Reframing Me - Self-Development & Parenting Teens for Midlife Moms

Send us Fan Mail Summer REMIX!!! I'm on vacation this week, but I'm pulling this one out of the archives as a REMIX! Teenagers lie. But don't we all? What motivates us to lie and why do we do it? As parents, we see lying as a moral issue, whereas teens see it as a practical issue - getting out of something or getting to do something forbidden. How do you detect deception and what do...

Send us Fan Mail In case you missed it the first time (or if you're like me and can use some reminding!), it’s time to write a new story. We often don’t realize how hung up we are on past failures, mistakes, heartbreak and trauma. What if we could reframe our story and look at the person who grew from our past. Instead of holding on to what we should have done, can we hold on to what we can d...

Send us Fan Mail In case you missed it the first time (or like me, need a bit of reminding!), here's a favorite of mine. What is your favorite version of you? What does she look like? Talk like? Act? How does she walk into the room? How does she treat people? Talk to people? Treat herself? Talk to herself? What does she do with her time? Who is she? When you are in a situation, what would hap...

Send us Fan Mail Why am I always trying to improve? To be more or to be better? Why am I always questioning what I'm doing? Why am I like this? Why is she like this? Or he like this? Or why are you like this? Understanding our communication traits provides a basis for you to know what you can expect from others in various situations and can allow for families to be much happier and more peace...

Send us Fan Mail What would happen if we were the kind of person that we would want to have in our lives? How would our relationships improve if we applied that type of empathy to them? If we saw a situation, and decided to be the person we would want around us if we were in that position. Can you be that kind of person for those others in your life? But what about for you. Can you be the kind of...

Send us Fan Mail Think about all of the time and effort that you put into everyone else. Well, it's time to take a selfish and put a little of that into you, as we have a conversation on Pilates, all of the benefits it can bring, and how you can start adding it into your life. Thank you for listening and being part of this community! Let's get social. Follow me on Facebook ,  on  Twitter...

Send us Fan Mail When you change your perspective, you change your world. What are you struggling with? And can you embrace the hard? Because yes, it is hard, but if it was easy, everyone would have it. Can you change your perspective to be grateful for the hard? Thank you for listening and being part of this community! Let's get social. Follow me on Facebook ,  on  Twitter @reframing_me , on...

Send us Fan Mail Summer REMIX!!! Our lives are full of stress - some positive, some negative, some predictable and some unpredictable. In this remixed episode, we'll revisit stress from a family communication perspective, stress and the life cycle, coping and tips and tricks for dealing with stress. For parents of teens, senior summer is like no summer of the past. Gone are lazy, relaxing sum...

Send us Fan Mail What can you make peace with to make your life easier and happier? What do you keep fighting that you could instead make peace with - is it something about your job or your partner or your body or a mindset? Making peace and letting it go can open you open for happiness. Thank you for listening and being part of this community! Let's get social. Follow me on Facebook ,  on  T...

Send us Fan Mail Teens and preteens are full of drama - the gossip and fighting, the problems and issues, the relationships that come and go and come again, the frenemies and crushes,  the ups and the downs,  the loves and the hates, the extremes , the exasperation – I JUST CAN’T! When we say drama, it’s really just a shortcut for saying that our teens lack social and emotional skills. There’s a s...

Send us Fan Mail Never is our unappreciation of our bodies as great as it is during the summer. Can we say that we love our body... and mean it? What if instead of crititicizing all of our flaws based off of narratives that have been planted in our heads we appreciated and loved our bodies for all that they do? Thank you for listening and being part of this community! Let's get social. Follow...

Send us Fan Mail Are you a sharent? Do you share pictures, stories, videos and information about your kids online? Many of us do it regularly without ever thinking about how it impacts our kids. As the Facebook generation hits their "digital coming of age," we are starting to see the consequences of our oversharemting.  Thank you for listening and being part of this community! Let's...

