Really Not That Deep Podcast

Motivation is fleeting, but discipline is what actually changes your life. In this episode, we break down the psychology behind discipline: why our brains avoid hard things, how to make it easier to follow through, and the mindset shifts that keep you consistent. From identity-based habits to simple environment tweaks, you’ll learn practical tools you can use today to show up even when you don’t f...

At the end of life, the biggest regrets aren’t about failure; they’re about never living true to yourself. In this episode, I dive into the top five regrets of the dying and unpack the psychology and spirituality behind each one. From authenticity and work-life balance, to emotional expression, friendship, and happiness, we’ll explore what really matters and how to align your life so you don’t loo...

What if I told you that the voice in your head isn’t really you? For most of us, our thoughts run the show. We wake up, think “I can’t do this,” and immediately believe it’s true. But here’s the truth: your thoughts are not facts, they’re just mental events. In this episode, I break down the psychology, brain science, and even the spiritual wisdom behind separating yourself from your thoughts. You...

Change can feel uncomfortable — but it’s also where growth lives. In this solo episode, I open up about why I’m continuing this podcast, my mission to make psychology simple and relatable, and what change has been teaching me lately. From secure attachment to the Buddhist idea of impermanence, we’ll unpack how to navigate life transitions with more ease, understanding, and trust in the process. If...

We’ve all had those moments where we edit a text three times, toning ourselves down in a room, pretending everything’s fine when it’s not. Exhausting, right? In this episode, we dive into why authenticity is a psychological need and a spiritual law. We’ll break down why being real is actually essential for your mental health and relationships. And, because we’re us, we’ll share our own messy, goof...

You don’t have to “stop caring” to detach — you just have to care about yourself more than the outcome. In this milestone episode, we’re talking about the kind of detachment that frees you , not the cold, distant kind people often imagine. We’ll explore how to step out of the exhausting cycle of overthinking, over-performing, and over-controlling, and instead move into feminine energy — the space...

If you’ve ever been told to “just be mindful” while your brain is spiralling and your chest feels tight, this episode is for you. We’re breaking down nervous system regulation in real language. You’ll learn: Why your fight, flight, freeze, or fawn response isn’t you “being dramatic” — it’s your body’s survival system doing its job How to recognize when you’re outside your window of tolerance (and...

Why do we feel off after something really good? Whether it’s coming home from a trip, ending a whirlwind weekend, or simply stepping back into routine after a high, re-entry can feel… weird. In this episode, we’re unpacking the psychology of why and what to do about it. We get into everything from hedonic adaptation to dopamine dips , ambiguous grief , and the pressure to make summer “the best one...

If peace feels boring, drama feels like love, and you keep ending up in situationships that drain you, this episode is your wake-up call. We’re diving into the psychology of chaos addiction : from trauma bonds and cortisol loops to why you mistake anxiety for chemistry. We unpack how childhood conditioning wires your nervous system to crave emotional rollercoasters, how to spot the difference betw...

Today we’re diving into random but very real questions — from overcoming the “I’m not good enough” narrative and what our future selves want us to know, to intrusive thoughts and how they mess with manifestation. We also explore whether we’d still be friends if we met today, the human emotions we  might have  overcome (spoiler: grief and jealousy are significant), our biggest regrets, and the mome...

Why is doing literally anything hard in your 20s? From imposter syndrome spirals to last-minute meltdowns over printer paper, this episode dives into the mental chaos behind hard tasks — and how we somehow still get them done. We talk about: How ADHD, perfectionism, and time blindness sabotage us What actually works for motivation (hint: not waiting for it) Tools that help us stop procrastinating...

Ever look in the mirror and think, “Wait… who am I right now?” Because same. In this episode, we’re diving deep (but not too deep) into the weird, wobbly identity crisis that is your 20s — from imposter syndrome and personality glow-ups to outgrowing people, places, and survival mode versions of yourself. We’re unpacking: Why “healing” can feel like losing your personality The psychology behind id...

In this episode, we’re unpacking the lessons that stuck from therapy: the mindset shifts that changed how we show up, the spirals we’ve named (and tamed), and why your inner critic is not the truth-teller she thinks she is. We’re breaking down the big breakthroughs and quiet reminders we wish we knew sooner. Expect digestible psychology, personal confessions, and emotional intelligence energy. No...

