Reality-Based Leadership

This week I'm bringing you a treat: two episodes of the No Ego podcast! Please join me for my first ever bonus episode - I sat down with Alex and Kelli, two of the amazing speakers from Reality-Based Leadership, to talk about what to do when you're not consulted. People automatically assume that when they're asked to work on something, they will be consulted. We break down why that's not the case...

Excuses are your ego's main output. It's the summary of what your ego sees of the world. The "why we can't" or "why we shouldn't have to." As a leader, how can you respond to not the excuse itself, but the person behind it? How do you move people beyond ego? I thought we'd sit down just you and me today and talk about just that.  Don't forget to leave a review if you love this podcast! Those revie...

It was so exciting and fun to bring the amazing Wendy Sachs onto my podcast. She's a producer at CNN, an author, and a TED speaker. We talked about so much, from "engineering serendipity", to networking, to being a woman in today's world. Wendy even gave me a sneak preview into some upcoming projects she has. I can't wait for you to hear it all. Don't forget to leave a review if you love this podc...

This is a very special edition of No Ego because in this episode, I brought on Cathy Frost, my very best friend. She's known me for years so our conversation was just amazing. We talked about Mother's Day, our moms and all lessons we learned from each other. Cathy is a life coach specializing in helping people live beautiful, soul-filled lives while living with metastatic breast cancer. Want more...

I am so excited about today's new episode. I got to sit down with two powerhouse women in the world of company culture and human resources: Grace Killelea and Claude Silver. Both women are changing the world of HR, single handedly leading us into a revolution to update how we think about culture. We had an amazing conversation and I can't wait for you all to listen in. Want more of my content? Fin...

On today's episode, I'm so excited to bring on Shelley Zalis. Shelley is an internationally-renowned thought leader for advancing equality in the workplace. As the first female chief executive ranked in the research industry's top 25, she changed the game, helped elevate feminine values in the workplace and has devoted herself to becoming a mentor and role model to women and leaders in her industr...

So excited to bring Ryan Warner on the show today. I was recently on his podcast and loved the conversation - so I wanted to bring him on. We talked about what happens when the ego comes out to play, how putting up our defenses immediately can often be the first act of war. Tune in for more. Want more of my content? Find me here: facebook.com/cywakeman instagram.com/cywakeman youtube.com/cywakeman

Today on the podcast, I'm honored to bring on my good friend Sarah Morgan as we discuss the ins and outs of coming into an organization fresh. What do you do when you come into a leadership position above a group of people who for so long haven't been managed and don't want to be? Sarah told me the story of one of her first instances of using reality-based leadership in a workplace.  Want more of...

When I hear people talk about trust in the workplace, I get concerned because we make it sound like something we can create for another. But that leaves us dependent on other people, and creates situations where people end up waiting to be offered something. When you say there is a lack of trust in your organization, is it due to leadership or due to your own choices? That's what I want to get int...

When you are blaming others for your circumstances and not taking control of your own actions, that is when your ego really comes out swinging. And I want to get into today one of the major factors of blame, something I like to call learned helplessness. Learned helplessness is the opposite of accountability, and personal accountability is the death of the ego. And we all know that when you ditch...

Very excited to bring you real concrete actionable advice in the episode on unhooking from your ego and letting it go. You may have wondered how you can recognize when you're in your ego, how you can address it and stop it when it's actually happening. There are many ways to go about that and I'm here to share them with you.  Want more of my content? Find me here: facebook.com/cywakeman instagram....

In today's episode I want to talk about conflict. As a researcher, I've spent so many hours dissecting and trying to understand conflict and why it happens. What I've found is this: so much of the time, the root cause of conflict is ambiguity. And a leader's job is to facilitate clarifying conversations. Listen in for more on this and what else I've discovered are the best ways to fix it. Want mor...

Today I'm releasing the full, uncut conversation with Jon and Rae Shanahan from Businessolver. I love sitting down with clients and discussing how reality-based leadership has affected them and their company because we really get into the nitty gritty of exactly how these methods work and why. Tune in for the raw conversation and tweet me with questions! I'm @cywakeman. 

In today's episode, I got the chance to chat with the amazing Mark LeBusque. We got to talk about how you can change your frame of mind for the better, how you can keep your ego from stopping you. Mark is a great example of someone who took their ego head on and conquered it, and I love his story. The big takeaway? Look in the mirror way more. Listen for what I mean by that.

Today I am so excited to introduce Joe Topinka to my podcast. He is the founder of CIO Mentor and CIO at SnapAV. Like me, he is an advocate for big change in the workplace. His philosophies align closely with mine and his ideas are invaluable to me. He also brings a fresh new perspective from the technology side of things. Listen in for more.

A couple months ago, Jonathan Solórzano-Hamilton, a software architect at UCLA, wrote a Medium article called "We fired our top talent. Best decision we ever made." It's no surprise it took off - to many people, that makes no sense at all. But it struck a chord with me. I know that no matter how high performing someone is, if they are high drama, they can't stay. I got to chat with Jonathan last w...

In today's episode, I talk about why you should live your life with great expectancy instead of expectations. There's a big difference, so I want you to dive into it with me and see how drastically different it can make your day to day.

Accountability: it's a topic I bring up a lot because I believe it is one of the most misunderstood words in today's workplace. How do you measure for it? What is the end goal? And how do you introduce it to your company? I sat down with Jackie Froendt from Home Instead Senior Care to talk about all these things and so much more. Sidenote: we were meeting to film my new Facebook Watch show, Life's...

This week, I'm taking you through the steps and actions that go into defusing drama and how you can do it in your own workplace or worldplace. It can feel daunting approaching drama, but through thoughtful questions and a few other tips I have for you, you'll be well on your way. 

Would you believe it if I told you that recent surveys suggest 90% of workers are 'disengaged from their work?' My friend, and guest on the podcast this week, Robb Holman, started with this alarming statistic, and has used it to inform his philosophies at Inside Out Leadership. Join us as we discuss the inherent problems facing today's leaders, and our ideas on how we can fix them.

In this week's episode, I answer the often asked question, "How do I make someone change?" with a surprising answer. You can't make anyone do anything - but, you can stop enabling them. When you stop enabling your teammates, it 's the quickest way to ensure that their relationship with reality is a direct one and that they have the best information possible with which to make better decisions. 

I got wind of a fan of who was starting their own reality-based leadership revolution at their company so I surprised them with a phone call. We managed to capture the conversation and get great tips on how to start from where you are, even if it's not a company sanctioned program. 

On this episode, I'm so excited to introduce you all to Ricardo Palomares, and international keynote speaker and author and one of the most inspiring people I have ever met. He's been faced with seemingly insurmountable hardship in his life but has always prevailed. I often speak about how true freedom is having nothing to lose. It's the perfect recipe for no ego moments. We broke down some of his...

In this episode, the last of the exclusive book club calls, I talk about why I believe our approach to change management has been one of the biggest fuels of drama in the workplace. We are asking ourselves, how can change be least disruptive to our team? But what we should be asking is: how can we make change least disruptive to our business? By making sure our teams are always ready for what's ne...

Another great episode for you guys today - last month I hosted a number of informal, exclusive, member only chats for everyone in my book club. Excited to share the second one with you all now, just for my podcast listeners! Listen in.