Rebuilding Trust with Carol The Coach

Carol the Coach will be interviewing Michele Saffier who will be speaking about her work with partners struggling with betrayal trauma.  Discovery forces partners into an existential crisis of self. The choice they are faced with has very little to do with external decisions about their life– divorce, reconciliation, therapy, polygraphs and disclosure, why the betrayer did what they did, etc. Ther...

Today, Carol the Coach will be interviewing Gary and Donna who support RCA a 12 Step Group for Couples in recovery. Find out how you can access this incredible 12 Step format for support!

Carol the Coach is going to be interviewing Shane Adamson who will be discussing understanding and healing attachment wounds of loss, betrayal and abandonment and neglect.  He has a desire to start a podcast that will feature complex problems and be inspired by love stories.  As a professional counselor over 25 years, Shane observes what helps and what hurts individuals, marriages and families.  S...

This is a replay where Carol talks about the criteria for sex addiction

Today, Carol the Coach is interviewing Laney Knowlton who has worked in the field of sex addiction for over a decade years. She has  developed a model for couples called Coupled Recovery. It uses similarities between the trauma cycle and the addiction cycle to create a common language for addicts and partners, creating a foundation for connection throughout recovery, which starts with emotional sa...

Sex addiction is an illness where the addict uses sex to self-medicate, to cope with overwhelming emotions. It’s about disconnection, not finding a more attractive partner. But often, partners fear just that, as the movie plays in their heads with more attractive partners acting in more sensual ways, which can make them feel unattractive and disconnected from their own sexuality. It’s hard enough...

Sex Addiction can appear so entitled. That is the very nature of addiction and so entitlement and self absorbtion keeps the addict alive. Listen as Carol the Coach explores the fundamental maladaptivecoping style that keeps addiction alive.

We are all products of the messages we receive in our lives. None of these messages are as powerful as those we receive in childhood. Tom Gagliano focuses on the messages given to us in childhood, verbal and non-verbal, and how they impact the roles one grows up to play and the ways these roles affect one’s intimate relationships. He discusses the steps to identify the roles one plays in order to...

In this podcast, Carol the Coach and Dr. Jill Manning discuss the power of affirmations and how to effectively utilize affirmations in relational trauma healing work. Affirmations can sometimes be dismissed as simply "happy thoughts" or "nice statements," but when affirmations are truly understood and practiced, they can powerfully interrupt shaming or distorted thinking patter...

Relationship devastation caused by compulsive sexual behavior, betrayal trauma, and broken trust leaves both partners struggling to regain safety, stability, and hope. As someone who has lived this journey firsthand, and now coaches individuals and couples through it, I’ve learned that repair isn’t built on promises, perfection, or passive time. It’s built on creating a safe environment for the be...

Your sexual addiction has devestated her. Her self esteem has been devestated and she does not know how to compensate for what she thinks that you need. Professionals see the daily devestateion but don't know how to help and today Rochelle has developed a course to reignitght that sense of appeal. Her topic is a new program that she is offering called Your Big Sexy Comeback for women who are m...

Are you someone who constantly struggles with  someone who is too clingy or too detached. Often times in sexual addiction, there is one partner who tends to be love avoidant and one partner who is love addicted. This can be a frustrating issue for each partner which invariably keeps each person from getting their needs met. Ben Galloway has worked in the field of Addiction and Trauma Treatmen sinc...

Being betrayed by someone you trusted is beyond painful! It’s a tsunami of emotions that are terrifying and out of our control. And those close to us may misguide us, well-intentioned as they might be. So it’s critical to have some professional guidance to help us ride the waves in a healthy way. You didn’t ask for it, and it might feel really unfair to be called upon to do the work to heal, but y...

As a Sex Addict, can you love yourself despite the fact that you have an addiction. Today, Carol the Coach will be interviewing Jace Downey who looks at sex addiction with an unusual perspective about the reason for your addiction. Jace explains that with addiction reaching epidemic levels, we are seeing a revolution in the recovery sphere, a whole-person holistic approach to healing. Yet, we risk...

Abandonment in childhood effects self esteem and often contributes to the issues of sexual addiction. Tonight I will be interviewing Mark Smith Director of Family Tree Counseling who has written an e-book called MANAGING ABANDONMENT ISSUES THROUGH RECOVERY. He will discuss what you can do to resolve and reprocess the aftershock of abandonment and what you can do if your abandonment issues are feed...

It is not uncommon for clients who have  sexual addiction to suffer from trauma that later causes PTSD. Dr. Jerry Borikhin from the Meadows will be talking about PTSD and how this disorder can be managed if you are suffering from these symptoms. Listen in as he shares with Carol the Coach the criteria and diagnostic elements that would tell you if you have PTSD. Sexual Addiction can be managed if...

In any relationship where betrayal occurs through acting out in any harmful manner, the partners’ breakage leaves them in unbearable distress and fear for an unknown future. Defense mechanisms further create distance when trauma triggers negatively influence the reactions of both parties in the relationship. The acting out partner uses maladaptive coping skills to relieve distressing feelings lear...

In this segment Carol the Coach  will be discussing boundaries with Jocelyn Hamsher. Boundaries are defined as a set of expectations and limits we have around our interactions with ourselves and others. They help us keep our side of the street clean and sets our relationships up for success because we are able to communicate our expectations in a healthy way. Boundaries are not about manipulating...

John and Elaine Leadem, who are experts in the field of addiction, will be sharing personal information about their lives as they discuss the faces that they wore when they first married. In this riveting interview, the Leadems who wrote One in the Spirit: Meditation Course for Recovering Couples openly share their early struggles with maintaining a relationship while combating their own demons fr...

Listen as Carol the Coach talks about a spiritual path that she frequently uses to guide her in her daily life.

Today Carol the Coach will be interviewing Marie Damgaard who works at the Mindfulness Center and has completed the MBATT which is a mindfulness certification for sex addiction and partner betrayal. This segment will focus on learning about the power of mindfulness in addictions and trauma recovery.   Sex addicts will learn how to define mindfulness, and how these techniques help a variety of indi...

Today, I would like to interview Aaron Tempel who is an CSAT who believes attachment focused EMDR really increases the effectiveness of treatment. He is going to discuss Attachment Focused EMDR, or AF-EMDR in its use for treating individuals struggling with sexual addiction or betrayal trauma. While trained to work with partners, my experience is largely working with sexual addiction/compulsivity....

One of the challenges after 6-12 months of sobriety for individuals is handling their emotional life. After all, one reason why addictions start is to avoid feeling emotions to begin with. Our guest Jan M. Bergstrom, who wrote Gifts from a Challenging Childhood; Creating a Practice for Becoming Your Healthiest Self, believes that individuals have to to heal from family of origin trauma. In our sho...

It’s hard enough to fully enjoy mutual intimacy in our romantic relationship. When picking up the pieces after relational betrayal, these natural difficulties become even more complex. After betrayal, navigating daily tasks and wondering what the future holds can feel very uncertain and fearful for both partners and the family. Today, Carol the Coach is interviewing Alex Avilia, who is going to be...

Today, Carol the Coach will be talking to Sarah who has many reasons to believe her husband is still acting out. She reached out to me for answers and I invited her to come on the show and talk about what she is facing in her marriage with a man who allegedley is doing lots of things that make her doubt his sincerity. She wants to get to the truth and is not sure how to do that. Listen to the comm...