Refined Leadership - ADHD Lens

Today, we’re discussing: -How he went from dyslexic student with terrible grades in English to successful author, publishing multiple NYT best-selling books each year -The powerful quote shared over 37,000,000 times that’s guaranteed to give you a boost of motivation -The distinction between counsel & opinion, and why you MUST understand the difference -A surprising tool to help you connect with t...

We all know that when it comes to Relationships/Marriage it is a bumpy ride, now let’s make it even bumpier when one or both partners have ADHD. My guest Melissa Orlov, a relationship consultant, talks about the impacts of ADHD on Marriage. She covered some key topics such as: ADHD entrepreneurs working with non-ADHD partner, pressures that it creates, and some possible solutions How both partners...

One thing I've learned about working with my ADHD clients, especially business owners and professionals is that they have the need/urge to do everything themselves and are very reluctant to ask for support. Even though they are truly gifted in so many ways and highly capable of taking on a lot, it does eventually catch up to them and that's one of the reasons they end up in my coaching practice. D...

There are three representations of ADHD Combined Presentation: if enough symptoms of both criteria inattention and hyperactivity-impulsivity were present for the past 6 months Predominantly Inattentive Presentation: if enough symptoms of inattention, but not hyperactivity-impulsivity, were present for the past six months Predominantly Hyperactive-Impulsive Presentation: if enough symptoms of hyper...

On today’s episode, we’re joined by special guest, ADHD, and Attention coach, also the host of Attention Talk Radio, Jeff Copper. We’re discussing memory, and specifically working memory: the ability to hold thoughts in your mind, organize them, and sequence them, without forgetting them. This topic is hugely important for people with ADHD, but it’s not always talked about. We’ll explore: Why focu...

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My transition from corporate life to becoming a solopreneur has been one of the most interesting, fulfilling, challenging, and rewarding thing I have taken on.⁠ ⁠ In this episode, ⁠I share the difference between a mindset of a scattered solopreneur v.s. Focused solopreneur, with you. By no means, am I perfect in the way I run my business but over the years, one thing that I made sure of is to walk...

In this episode, I am addressing wellbeing and recent news about my health. I am going to share with you how I am approaching this news and also will be sharing some tools and prompts. If you are dealing with any health issues currently I welcome you to download the worksheet that I mention in this episode. Sometimes it helps when we have the right questions to get us curious about what we are rea...

Contrary to what is known about ADHD, individuals with ADHD CAN actually focus! When we are interested and have a clear understanding of the tasks and know that it aligns with our goals we can become focused, even hyper-focused, and do a bang-up job. However, when we find a task boring, challenging to break into chunks, and ultimately the end results too far in the future for us to gain immediate...

Adult ADHD diagnosis may feel like a life sentence to some of us but what if we consider it an explanation of our very unique brain neurology. For some, this new piece of information can be a hard pill to swallow and may cause intense emotions, such as grief or the opposite, a sense of relief.   ADHD Coaching and Therapy are two of the many ways we can manage Adult ADHD.  In this episode, I speak...

In the past few years, as I've been going through coach training and coaching professionals and entrepreneurs, I have seen a theme around the importance of paying attention to mindset as it relates to their ADHD and how they were managing it before and after hitting their tipping point. Often these adults come to me to learn how to manage their day more effectively, be more productive, and learn n...

One of the most effective ways for ADHDers to manage their intense emotions is to pause and pay attention before reacting. Easier said than done, and this is a skill that does not come naturally. So how can we sharpen this skill? Yoga is one way to do this. Paying attention to our breath and creating movement in the body to get the energy flowing so that it's not bottled up in one place in our bod...

In May of 2020, I did an IG TV interview with Rick Green - Founder of totallyadd.com on the topic of why ADDers have challenges starting tasks and even following through. Rick shared so many practical insights and approaches that I wanted to capture and share the audio file here. These are some of our talking points : Why it is important to get clear when starting How overwhelm can get in the way...

