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If you and your partner are struggling because one of you peruses connection and desires intimacy, but the other one of you pushes away and highly values autonomy, you might be falling into the anxious-avoidant trap. In this episode we talk about: · What the anxious-avoidant trap is · How to get out of the anxious-avoidant trap · What attachment is · What attachment styles are · Fears that underly...

I know how much it sucks to be distant from your partner, to walk on eggshells wondering if your next step is going to set off a landmine, feeling hurt frustrated abandoned overwhelmed and not sure how to repair. All couples are going to have fights and it's important to learn how to make things better after these fights happen. In this podcast, we talk about · Ways to increase the chances you wil...

I have been obsessed with Love is Blind. Reality TV about Love is my jam. I think I work with couples because I love love… so this show tugs at every heartstring. It is easy to point out things they have done wrong, you don’t need to be a couples therapist to watch and go “ooooofffff bad move”. And if you’re struggling to understand some of the moments that maybe could have gone different, just go...

In this episode, we look at how sleep deprivation and poor sleep health could be negatively impacting everything from your relationship to weight loss. We look at how to improve your overall functioning and relationship through sleep. We cover: · Conditions for your bedroom to sleep better · How much sleep do you need · The relationship between sleep and illness · The relationship between sleep an...

Long distance is hard. · You are lonely. · You do miss each other. · You fight over silly things because you miss each other and you’re sensitive. · You have different expectations for how connection looks, texting, phone calls, and what your in-person time should be like. I get it, my husband and I dated long-distance for 14 months. We would fight about things like: · The appropriate amount of ti...

Has your sex drive changed over time? Maybe menopause is making you feel different in your body and your sexuality has shifted. If you want a new way to think about sexuality and how it changes over the lifespan, this is the podcast for you. In this podcast we cover: ● Ways women’s sexuality changes over the lifespan ● Ways hormones and menopause impact sex drive ● The difference between reactive...

When couples are fighting, they say things like: I would like to feel more connected to my partner I want to feel understood by my partner I’m unheard and getting resentful I’m tired of fighting about silly stuff I’m walking on eggshells to avoid the next heated fight We struggle to find a resolution Tools to improve your communication and prevent fights If you want more help on how to improve you...

Do you want a deeper connection with your partner? Maybe your relationship started out with a close emotionally intimate connection, or maybe you’ve never had it but would really like it. In either case you’re in luck. In this episode Dr. Wyatt Fisher gives practical tools on how to create emotional intimacy in your relationship. In this episode we discuss: - what is emotional intimacy? - what get...

If you’ve wanted to build a deeper connection in your relationship, feel safe with your partner, and repair past hurts, this is the podcast for you. In this episode we discuss: · How to prevent damaging your relationship · Why ask yourself “is this helpful?” · The difference between impact and intention · How to repair your relationship after a rupture · The importance of loving your partner the w...

If you’re in a romantic relationship and found yourself wondering “are we compatible?”, “is love enough?”, or “what if we don’t have chemistry?”, this episode will help you understand the difference between compatibility and chemistry. It will also give you a framework to evaluate if you and your partner have enough in common to be compatible, with or without chemistry. In this episode I discuss:...

Have you ever wondered “why would my partner rather watch porn than be with me?”, or maybe you’ve started to think your pornography use is becoming excessive and aren’t sure how to stop? If you relate to either of these things, this podcast is worth a listen.  In this podcast we discuss: Factors leading to compulsive pornography use The impact of pornography of relationships What to do if you...

What to do to feel closer, have a deeper connection and have conversations that can go on for hours. FREE GUIDE the Emotional Intimacy Cheat Sheet This is a conversation guide with 36 questions designed to help you and your partner deepen your connection through conversation. https://www.emberrelationshippsychology.com/emotional-intimacy-cheat-sheet Click the link to get the free guide. This podca...

In this podcast we cover the top 6 reasons relationships fall apart. Listen up to gain insight on what to watch out for and repair so you can keep your relationship healthy and connected. In this episode we cover: · The ideal ratio of positives and negatives in a relationship · How negative interactions breed more negative interactions · What leads to emotional withdrawal · What happens when you f...

