Dr. Kay and Dr. Ray

Reality Test

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Two Psych Doctors Spill the Tea on Mental Health Concepts & Presentations Shown in your Fave RealiTV Shows! Ever find yourself wanting to debrief that reality tv episode with your therapist? Or maybe you've wanted to ask them questions about something you've learned from the reality tv interactions , castmates , or news cycle ? Come debrief with two licensed psychologists as they explore what we can all learn about ourselves, our relationships, and our society from our fave reality television shows on Netflix, Peacock, Bachelor Nation, Bravo, and beyond! Dr.s Kay & Ray inspire discussion about...

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Sep 21, 2026

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Episodes

Aggressive Hands, False Liberal Advertising & Anti-Black Racism | Part 1 Recap of Love is Blind Season 7 ::} 063 28.10.2024

Dr.s Kay & Ray recap episodes 1-6 of season 7 of Love is Blind, after a brief update about yet ANOTHER Bachelor nation castmate who should have been weeded out in the casting process and yet remains in episodes that continue to currently air. Across this and the following podcast episode, Dr.s Kay & Ray incorporate the six psychology-focused segments, such as what sociopolitical topics aro...

Power Dynamics, Parent Shaming, & Girl Moms | Recap of ep.s 3-5 of Real Housewives of Salt Lake City ::} 062 26.10.2024

Dr. Kay recaps the third, fourth, and fifth episodes of the Real Housewives of Salt Lake City season 15, incorporating the six psychology-focused segments. Segments include something Dr. Kay wishes more people knew about, and something Dr. Kay wanted to expand upon that they had mentioned in a previous podcast episode. Dr. Kay explores the many repair plotlines and rupture plotlines abounding, thu...

Patriarchal Marriages, Bat Mitzvahs, & the two New B’s (newbies)! | Recap of Real Housewives of Salt Lake City Ep.s1-2 ::} 061 21.10.2024

Dr. Kay recaps the premiere episodes of season 5 of Real Housewives of Salt Lake City (RHOSLC). Across this and the following podcast episode, Dr. Kay incorporates the six psychology-focused segments, such as what sociopolitical topics arose in the episodes and what Dr. Kay would say to a client with a presenting concern that appears in the episodes. For example, Dr. Kay discusses Heather’s Ozempi...

Boundaries, Rupture/Repair, and Use of Humor to Air Grievances | Real Housewives of NYC, Ep.2 ::} 060 16.10.2024

Dr.s Kay & Ray recap the second episode of the Real Housewives of New York, incorporating their six segments. Segments include something they wish more people knew about, and something people didn’t talk about the next day, despite Dr.s Kay & Ray thinking they would. What did you think about the Brynn-Erin repair conversation? ---------------------------------------------------------------...

Autism, Relational Aggression, & Memory Fallibility | Real Housewives of NYC Premiere ::} 059 14.10.2024

Dr.s Kay & Ray recap the premiere episode of Real Housewives of New York City (RHONY), season 15, incorporating their six psychology-focused segments. Segments include what would be different if producers were psychologists and what Dr.s Kay & Ray would say to a client with a presenting concern that appears in the episode. For example, producers seem to be promoting Brynn as a villain, des...

Therapy, Lovebombing, & Bro Content | Award Show | Week of 9/30 ::} 058 08.10.2024

Dr.s Kay & Ray review any and all of the reality TV they watched over the week, awarding moments and/or castmates with the 8 weekly Reality "Test" awards! And the TESTosterboned (most patriarchal) award gooooes to… whom? Hint: groups of men from THREE shows collectively won this week! What about the opposite award, the Bechdel TEST (most feminist)? Or the TESTimonial award (best confessional)?...

Possessiveness, Visibility, & Trauma | Golden Bachelorette Episode 3 ::} 057 07.10.2024

Dr.s Kay & Ray recap the third episode of the Golden Bachelorette, incorporating their six segments. Segments include what would be different if producers were psychologists and what Dr.s Kay & Ray would say to a client with a presenting concern that appears in the episode. Ever wonder what your therapist might say if they watched The Bachelor franchise? Check it out!----------------------...

