Rebuilding Trust with Carol The Coach

Jonathan Taylor works with teens with compulsive/addictive sexual behaviors. This can include use, multiple partners and other compulsive sexual behaviors. We will explore some of the supportive strategies that teens respond to in dealing with the complicated sexual landscape including good information, education addressing already problematic behavior and keeping communication lines open.

Tonight Carol will be talking about Trauma which plagues over 1/2 of the sex addicts and their partners. Listen as Carol has some advice for how to heal from the trauma of your past!

Carol the Coach met author Johnnie Callloway who wrote Dragons to Butterflies The Metamorphosis of a Man at a Hayhouse Conference. In his memoir, he shares his recovery from the guilt that came as a result of thinking that he had killed his mother at the age of 5 while growing up with an angry, alcoholic, sexuually confused father. As you might expect, this childhood trauma impacted his life. He d...

Richard Blankenship who is a consultant for Relational Trauma at Capstone Center wieghs in with Carol the Coach on the importance of disclosures in helping clients heal from relational trauma and sex addiction. Get the highlights of what to look for in finding a sex addiction specialist or partner sensitve therapist when doing a thorough disclosure to minimize the collateral damage of sex addictio...

This is a repeat of a great show talking about multiplle addictions and sexual addiction...specifically workaholism.

Carol the Coach will be interviewing Jonathan Taylor and Jackie Pack who have started a new podcast called Thanks for Sharing which shares personal stories on recovery from sexual addiction and partner trauma. Carol believes that the more resources you have .... the healthier you can be so listen up as these professionals talk about  their own recovery and the resources available to you!

Rob Weise just released a new book this week- specific to helping men regain intimate relationship trust after betraying a loving female partner or wife. It is called: Out of the Doghouse: A Step by Step Relationship Saving Guide for Men Caught Cheating and can be found here both in ebook and hard copy here The metaphor of having ‘harmed your home” and thus being “Sent to ‘the Doghouse” is used th...

Anger is natural, normal and necessary emotion but expressing it can be destructive and damaging to your self and others. Listen as Carol the Coach helps you to find other ways of using this helpful emotion to change and mobilize your life in a different way. Learn how to be friends with your anger.

Carol the Coach will be interviewing Kristin Cary who is a CPSAS and is currently being trained by APSATS. She realizes that the church, therapists and family or friends can be well meaning but hurtful when it comes to partner trauma. She will talk about what churches can do to be safe places for women to talk about partner betrayal and she will talk about a program that she has developed in her c...

Anger is one of the more difficult emotions to experience productively. Many sex addicts deal with trauma, loss and anger in their family of origin and that follows them in their present day life. And although anger is a natural reaction to these experiences, children are not taught how to manage it so that it can motivate change in a positive way. Listen as Jon Taylor talks about the tools he has...

Carol the Coach will be interviewing Sonja J Rudie who is a certified EMDR Therapist . She is an expert at treating people who have experienced trauma in their childhoods and in the coupleship as a result of the "addiction discovery". Listen as she describes how EMDR can help you!

Carol the Coach will be interviewing Milton Magness and Marsha Means who will talking about their new book, Real Hope, True Freedom: Understanding and Coping With Sex Addiction. This book is filled with a conslidation of over 4,000 questions submitted to people who needed to understand the truth on multiple topics related to sexual addicion. This book helps readers understand the reality of sex ad...

Partners of sex addicts experience a barrage of painful emotions and reactions after discovering their significant other's acting out behaviors. Typically, these symptoms are consistent with a trauma reaction or even post-traumatic stress disorder. Sometimes they are so severe that they interfere with a partner's ability to function in live and mau require treatment from a physician. Carol...

As a resource for partners, PCS offers a  6-day intensive outpatient program in Scottsdale AZ.  They run their program 52 weeks/year. Partners of sexual addicts are a regular part of  the program and an area of particular focus.   Our work at PCS is heavily trauma focused and takes into account co-occurring psychological and medical disorders . The IOP at PCS was the first intensive outpatient pro...

Shame is the most painful of all emotions. People will go to almost any length to avoid feeling it. The problem with addiction as a way to avoid shame is that once the addictive behavior ends, the shame comes back many fold. And it takes stronger and stronger doses of the addiction to move into good feelings again. Working with shame involves helping the person transform toxic shame that leads to...

Carol the Coach interviews Christina Bell who has made it her mission to work with couples whose lives have been ravaged by sexual addiction. She has worked with a lot of couples with sex addiction and has developed  a roadmap to help them through the first year. Tonight's show will teach couples what they need to do to work through the hard work that goes into recovering from  the collateral...

One of the greatest challenges that couples in recovery face is navigating the journey out of the diseased world of sexual addiction and into the healthy and robust life of relational wellness. The trauma of discovery is a gamechanger.  The betrayed (partner) often suffers with PTSD primary to the discovery – with all of the accompanying distressing symptoms including a pervasive sense of unsafety...

You can’t be a sex addict, you’re a woman.” “Women don’t recover from sex addiction.” “You’re not welcome at this 12-step fellowship meeting because you’re a woman.” These were all things that were said to interviewee as she started to search for help for her sex addiction. Women need help and support in sex addiction recovery.  She started Worth Recovery and the Worth Recovery podcast as a suppor...

Life After Lust is unlike any recovery book available today. It guides the reader into intentional personal growth but also frames the pursuit of a meaningful life as a byproduct of succerssful recovery. Carol the Coach interviews Forest Benedict author of Life After Lust: Stories and Strategies for Sex and ography Addiction Recovery. He has a 52 week plan that helps navigate addicts into healthy...

Are you someone who constantly struggles with  someone who is too clingy or too detached. Often times in sexual addiction, there is one partner who tends to be love avoidant and one partner who is love addicted. This can be a frustrating issue for each partner which invariably keeps each person from getting their needs met. Ben Galloway has worked in the field of Addiction and Trauma Treatmen sinc...

Carol the Coach interviews Shannon Colleary who is a compassionate recovery coach and author who teaches women how to find real love by attending 12 step recovery meetings and using tools from her Love School to promote healing, self love and healthy interdependent relationships. If you are a partner of a sex addict and you want more from your relationship or you want to find healthy love ... this...

Carol the Coach interviews Jessica Levith who treats women,men and couples sturggling with problematic sexual behaviors. She often sees sexualized anger which is the fusion of anger and eroticism based on an arousal template laid down early in life. There has been little written about sexualized anger, using a non-forensic lens. But for those struggling with insecure attachments, the importance of...

Listen as Carol the Coach interviews Anne Blythe who is the producer and host of the Betrayal Trauma Recovery podcast and founder of Betrayal Trauma Recovery, a nonprofit, online coaching practice for women. All of the coaches at Betrayal Trauma Recovery are trained by The Association of Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists (APSATS for short). After years of attempting to help her husband re...

Carol the Coach interviews "Gaslighting Expert"  Ross Rosenberg about this phenomena that frequently occurs in the relationship with the sex addict and his/her spouse. Gaslighting is a complex and well-thought out brainwashing strategy utilized by highly manipulative narcissists. Gaslighters control victims by systematically manipulating them into identifying with and feeling no control...

Carol will be interviewing Anna Osborn, LMFT who works with couples and individuals healing from trauma to their relationship including infidelity, betrayal and loss. Listen to the conversation that leads to healing and how does a couple develop a new relationship that promotes trust and honesty.