If you’re like me, you probably went to school for 12 years, but never learned a key skill for connection and belonging – communication. Many of my clients tell me they struggle to · share how they feel because they fear their partner will be defensive. · Stay level headed enough to understand the other person’s point of view · Clearly communicate their needs · Feel like their partner cares about...

In this powerful episode, we cover communication strategies to help you connect with the person you love when you’re hurt, how to avoid criticism, and give you practical tools to help you convey your upsets in a way your partner is likely to hear. No one gets into a relationship to have blowout fights with their partner. In this episode, we cover what is beneath the conflicts you and your partner...

This episode is the follow up to episode 73: How sex becomes compulsive or addictive with Liz Lacy. Betrayal Trauma is the impact that happens when there have been repeated betrayals in multiple ways by your partner. It is a “harsh violation of trust by someone you depend on.” This episode is all about what Betrayal Trauma is, the impact of betrayal trauma, and working through betrayal trauma as a...

Relationships require you to let down your armor and expose your heart. Much of the time it doesn’t feel safe to take down your armor. That could be because… · You’ve been betrayed by your current partner in the past · A past partner has broken your trust · Or you grew up in a family where trust was nonexistent and you have never known how. If you know you want a love that feels both safe and free...

In this episode, Stan covers the basics of attachment, the neurobiology of connection, and practical strategies to create a safe and long-lasting love. We cover: · How attachment develops · How attachment impacts future relationships · What attachment has to do with safety and security · What autonomy has to do with attachment · Why people cling · How come people feel not enough or insignificant ·...

No one wants to feel disconnected, misunderstood or alone with the person they love the most. Have you ever noticed you and your partner? · Have blowout fights when all you wanted to do was share what was in your heart? · Can’t stop interrupting each other because you have different views? · Are afraid to share how you really feel and think in case it pushes your partner away or causes a fight? No...

Strategies for Better Communication with Nancy Evan and Scott Aaron.  In this episode do a deep dive into what Nancy and Scott do to nurture their friendship and keep the lines of communication open.  Whether your relationship is struggling because you feel like you’re disconnected, don’t know what to talk about anymore, or struggle to hear what your partner is telling you, there is a nu...

Do you want to stop feeling disrespected and unheard in conversations with your partner? Whether it’s repeat disagreements about your in-laws, sexual intimacy, different personal goals, preferences in housecleaning or the budget, I know it can make your heart pound, your face hot, and your jaw clench. In this episode, we talk about why bother fighting fair. We cover the impact of destructive confl...

If you want to have clarity and purpose in 2022 and feel confident that you can achieve your goals this year, then this episode is for you. Do you relate to this? · Have you ever had your soul whisper to you about something you might like to achieve in the new year? · You started off the new year working towards a goal, but as the days passed by you lost your motivation, or maybe · You feel spread...

Understand how sexuality drives us, how our sexuality becomes problematic or even addictive. In this episode, we especially look at what leads to problematic sexual behaviors, compulsive sexual behaviors or addiction. Topics covered include: ● What is the role of attachment and sexuality? ● When do sexual intimacy problems develop? ● How can attachment heal sexual intimacy problems? ● How to chang...

When couples are feeling unseen, unheard, resentful or unloved they commonly wonder if they are compatible. In this episode, we cover 4 key ideas to consider when you are thinking about your compatibility. 1. Do you have the same beliefs and values about what a relationship is? 2. Are you facing a deal-breaker? 3. Are you willing to learn how to do conflict together? 4. Are you willing to accept/t...

In this episode we are bringing to light the hidden mental load that exists in relationships. Whether it’s remembering doctor’s appointments, booking the dog in for it’s vaccines, or cleaning up the kitchen, there is a way to restore fairness and respect in your relationship. · How to work better as a team. · What mental load is in a relationship. · Tips to explain mental load to your partner. · H...