Send us Fan Mail Sometimes the next level isn't up. Sometimes we need to go in to realize that failure is just practice, and practice is always progress. We've gotten good at setting our goals and envisioning our favorite version of us. But sometimes we fail, and our favorite version of us hasn't yet achieved our goal. So today, can you tap into this leveled-up version of you and us...

Send us Fan Mail It's our last week of 8th grade for my youngest - for six years I've had at least one if not two in middle school. It has been a journey. We're conditioned to be sad at the end, but on the backside of every sunset is a sunrise. Can we reframe how we look at the end, the last? Here are the 20 things that I learned about parenting in middle school.... and really, most...

Send us Fan Mail In part 2 of this MONSTER-sized mom episode, we're continuing to celebrate moms, girl power and our 50th episode week! (this is episode 51!) In part 1 we talked about the struggles that working moms face, so we continue our conversation by looking at the struggles of stay-at-home moms. SAHMs report feelings of sadness, loneliness, frustration and boredom. With teenagers, they...

Send us Fan Mail "Reframing Me" is celebrating its 50th episode with an update on our initial prompt: "What would I be, who would I be, if I was truly free?" to look and see who we are today, and if we are closer to free?  Thank you for listening and being part of this community! Let's get social. Follow me on Facebook ,  on  Twitter @reframing_me , on  Instagram @reframin...

Send us Fan Mail In part 1 of this MONSTER-sized mom episode, we're celebrating moms, girl power, and our 50th episode week (this is episode 49!). Girls can do ANYTHING and be ANYTHING, but telling girls that they can or should do EVERYTHING is one of the factors that establishes the societal bias that places moms as the Default Parent, a mentally and physically draining role of providing pri...

Send us Fan Mail Are you able to celebrate others’ success and say “it’s just not my story”? Life isn’t linear, and each of our individual journeys are independent and unique. We are moving at our own pace on these very different paths. So often, we look at everyone around us and instead of being happy for them and their accomplishments, we internalize them and make them about us NOT having the sa...

Send us Fan Mail It’s ok to feel whatever emotions that you feel, but don’t let yourself live there. You have the right to feel all of the feels, but can you recognize who you truly are underneath that layer of emotions and bring yourself back to your center? Too often, we who we are underneath, with the emotions we feel. If we can separate the two, we can recognize that this is not who we are; in...

Send us Fan Mail Like attracts like. The Law of Resonance is one of the main principles that the Universe functions on. The frequency of any material object, of our thoughts, our emotions and even our experiences possess a unique frequency and will attract similar things in the outside world that vibrate at the same frequency. We are a part of nature, so the same principles that apply to nature an...

Send us Fan Mail When life gets busy or challenging and we are stuck in the mundance, we often want to just get through this hard part, so we can reach that next break – that next vacation – that next weekend. We are constantly living for the recovery. But that hard part is life, and when we do this, we are missing the present. We are missing the bulk of our lives, wishing for something else. Are...

Send us Fan Mail We continue on conversation on our expanding family systems and the outside factors that influence us. In this episode, we extend the discussion about the expanding complexities of our families' ecosystems to include dating and our teens' romantic relationships. Parents often wonder if this behavior is "normal," so today, we'll talk about when and how pare...

Send us Fan Mail What would you do or stop doing if you were a more confident person?  Confidence is a skill - and not an easy one to master. People often take one of two approaches to improving their confidence - the "fake it til ya make it" approach or the "I'll be confident if..." approach. Basing your confidence on some external validation or a completely arbitrary ben...

Send us Fan Mail As our kids grow up, our family systems expand. While we’ve always had outside factors influencing our family system - whether our extended family, work, school, friends, church, organizations, etc - when our kids were younger, we could control the outside influences much more. But now, we start to see just how little control we have over the inputs into our family system. In this...

Send us Fan Mail As moms, somewhere in between diapers and college applications, we often feel like we've lost ourselves - or at least our life's purpose. So sometimes, we deserve to take a few minutes for ourselves - let's use that time today to take a selfish and have a conversation about the Japanese philosophy, Ikigai, or that which gives your life meaning or purpose. It’s our r...