Relationship Radio: Marriage, Sex, Limerence & Avoiding Divorce

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! Divorce can be as painful and confusing for your children as it is for you. If you've realized "my children won't talk to my spouse," there's still hope. Research from all over the world has proven that marital issues, when children are involved, affect them as well. After divorce occurs, 25% of fathers will no longer see their child afte...

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! Preparing to have a difficult conversation with your spouse can be nerve-racking and stressful. In most cases, you can already assume that they will react negatively to it. Is there anything you can do to make the situation easier? In this episode of Relationship Radio, we’ll discuss the "two Es" of being prepared, environment, and emotion. Dr. Joe Beam...

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! Communication is a vital part of any marriage. But what is communication?  Speaking to each other every day about bills and mundane happenings isn't enough.  So, what do you do when your spouse refuses to communicate with you anymore? Dr. Joe Beam and Kimberly Beam Holmes discuss how to improve your communication skills in this episode of Relationship Radio....

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! What do you do when you're trying to save your marriage only to find out your spouse is in love with someone else? In today's episode of Relationship Radio, Lawrence shares his story of how he found strength to continue standing for his marriage despite his wife still being in limerence. Through introspection, self-improvement, and forgiveness Lawrence...

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! Hate is a strong emotion; it’s intense and passionate. But, we can also define love, especially in its initial stage, using the same words. They are bound together through intimacy, passion, and commitment. But what can you do when your spouse hates you? Is there a way to get your marriage back on the love path? In this episode of Relationship Radio, Dr. Joe Beam...

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! Hearing that your spouse, who you love deeply, hates you can be devastating. But how did that love turn to hate? Is it possible to save your marriage after that? We believe so at Marriage Helper, and today’s episode of Relationship Radio is geared to help you do so. Understanding how intimacy, passion, and commitment lead to both love and hate can guide you down...

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! You’ve decided to end your affair and go back to your spouse. But how do you do it? How honest do you need to be when they ask you details about your affair? Dr. Joe Beam and Kimberly Beam Holmes will give you their five keys to reconciling your marriage from the perspective of the person who cheated. Affairs can cause hurt for both parties involved. Find out how...

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! We at Marriage Helper get a lot of questions about marriage, particularly marriages that are having problems. And people know that one thing we do is that we help people get past extramarital affairs. And as a matter of fact, I have a pretty good record of helping people to do that. And so, a lot of the questions that we get are from the spouse that's been c...

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! While limerence has three very distinct stages, the lines between them can be somewhat blurred. Stage one creates an infatuation with your new limerent object, while stage two crystallizes the feelings you have for each other. Stage three is called deterioration because the infatuation can start to wear off, and you can finally see the flaws. Stage three of limer...

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! While stage one of limerence is about infatuation, stage two is about crystallizing those feelings and knowing that the other person feels the same way you do. The highs and lows continue to an extent, but the feelings turn more toward vilifying their current significant other and pushing them away. Stage two of limerence is when most spouses discover that the af...

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! When people talk about falling madly in love, they’re describing what we in the social sciences call limerence. There are three distinct stages of limerence. We’ll be going through them all, but we’re starting with stage one of limerence on this episode of Relationship Radio. Stage one of limerence is an infatuation, a longing for your emotional connection to be...

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! You’ve worked hard at trying to save your marriage, but that doesn’t always make it work. So how do you decide if it’s time to file for divorce? Everyone’s tolerance for pain is different, and understanding how much pain you can stand is an important part of deciding on divorce. Using the P.I.E.S. method that we teach at Marriage Helper can guide you to knowing y...

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! Can taking your time getting a divorce actually help save your marriage? If your partner is in limerence, the state of being “madly in love” with someone new, waiting out the newness of that relationship could help. There are ways to do this without becoming someone mean or evil in your partner's eyes. The key takeaways, in this case, are to be firm but fair...

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! Watch this video if you are going through a divorce and want to save your marriage.  People file for divorce for numerous reasons. They lose compatibility with their partner; there is a lack of intimacy, or they no longer feel liked, loved, or understood by their partner. People don’t leave what they have unless they believe what they’re going is better. This is...

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! Our culture over the years has changed dramatically. The number of people willing to participate in an affair continues to grow. More men and women are willing to participate in unfaithfulness because the thought is, "This makes us both happy. And even though I know that you're married to someone else, this was meant to be because it makes us feel good...

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! It never feels good to suspect your spouse is cheating on you. Cheating is a form of betrayal to your marriage and your family life. It's such a severe accusation it could disrupt the trust and foundation of your marriage, so it's essential to be 100% sure before you start raising suspicions toward your spouse. If you believe your spouse is cheating on...

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! Learning that your spouse had an affair is an earth-shattering feeling. It leaves open-ended questions like, "where did we go wrong?" Or "What could I have done differently?" Infidelity happens for numerous reasons, and we all play a part in our marriages. Sometimes cheating happens because of internal traumas, resentment, fading feelings, and...

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! If you have divorced your spouse or want to file for divorce, watch this video today. Going through a divorce is hard, but it doesn’t have to be the end of your marriage. Couples separate mainly because one person no longer feels liked, loved, or respected in their relationship. We are here to help you figure out where your marriage went wrong and how you can win...

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! Should you walk away if your spouse cheated on you? We have the answers here for you in this video. We understand the hurt and frustration you’re feeling right now, and no matter how hard you try, you can’t seem to forgive your spouse for hurting you. At Marriage Helper, we are pro-marriage and believe that long-term marriage is worth it, yet, everyone has their...

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! The worst thing about losing your marriage is also losing yourself. Sometimes we've been married for so long that we lose a sense of identity and don't know who we are without our spouse. Today we interview Amanda, a member of our Marriage Helper Community that went through a six-year-long battle with her husband.  They were on the edge of divorce, they...

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! Can You Repair A Marriage After Your Spouse Had An Affair? The answer to this burning question is yes . You can repair a marriage after an affair for a lasting and even stronger relationship than when you were dating. According to research at Marriage Helper, 2 out of 3 couples seek marriage counseling services due to their spouse having an affair, teetering on t...

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! How can you make your marriage better and stronger? Research shows that 33% of married couples want to seek help for their relationship. However, Gottman's research shows that couples wait an average of six years after problems begin to occur in their marriage before they get help. One of the biggest reasons people want out of a relationship is that they fee...

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! It's a fact. Not every marriage is going to make it. However, we wish every marriage would because we are very pro-marriage. In this episode, Dr. Joe Beam and Kimberly Beam Holmes provide points about when it may be the right time to divorce and when it's not the right time. Divorce isn't a decision to take lightly. On the contrary, it's a wei...

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! In this episode, Gemma from the Marriage Helper leadership team has a conversation with  Stephen and he shares his brave testimonial about having multiple affairs and still wanting to save his marriage. This testimonial is about betrayal, heartbreak, self-improvement, and hope.  You'll hear Stephen's truth over the years, where he is at today, and the t...

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! How can you overcome the emotions of an affair?  You can't change emotions just by sheer willpower. Understand that time changes emotions. So the intensity of what you're feeling toward other people will evolve with time. So whatever you or your spouse are feeling towards somebody else right now will not be the same thing you feel three years from now....