It's one thing to digest and go through the emotions of a late in life diagnosis of Adult ADHD but then comes the big question of "should I take meds or not?". I have heard so many different viewpoints of ADHD medication from - it's a big pharma conspiracy, it takes away your creativity, they don't work, I am scared to try them, to they have been the best thing for me and this list goes on. So I d...

Back in June of 2020, I interviewed Peter Shankman, host of the "Faster than Normal" Podcast and he shared some great insights on how he is managing his fast brain during the pandemic. I like to apologize in advance for the sound quality which is why I was hesitating to even publish this episode but I really think what Peter shared was important for all of us to listen to and especially now which...

Procrastination is a common theme among ADHDers, it's never-ending and it comes in so many different flavors. I think it's a major cause of so much stress and anxiety for us. In this episode, I wanted to share a few stats and ways of how we can approach procrastination. I hope you get one or two insights and a shift in the way you view your procrastination. Reference to the ted talk I mentioned -...

Decision making can be one of the hardest tasks for adults with ADHD. In this episode, I mention Dr. Brown's of the Impaired Executive Functions and how I relate it to decision making. There are many factors that go into why we struggle with decision making, I am sharing a few with you here and also tips on how to address it. As always these are my observations from my coach training program and r...

There are a few ways to manage ADHD, and not all of us will use the same methods and systems. In this episode, I wanted to share with you Sarah's story on how she is able to manage her ADHD with coaching. Full disclaimer that Sarah is a client of mine and this episode has not been edited in any way. I wanted to ensure that you hear firsthand her experience, and also get a glimpse into what it is l...

In this episode, I was so inspired by Diann's story on radical self-acceptance. I thoroughly enjoyed her real talk style, wisdom, and her story to Radical Self Acceptance. One of the common themes that I come across working with professionals and entrepreneurs are around self-acceptance. Even though most of them have been able to achieve amazing things in their life, there is this undercurrent run...

In this episode, I talk with Marc Cordon, MPH - Positive Psychology Coach, who shares his story about how he was always different than the rest, from his ethnicity all the way to his brain wiring. He shares how he went from musician to higher education and then into multicultural work. Marc shares from the heart and positive psychology changed his view on social justice and to do it from a place o...

When it comes to goal setting and achieving, I no longer pay attention to it and it has been life-changing. ⁠ ⁠ For me, it is about truly mastering the state of mind that I am to reach my ultimate vision for life, family, health, community, and business. ⁠ ⁠ You might say, well Cathy, it starts with goal setting!?⁠ ⁠ Yes and NO!!!! ⁠ ⁠ What if you do have a goal, but underneath of the goal lays a...

There are the 6 perspectives of late in life diagnosis of ADHD for professionals/entrepreneurs ⠀⁠⠀ My ADHD is:⁠⠀ 1. holding me back from living my life Victim ⁠⠀ 2. best under stress, I don't want to change Resist⁠⠀ ⁠3. it is what it is! I am doing the best I can Rationalize ⁠⠀ 4. putting my needs first for once and take care of me! Self - Compassion ⁠⠀⠀ 5. finding out how I can make the most of m...

If you ever caught yourself in that place of "should I stay or should I go" when it comes to your professional career or changing business ventures this episode is for you. The inner critic or as I like to refer to it "the Gremlin" shows its ugly head to really keep up stuck when we are ready to make a move. As I continue my work with high performing professional and successful entrepreneurs there...

How do you manage to stay on track when the shinny new ideas/projects come knocking on your door? I used to get in the trap of getting derailed often when I was in corporate life and sometimes it worked out and other time I was left with regret. I used to jump ship often until I learned about my brain and why I was doing this often. I wanted to share my views and learning with you on this as I now...

In this episode, Caroline Maguire, Author of “Why will no one play with me”? talks to us about how to read the room, how to really understand what's going on in social settings. Those of us with ADHD brain, that fast brain that can think of bazillion thoughts in seconds can get in trouble in social settings and feel awkward, or out of place or even worse it can cause us to lose a job or a business...