Feminism, Cultural Appropriation, & Love | Award Show | Week of 9/23 ::} 056 01.10.2024

Dr.s Kay & Ray review any and all of the reality TV they watched over the week, awarding moments and/or castmates with the 6 weekly awards (all with “test” in their titles)! And the TESTosterboned (most patriarchal) award gooooes to… whom? Or, what? Hint: …someone who thinks a woman can be “all mine”, and an example of cultural appropriation. What about the opposite award, the Bechdel TEST (mo...

OCD, Partner Grief, & Patriarchal Language | Golden Bachelorette Episode 2 ::} 055 30.09.2024

Dr.s Kay & Ray start by discussing Bach Nation news, such as the producer drama associated with Serene & Brandon, and background checks (which simply cannot be this hard??). Next, Dr.s Kay & Ray recap the second episode of the Golden Bachelorette, incorporating their six segments. Segments include what would be different if producers were psychologists and what Dr.s Kay & Ray would...

Joan’s Goldmen! Part 2 ::} 054 24.09.2024

Drs. Kay & Ray finish review of Joan Vassos’ Goldmen, who remain in the show to vie for her heart & hand! Combining bios with their first impressions from the premiere, Dr.s Kay & Ray discuss each castmate’s Bachelor Nation bio & photo, and, as relevant, their Insta bio & photo. They also discuss the men’s answers to questions about their most romantic past dates, ideal future...

Joan’s Goldmen! Part 1 ::} 053 23.09.2024

After discussing the recent news about Devin (which includes discussion of domestic violence), Drs. Kay & Ray review Joan Vassos’ Men— 24 Goldmen vying for the inaugural Golden Bachelorette’s heart & hand! Combining bios with their first impressions from the premiere, Dr.s Kay & Ray discuss each castmate’s Bachelor Nation bio & photo, and, for those who have Instagram, their Insta...

Award Show | Week of 9/9 | Who got TESTosterboned this week? ::} 052 20.09.2024

Dr.s Kay & Ray review any and all of the reality TV they watched over the week, awarding moments and/or castmates with the 6 weekly awards (all with “test” in their titles)! And the TESTosterboned (most patriarchal) award gooooes to… whom? Or, what? Hint: this man from Love is Blind UK came up a few times…What about the opposite award, the Bechdel TEST (most feminist)? Or the TESTimonial award...

Love is Blind UK Season 1 | Our First Full-Season Recap! ::} 051 16.09.2024

Friends! We’re recapping AN ENTIRE SEASON of reality television in celebration of our first 50 episodes! In this approach to podding, Dr.s Kay & Ray are recapping the whole first season of the UK version of Love is Blind (streaming on Netflix)!--The international Love is Blind franchise features castmates getting emotionally intimate and then engaged sight unseen (from within separate “pods”),...

Award Show | Week of 9/2 | Devin TESTosterboned Himself ::} 050 11.09.2024

Dr.s Kay & Ray review any and all of the reality TV they watched over the week, awarding moments and/or castmates with the 6 weekly awards (all with “test” in their titles)! And the TESTosterboned (most patriarchal) award gooooes to… whom? Or, what? Hint: there can really only be one appcropriate awardee. What about the opposite award, the Bechdel TEST (most feminist)? Or the TESTimonial award...

Bachelorette Jenn’s Finale | Jesse doing God’s & Devin’s work, and Producer Torture of Leads ::} 049 09.09.2024

Dr.s Kay & Ray tackle the finale of Jenn’s Bachelorette season (21), attending to Devin’s sudden change in behavior following the proposals and to how their discussion of it went at After the Final Rose. Numerous aspects of production felt coercive of Jenn, and suggest the importance of producers recognizing & supporting their leads’ (and castmates’) “no”s. --------------------------------...

Award Show | Week of 8/26 | Hakeem is so much more ::} 048 04.09.2024

Dr.s Kay & Ray review any and all of the reality TV they watched over the week, rewarding moments and/or castmates with their 8 weekly Reality "Test" awards! And the TESTosterboned (most patriarchal) award gooooes to… whom? Or, what moment? (Hint: one awardee seems to be preoccupied with being THE number one!)What about the opposite award, the Bechdel TEST (most feminist)? Or the TESTimonial a...

