Reconnecting with Pleasure

In this episode, Victoria and Dana show you behind the scenes as they talk about where or not Reconnecting with Pleasure is a sex podcast... or naw. Join them in this discussion, and see what they come up with. Spoiler alert: it's both, and... 

In this episode of Reconnecting with Pleasure we're chatting about courage and pleasure. This started when Dana was on a little girls weekend getaway and stumbled upon a wall of courage where folks posted things that they wished they had the courage to do, anonymously. So naturally we had to chat about the ways that courage is essential to pleasure-centered living!

In this 20th & final episode of 2022, Dana & Victoria recap their reconnection with pleasure in 2022, and share how they are looking forward to continue that reconnection into 2023.

In this episode, Dana and Victoria talk about how living a pleasure-centered lifestyle doesn't mean always feeling pleasure. We unpack the ways that hard moments make space for more pleasure and alignment, and share strategies for how we have navigated these moments in our own lives. We can do hard things, friends. And the hard things often lead to even bigger opportunities for connection, joy, an...

In this episode, Dana & Victoria talk forgiveness. We get taught a lot of ideas about forgiveness and why we’re supposed to forgive, in this episode we unpack our beliefs about forgiveness and why the script we’ve been sold is BS. There’s nothing virtuous about forgiveness. It can be hard work, require a lot of self work, and can often be a process. Forgiveness isn’t as a simple as forgive, fo...

In this episode, Dana and Victoria talk about how to feel pleasure through the grief of loss. Loss of life, loss of relationships, and loss of what we thought would and could have been.

In this episode, Dana and Victoria talk about the role that boundaries play in how we access pleasure. We unpack what boundaries are and what they aren't, and we talk about how we've learned to honor our boundaries. We're talking about boundaries related to work, family, parenthood, sex, and everything in between. When we have clear boundaries, our potential to access pleasure increases tremendous...

In this episode of Reconnecting with Pleasure, Victoria & Dana invite you to follow the breadcrumbs. We talk about our new group program, it's benefits, and some of the most commonly asked questions.  https://www.reconnectingwithpleasure.com/group-program

In this episode of Reconnecting with Pleasure, Dana & Victoria the concept of gender roles in (and out of) relationship. We discuss how gender roles in both queer and heterosexual relationships can sometimes be barriers to our own joy pleasure. We also discuss ways that we can set aside these roles that we've learned to allow ourselves access to more pleasure.

In this episode, Dana + Victoria unpack a common theme that we hear, especially from other mothers and parents, about the challenges that come with navigating many responsibilities and the resentment that breeds as a result. We're talking about how resentment breeds in relationships and how to find pleasure and desire within so many responsibilities. Ultimately we see resentment as an inside job a...

In this episode, Victoria and Dana talk about talking about kink. We explore our definitions of kink, what it means to us, and delve into figuring out how we can get more comfortable with our own desires and pleasure in order to talk about them with others. Talking about talking about it is our starting point!

On this episode Dana + Victoria talk about the importance of talking to your friends and closest people about sex, pleasure, and desire. We get conditioned to keep vulnerability at bay and not talk about things that may bring up shame or deep vulnerability, but disrupting that idea can allow for the best, most meaningful relationships. In this episode we offer some examples and tips for how to cul...

In this episode Dana + Victoria talk about talk about the orgasm gap. What is it and could this be you? We also talk a bit about what might be some ways to overcome it. According to an article in Psychology Today, "39% percent of straight women compared to 95% of straight men orgasm during sex." Recognizing that many of us are victims of the orgasm gap, which is directly connected to our overall l...

In this episode Dana + Victoria talk about what a pleasure-centered lifestyle means to them and why they're obsessed with more people living it! While the phrase pleasure-centered lifestyle may conjure up images of yachts and gold, Dana & Victoria don't think it has to cost a thing or connect with wealth in any way. A pleasure centered lifestyle is really a way of thinking and being in the wor...

In episode 8, of the Reconnecting with Pleasure podcast, Victoria & Dana invite you to their celebration and business launch party that will take place on Friday, August 5th @7pm EST. We are excited to share this new chapter with each, and with you!  Join us August 5th by RSVP'ing here . 

Dana & Victoria dove into a conversation about how their various identities have informed how they think about and access pleasure. This is a conversation that we've been having behind the scenes for a while and today we're bringing it to all of you. We'd love to hear from you, too. How do your identities inform how you've been able to access pleasure?

In this episode Dana & Victoria talk about the importance of learning to build our capacity for feeling our feelings so that we can hold both rage and pleasure. As Brene Brown says, we cannot numb one feeling without numbing them all. In this episode we touched on some of the ways that we experience this individual, but also how we see it showing up collectively through things like Pride and J...

In this episode we talk about why it is important to us to reconnect ourselves with our pleasure, and why it is difficult when we live in a culture and society that does not prioritize humans over productivity. We offer some tangible tips to help reprioritize yourself in the context of your busy life.

In this episode we unpacked the ways that we get blamed for societal and systemic dysfunction. We talk about how boundaries, communication, self-awareness, and healing can help us access more pleasure. And more than anything we hope that you will take away that even if it’s difficult to access pleasure, there is nothing wrong with you.

In this episode we discuss what it is that we mean when we say “pleasure.” And guess what? It’s not just about sex. We close this episode with a quick mindfulness exercise.

In our second episode, we talk about how your relationship with yourself informs everything else. We touch on joy, both the real, and faking of joy (and orgasms), and how time is a  social construct. This one is longer than we intended, but more importantly, we laughed, and had a ton of fun making this episode, and are so excited to share it with you.

Dana & Victoria are the hosts of Reconnecting with Pleasure , a podcast that helps you find more joy, presence, and so much pleasure by reconnecting with yourself and your desires. We’re two moms, coaches, and all-around badass bitches who are obsessed with changing the rules and always seeking more. More joy, more fun, more orgasms, more pleasure, more ease. And we want you to have it all too...