Relationship Truth: Unfiltered

In this episode Leslie and Julie dive into the complex topic of intent and its role in destructive relationships. They explore the distinction between deeply selfish actions and those stemming from misguided theology, mental or physical illness, or past traumas. The discussion highlights whether intent should influence how we process harm and respond within our marriages, even when unintentional d...

RESOURCES: JOIN HERE: Moving Beyond Insecurity Coaching Week Day One Journal App Lundy Bancroft: Why Does He Do That? Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233 (SAFE) In this episode, Julie talks to Kay, a woman who adopted children later in life and dealt with a very destructive marriage. She knew from the beginning there were issues, but chose to try and make it work anyway. Learn from her mista...

RESOURCES: Quick Start Guide - www.leslievernick.com/start Domestic Violence Hotline: 1.800.799.SAFE (7233) In this episode of Relationship Truth: Unfiltered, Leslie sits down with Assistant District Attorney and Adjunct Professor, Molly Catherine Goodson to explore the intersection of faith, justice, and abuse. Molly Catherine shares personal journey and professional insights, discussing how her...

RESOURCES: Leslie's Quick Start Guide: www.leslievernick.com/start If you'd like to ask a question for a future "Ask Leslie" episode, go to www.leslievernick.com/askleslie Questions in this episode: Doesn’t there have to be infidelity, domestic violence or abandonment as a reason for divorce?  8:51 What does it mean to detach and can I detach from my husband who shows contempt for me and dismisses...

RESOURCES: www.leslievernick.com Quick Start Guide 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) Marital Challenges: Rachel describes her passiveness in her marriage, emphasizing the tension between maintaining peace at home and the public persona she had to project. She recounts instances of emotional and verbal abuse from her husband, including public humiliations and controlling behaviors. Custody Battle and Legal Str...

RESOURCES: Dr. Alison Cook I Shouldn't Feel This Way "The Best of You" Podcast Lesllie's Quick Start Guide I. Story: Understanding Emotional Triggers A. Example of anger towards adult child B. Framing emotions: Is it about the other person, oneself, God, or circumstances? C. Importance of recognizing the source of emotions II. Three Practices for Emotional Health A. Naming Emotions 1. Recognizing...

RESOURCES www.leslievernick.com Suicide and crisis hotline: 988 Challenges in Recognizing Unsafe Relationships Dismissing Own Feelings and Needs Fear of Confronting Truth About Relationship Dynamics Addressing Misguided Advice Forgiveness and Forgetting Importance of Remembering Past Actions for Setting Boundaries Illustration: Story of the Songwriter Behind "Amazing Grace" Understanding Need for...

Setting Boundaries and Prioritizing Self-Care 1. Introduction to Boundaries Boundaries are essential for maintaining healthy relationships and self-respect. Understanding the importance of boundaries in various aspects of life. 2. Recognizing Boundary Violations Signs of boundary violations include feeling drained, disrespected, or overwhelmed. Identifying situations where boundaries are being cro...

RESOURCES: Find Joel Muddamalle's books and more at: www.muddamalle.com Find Leslie's books, programs, and more at: www.leslievernick.com   Find Lysa Terkeurst and the Therapy and Theology podcast: www.lysaterkeurst.com/therapy-and-theology   I. Introduction: Setting the Stage Acknowledging the complexity and sensitivity surrounding the issue of divorce and the Bible II. Interpreting Malachi 2:16...

Segment 1: Setting Boundaries with Compassion Leslie emphasizes the importance of setting boundaries for safety without resorting to shaming or demeaning language. Discussing the misconceptions around divorce and the true essence of God's stance on marriage, rooted in love and protection for women. Segment 2: The Journey of Forgiveness Examining the stages of forgiveness and repentance in rebuildi...

In this episode, we dive deep into Marie's inspiring journey of breaking free from an emotionally destructive marriage, finding strength in faith, and building a new life of purpose and empowerment. Part 1: Recognizing Toxic Patterns In the first part of our show, Leslie and Marie confront harmful beliefs perpetuated by society and religion. They discuss the misconceptions surrounding marriage, di...

Leslie interviews Rebecca Davis, author of the Untwisting Scriptures series.  1. The Genesis of "Untwisting Scriptures" Discover the origins of Rebecca's groundbreaking series, sparked by the urgent need to address misuses of scripture in handling sensitive issues like sexual abuse. Learn how Rebecca's journey evolved from social media advocacy to a comprehensive exploration of scriptural interpre...