We’ve been taught that walking away means weakness, but what if it’s the strongest thing you can do? In this episode, we’re unpacking what it means to move on—from toxic friendships, dead-end relationships, old identities, and even summer camp. 👋 From messy breakups to switching schools, we share our own stories of choosing peace over pressure and why letting go doesn’t mean you didn’t try hard e...

We’re going there. This week, we’re diving into the things people never want to admit—feeling weird in your body, sabotaging good things, and realizing (too late) that maybe you were the toxic one. It’s raw, funny, a little too relatable, and totally judgment-free. If you’ve ever cringed at your own behavior but also wanted a hug about it… this one’s for you 🫶 Follow Really Not That Deep for more...

If you walked into a room and met you—as you are right now—would you like her? Would you trust her? Would you want to be her friend, her partner, her coworker? In this episode, we’re diving into the glow-up that isn’t about looks—it's about self-awareness, healing, and becoming someone we're genuinely proud of. We’re reflecting on old patterns, past versions of ourselves, and all the ways...

We all talk about heartbreak, but no one talks about how bad it hurts when your best friend becomes a stranger. In this week’s episode, we’re diving into the messy , hilarious , and weirdly emotional world of friendship in your 20s. From growing apart to soft-blocking each other in real life, we’re unpacking all the unspoken stuff that makes modern friendships… complicated. 💌 We read your Dear Be...

We’re flipping the dating game on its head and asking the real question: if you saw yourself on a dating app… would you swipe right? This week, we’re diving deep into self-worth, self-perception, and the wild journey of learning to love (and sometimes cringe at) who we are. We’ll talk about the version of ourselves we project versus who we really are, the filters we hide behind, and the moments th...

You know those realizations that hit so hard, you lowkey feel like a new person after? This episode is packed with  those . We’re sharing 10 mindset shifts that genuinely changed how we show up—from realizing our brains confuse comfort with happiness, to calling out our inner critic, to learning that avoidance only delays the drama. These aren’t just cute Pinterest quotes—they’re psychology-backed...

You know those moments when you brush something off with "it’s not that deep" — but deep down, it kinda is? In this episode, we dive into the real psychology behind "it’s not that deep" — when it’s a healthy mindset shift, and when it’s actually a sneaky coping mechanism. We break down: 🧠 How cognitive distortions make things feel deeper than they are 🛡 How "it’s not that...

This week, we’re joined by our guy friend Jacob Wise for a much-needed deep conversation on what it’s really like navigating your 20s as a guy. We talk frat life, male friendships, and the subtle pressure to always “have it together.” From not knowing how to respond (literally and emotionally) to learning how to actually feel your feelings, this one’s full of real talk, good laughs, and new perspe...

You did everything “right.” You journaled, went to therapy, set boundaries, burned the sage… so why do you still feel off? In this episode, we talk about the messy, anticlimactic, and often lonely phase of healing that no one warns you about — the weird in-between where you’re not in pain anymore… but you’re not exactly “whole” either. We unpack:
 ✨ The myth of the healing glow-up
 🧠 The nervous...

“Is This Me or Just a Compliment I Got in 2012?”How much of your personality is actually you… and how much is just stuff people praised you for, so you made it your whole personality? This week, we’re spiraling (lovingly) into the identity crisis of being self-aware and easily influenced. From being “the chill one” to “the funny friend” to “the mature emotional support human,” we unpack how compli...

Is luck something you're born with, or is it something you can actually create? In this episode, we're unpacking the psychology of luck, the power of mindset, and how shifting your energy can change what you attract. We’ll explore why some people seem “luckier” than others, the role of self-fulfilling prophecies, and whether manifestation is just a mindset hack or something more. Plus, we’ll share...

Nobody talks about how weird your 20s actually are. One minute you’re romanticizing your morning coffee like the main character, and the next you’re spiraling because your friends are getting engaged while you just googled “howto do taxes.” In this episode, we’re unpacking the truth about navigating your 20s—the highs, the lows, and the constant identity crisis in between. From comparison culture...