a mother rocking her baby. She wants you to swim naked in her rivers and lakes, to float in her oceans. The Earth wants you to remember where you came from, How the thing that makes your heart beat is the same thing that makes her flowers bloom. Nature i...

One of the things I have viscerally learned since becoming a mother is that my body requires my own touch.  We hear a lot about how mothers can get “touched out.” And as a mother who has breastfed for over 3 years straight and tandem breastfed for a lot of that time, I understand how much touch can sometimes feel like another thing constantly pulling on you.  However, touching my own body with lov...

I know in the marrow of my bones that the relationship between mother and child is sacred. And when I say sacred I mean: holy. divine. mystical. Our human minds cannot grasp the depth at which mother needs child and child needs mother. There is not one without the other. If you are a mother. You know. You can feel it. You have felt the totally unexplainable width and breadth of connection to and w...

It’s been said many times,many ways: how you do one thing; is how you do all things. How you live, is how you’ll die. As above, so below.. and on and on. This principle and energetic law I’m pointing to is one of those truths that is paradoxical and seemingly too simple for the ego to fully grasp. But it’s got the clunk and resonance of truth you can feel in your body and if you’re reading this I...

In our current culture, there is a deeply underdeveloped understanding of what love and service are.  Being of service is truly the deepest form of self love.  It is saying, I have something to give the world with my being. I have something to offer. Who I am and the way I am, matters and is medicine for the world.  But we have confused love and service with martyrdom. We think to be of service we...

Two nights ago I went to bed too late. I have a pattern I’m well aware of that if I don’t get to sleep before 10:30pm I will not be able to fall asleep easily and my sleep will be more disrupted the whole night. There is a very physical reason for this. Around 11pm our bodies have a cortisol (stress hormone) spike because of the energy our liver needs to preform its very important work while we sl...

I’ve recently been touching a deep grief filled stillness within me that is related to motherhood. I have been incredibly fortunate in my life. Growing up I never doubted I could be whatever I wanted to be.  I remember in 4th grade we got an assignment to write about what we wanted to be when we grew up. I wrote that I wanted to be the first female president. I remember my parents chuckling a bit...

I can definitively say 2022 was the hardest year of my life.  2022 was our first full year as a family four (two under two for a littles less than half of it). There really isn’t any way to explain how challenging this is. If you’ve done it, you know. If you haven’t, you don’t know, although if you have any children, you can imagine.  Starting in January 2022 I began having extreme and unrelenting...

I thought I was built for speed. I thought I was quick, smart, and good at everything that mattered. My mind sharp. My capability unrivaled. My capacity huge. I thought I needed to keep moving, keep doing, keep going, always. Eyes on the furthest horizon. This mindset and blind confidence will get you far in this world and you will be praised. Marry this speediness and socially adept intelligence...

I have been sitting with the word and energetic of integration. The last three years for me have been hugely transformative. I wish I had a word with even more gravity to describe it, because transformative doesn’t really hit the spot. Metamorphosed. Revolutionized. Completely and totally remade, may be more accurate. I was pregnant twice and birthed, completely naturally and in my power, two babi...

There are some everyday moments that will live in your memory forever. I'm not sure why one moment gets cemented in and most others fly away, but as I've sat with why today, I think it’s something about how open and present you are to the sensations and the moment as a whole. Some of these memorable moments tattooed in our minds are painful, others joyous, others seemingly random. The difference a...

Today I spent the morning taking care of things that have been piling up.  We had a big snow storm last week and with it came a big winter and hibernation mode activation.  Sean and I both got sick.   Our nanny wasn’t able to come a few days last week.  We rescheduled and canceled things. We stopped cleaning up as much as normal and just let stuff lie where it landed for a few days.  Sometimes the...

I have this anti-social cynic that lives in me. She wants to point her finger down her throat and make gagging noises and roll her eyes when people talk about ‘sisterhood’ and ‘community.’  She’s all good. She’s totally fine. She doesn’t need a thing.  She is self sufficient. She can hold herself in all situations. And if she does need something from someone, on the very rare occasion, it is going...

Most days I am woken up by some sort of screaming or crying.  Crying baby on the monitor. Crying toddler at my bedside. Baby crying in my bed. Screaming toddler on the monitor.  Admittedly, there are plenty blissful and cute mornings where it’s all sweetness, snuggles and cuddles, as well. And then there are the three or so times in the last 3 years I’ve actually woken up rested and felt like gett...

I always eat breakfast within 30 minutes of waking and before I have any caffeine. If, for some reason, I can’t get my full breakfast within 30 minutes of waking, I’ll eat some fruit while breakfast is cooking. Sometimes I’ll do a yolky milky drink (no caffeine) if it’s going to be closer to an hour after waking.  Eating this close to waking up is imperative if you want to balance blood sugar, hor...