Bachelorette, ep.s8 & 9 | Allegations, Fantasy Suites & The Jenn Menn Tell All ::} 047 03.09.2024

Dr.s Kay & Ray start by discussing Bachelor Nation news, including the allegations against Marcus, and the social media activities of Devin. They go on to focus on The Bachelorette, with segments on episodes 8 & 9 of Jenn Tran’s season (21), discussing fantasy suites and the Men Tell All. -----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------...

Award Show | Week of 8/19 | What’s up with Jeremy’s serial killer park? ::} 046 29.08.2024

Dr.s Kay & Ray review any and all of the reality TV they watched over the week, rewarding moments and/or castmates with 8 Reality "Test" awards! And the TESTosterboned (most patriarchal) award gooooes to… whom? Or, what? Hint: It has to be someone/thing new, now that the permanent installment has left our TVs! What about the opposite award, the Bechdel TEST (most feminist)? Or the TESTimonial...

Bachelorette ep.7 & Love Island Reunion! | Producers felt Jenn was difficult to produce?? ::} 045 27.08.2024

Dr.s Kay & Ray start with some updates from Bachelor Nation & Love Island, including the Mesnicks’ tea spill about the (arguably racially biased) information with which Bachelor producers were briefing date hosts during filming. Next, they cover episode 7 of Jenn Tran’s Bachelorette season (21), discussing hometown dates, HuJus, and the man huddle at the brewery. They also address Bachelor...

Award Show & Guest Host | Week of 8/12 | Would you rather? ::} 044 20.08.2024

Dr. Kay rounds out her solo week with a half episode award show, followed by a BRAND NEW SEGMENT with a BRAND NEW GUEST HOST! Check it out to find out what & who we’re talking about! As always, the TESTosterboned award goes to the most patriarchal moment or castmates from the past week in reality television, and, this week, Dr. Kay has three examples! But Dr. Kay subsequently counteracts all t...

Bachelorette, ep.6 & Big Brother ep.s 1-12 | Sam I am is a Friggin’ Scam ::} 043 19.08.2024

Dr. Kay goes solo for a week, while Dr. Ray visits London for a TSwift concert! Dr. Kay starts with some updates from pop culture, before covering episode 6 of Jenn Tran’s Bachelorette season (21), with a focus on Marcus’ trauma and Sam Mean’s disturbing behaviors. Dr. Kay also covers some examples of implicit racism and white fragility from Big Brother. Dr. Kay ends with her Top 3 Jenn menn! ----...

DOUBLE EPISODE | Week of 8/05 | Bachelorette ep.5 & HOTD ep.8 AND Mini-Award Show ::} 042 13.08.2024

This week, Dr.s Kay & Ray were in Seattle for a work conference, so they recorded both episodes at once from the hotel room! They go through the usual segments, ranging from what producers would do if they were psychologists to sociopolitical topics that arose in the episodes. Then, they do a mini-award show, with a sole focus on the TESTosterboned & Bechdel TEST awards. Plus, hear how/if...

Award Show | Week of 7/29 | Permanent Installment for the TESTosterboned award: who might it be? ::} 041 06.08.2024

And the TESTosterboned (most patriarchal) award gooooes to… whom? Or, what? Hint: there is a permanent installment for this award… paired with a new honorable mention from New Jersey for Dr. Kay. What about the opposite award, the Bechdel TEST (most feminist)? Or the TESTimonial award (best confessional)? To which moments or whom did the other 5 awards go? To whom would you want them to go? Check...

Bachelorette, ep.4 & House of the Dragon ep.s 1-7| "Matt is a Producer Plant" Theory ::} 040 05.08.2024

Dr.s Kay & Ray start with some updates from pop culture, before they cover episode 4 of Jenn Tran’s Bachelorette season (21), discussing Dr. Kay’s extensive theory on why Matt is a PRODUCER PLANT, whose presence was planned from before the season started filming. They also address Sam “Mean”’s continued distressing behavior: his focus on control, lack of emotional support/attunement/awareness,...

Award Show | Week of 7/22 | “You have to be wary of those ones” ::} 039 30.07.2024

Ariana Madix brought her full self into the Love Island finale, the best couple won (spoiler alert–winning couple discussed in this episode), and a previous Australian bachelorette issued a warning to Jenn Tran. All of these moments are amplified as Dr.s Kay & Ray dispense their 8 awards (all with “test” in their labels) to moments & castmates from the realiTV shows they watched this past...

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