Defining Self-Esteem and Self-Image Julie poses the question: What constitutes healthy self-esteem, especially from a biblical standpoint? Leslie explores the concept of self-esteem in relation to self-image. Discussion on the formation of self-image through interactions and perceptions, particularly in childhood. Highlighting the role of parental influence and societal standards in shaping self-e...

  The Danger of Pornography: It's not just a biblical issue; studies in psychology and science show the harmful effects of pornography. Pornography can lead to sexual dysfunction, making individuals less responsive to a normal sexual relationship with their partner. Internet addiction, including pornography, is causing societal problems, making people less connected and more self-absorbed. The Obj...

In this compelling episode, we delve into the courageous journey of Amanda as she navigates through tumultuous waters in her marriage, finding strength, and healing amidst chaos. Early Struggles and Expectations: Amanda reflects on the early struggles in her marriage, feeling the weight of societal and religious expectations placed upon her as a wife and Christian. The pressure to maintain a facad...

Understanding Abuse Dynamics: Andrew and Leslie delve into the multifaceted nature of abuse, encompassing emotional, psychological, and spiritual manipulation. They highlight the insidious tactics employed by abusers to exert control and maintain power over their victims, emphasizing the importance of recognizing red flags and setting boundaries. Breaking the Silence: Both hosts underscore the sig...

Podcast Show Notes: Managing Emotions and Conflict Resolution In this comprehensive discussion on managing emotions and resolving conflicts, various tools and strategies are explored to navigate challenging conversations and maintain healthy relationships. Understanding Emotional Responses: The conversation begins by acknowledging the complexity of emotional responses, especially in high-conflict...

Julie and Coach Diana answer all your questions about Walking in Core Strength... and offer valuable insights you can apply to your life today. Understanding Core Strength: Diana explains how Walking in Core Strength focuses on nurturing maturity and rediscovering one's identity rooted in Christ. Unveiling Destructive Patterns: Learn how the program helps women identify and challenge destructive b...

Topic: Reconciling After Separation In this episode, we discuss a question regarding reconciliation after a 34-year marriage marred by issues of pornography and verbal abuse. Despite the challenges, both individuals have made personal progress over the years and are now contemplating the possibility of reuniting. Key Points: Assessing Individual Growth: One crucial aspect is evaluating individual...

In this poignant and candid episode of "Relationship Truth, Unfiltered," Leslie's guest, Mark Savage bares his soul as he shares his extraordinary journey from the depths of a devastating affair to the triumphant rebuilding of trust with his spouse, Jill. Mark takes us through the challenges of personal growth, honest conflict resolution, and celebrating individual strengths within their marriage....

In this podcast episode, Julie Sedenko talks to Traci, a member of Leslie Vernick's Conquer support group, about her experiences in a destructive marriage and her journey towards healing and self-discovery. Traci opens up about her traumatic childhood, raised by a single mother who struggled with addiction and neglect. She shares how her early life experiences, including abuse and gaslighting from...

Welcome to this episode where we tackle the tough topic of sexual addiction. Julie Sedenko chats with relationship expert Leslie Vernick, and they dig deep into the emotions and challenges involved. If you or someone you know is dealing with a similar situation, stay tuned for some valuable insights and practical tips. Understanding Anger: Julie discusses the challenges faced by individuals dealin...

  Advice for Women in Conservative Churches Find a trustworthy female within the church to confide in. Seek someone who embodies godliness and can provide a receptive ear. Avoid putting the burden of finding the perfect words or expression on victims. The Role of Humility in Pastors Pastors must have humility when dealing with abuse cases. Be aware of the woman's perspective if she is to speak to...

  Discovering the Betrayal Dee's life as a pastor's wife and the shock of discovering her husband's affair. The initial emotions of hurt, anger, and confusion. The difficulty of facing infidelity within the confines of the church community. Seeking Support and Clarity Dee's decision to reach out to her pastor for guidance and support. The disappointment of the pastor's response and the need to fin...

God's Love and Plans Encouragement from Survivors Emphasizing God's Love and Divine Plans Overcoming Challenges Staying the Course Trusting God and Finding Hope Freedom and Self-Worth Embracing Freedom and Self-Worth in Christ The Importance of Recognizing Your Value Seek Help and Build Relationships The Power of Seeking Support Building a Support Network Focus on Children Prioritizing Children's...