Real World Peaceful Parenting

Parenting success doesn't come from getting everything done and fitting the children in between, it comes from being present. So this week, I'm joined by 2 members of The Hive, Lyra and Kate, to talk about parenting with high expectations and redefining “success” as a parent.   This week, discover some methods to release and redefine your success as a parent and how to use these to start...

A simple reality of parenting is that we cannot teach our kids every lesson for every experience, and trying to do so will prevent you from connecting. One of the strategies I teach parents is to pick their top 3 lessons, just 3 , and focus on teaching those.   Learn how to ditch the panicked mindset and dedicate time to focusing on 3 values you would like to teach instead. Your children have a li...

Dina is a champion of The Hive; she has been a member for 2 years and has developed countless new tools to parent in a manner that fosters deep connection. Today, Dina and I break down her recent struggle with anger.   Learn to identify your anger as a signal, ground yourself in the underlying emotions, and move forward as the peaceful leader of the household. We unpack methods for finding neutral...

Kiva Schuler is the founder and CEO of the Jai Institute for Parenting. She is the author of The Peaceful Parenting (R)evolution and a thought leader within the parent coaching community. This week, Kiva and I dig into connecting with your child rather than perfecting them.   Discover how to reframe your thoughts about success and what it means to encourage your children to be their best selves, p...

There's no such thing as the perfect parent, right? Yet some of us are still running ourselves ragged trying to excel in every aspect of parenting.   I invite you to drop the unrealistic parenting expectations that are robbing the joy of parenting from you, and to stop modeling striving for perfection to your kids. To help you do this, I share three ways to SUCK as a parent, and show you why...

When Brandon Reed's first son was born, he and his wife were desperate to find a way to get him to sleep through the night. It was exhausting for everyone involved. In response, he created a podcast of long immersive sound experiences and his family finally found some rest.    This week, Brandon shares the story behind his podcast, 12-Hour Sound Machines, and how to use it. Discover why sleep...

I share part two of my two-part series: Anger Can Be Your Gift. We look at two types of anger, learn what lies beneath them, and discuss tools for identifying, sitting with, and moving forward with our feelings.   Join me as we unpack how to understand our anger, its accompanying feelings, and how to soothe rather than suppress them. Discover tools and communication techniques to process anger in...

This may be a huge shock to you, but   there is no need to shame yourself into infinity when you experience moments of frustration and anger. You can leverage those moments and use anger as a tool.   This week, I share two ways anger can help us to understand and communicate better and how to use it to feel your feelings. Discover when and how to communicate anger with grace and why this honest sh...

It is challenging to enforce limits when our kids insist on gaming for an extra hour, staying up late, or exceeding agreed-upon phone usage. Even I struggle with it, as it's tough to calmly uphold boundaries when our children push back. However, I know that when limits are peacefully enforced, they are effective.   I share strategies to enforce limits with calm, confidence, and authority. We...

Are you nervous about setting limits with your child? Or do you actively find yourself undermining the limits you set when faced with challenges? And here's the big one: do you actively avoid conflict? We break down four roadblocks that prevent my Hive Members from setting and enforcing limits with their children.   Our children will push back and challenge our limits. With tactics and awaren...

Did you know that your child's brain isn't physically capable of multitasking? Yet as adults, we are constantly modelling how to multitask and not give our full attention to anything at one time.   I invite you to take inventory of your parenting and dig into the impact of multitasking. I share why I gave up multitasking and how that has impacted my ability to be present and connect with...

Hannah is a mother of 4 small children and a member of our Hive. She shares her struggle as a mom of young kids and the overwhelm that brought her to Real World Peaceful Parenting. Hannah graciously shares her experience and the shifts she has found through the support of our program.   I break down what Real World Peaceful Parenting is in its essence. Together, Hannah and I discuss co-regulation,...

Today’s podcast is part two of my Stop Punishing, Start Guiding Series. We want our children to be able to create decisions from a calm, regulated state. When you set limits, it helps your child feel supported and also encourages the development of an internal compass.    We look further at guiding your child to make better decisions and I break down offering choices, redirection, repair, and reco...

Peaceful Parenting revolves around connection, not punishment. Punishment creates a power struggle that breaks trust and erodes relationships. Instead of promoting support, it emphasizes obedience. When we establish supportive systems, both we and our children can learn more effectively.   Setting limits is all about creating a calm framework that keeps our kids safe while sharing social skills, a...

Research has shown that the more you resort to punishment, the less likely your child will want to cooperate. The only way we can encourage change in our children is by building trust.   I share how I discovered that threatening, dominating, commanding, and enforcing punishments are not the best way to communicate or make a change in my child. Tune in to move away from dominating and toward collab...

Do you find yourself looking for an ulterior motive in your child’s actions? When we believe we are going to catch our children at their worst, that is what we train our brains to see.   I offer a solution to stop keeping score. It begins with your thoughts. Learn how to calm your mind, feel prepared, and use your child’s hyperfocus and strong will to talk honestly so that you both feel seen. Tune...

Are you overwhelmed by all the information, advice, and parenting how-tos out there? While seeking out expert advice is good, I often see parents who lack confidence in their parenting struggle to perfectly implement all the ideas they’ve heard with their own family.   Learn how to become your own expert as a parent. I explain why it’s important to be confident in your parenting and how you can ch...

Imagine you’re in a situation where you step out for whatever reason and your co-parent has to take over parenting during that time. You’re at the gym or with friends or helping your mom, and your co-parent texts you a question about the kids or unloads on you about the past few hours as soon as you get home. Y ou struggle with feeling empathy for your partner while also feeling resentful and frus...

I’m joined by Deena, a Hive member who has undergone a massive transformation in her parenting. Since joining The Hive, Deena said her parenting has gone from one characterized by “screaming, chaos, and feeling alone” to “calm, peaceful, and empowered.”   Deena and I discuss her road to peaceful parenting. Deena shares the techniques that have helped her the most in her parenting and why The Hive...

As parents, we can often find ourselves asking our children “why?” Why are they acting this way? Why do they always forget things? Why are they not listening? We think that what our kid is doing is the problem. If they just acted differently, we wouldn’t get so frustrated and dysregulated. In reality, we have to step back in these moments and realize that it’s not our kids that are the problem, bu...

A lot of times when our kids do something that upsets us, we quickly jump to conclusions about what it might mean about them and how they feel about us. Often, this can result in us getting triggered and no longer parenting from a calm, empathetic place. One of the best things you can ask yourself in these moments is “what am I making this mean?”   I discuss the power of asking the question “what...

One of the most frustrating situations in parenting is when your kid just won't take “no” for an answer. Most of the time, our instinct is to explain back to them why we set a particular boundary and try to make them understand our reasoning.  The problem with this response is that we're looking for our kids' approval and they are just not going to give it to us.  In this episode, I...

What’s something your child does that triggers you? Maybe it's sneaking sweets or doing something they knew was wrong because a friend encouraged them to. Usually, the behaviors that trigger us the most are the ones that make us fear for our child’s future and the kind of adult they’ll become.   I explain why the best thing we can do when we’re triggered is to get neutral. I’ll give you some...

One of the most powerful tools you can implement as a parent is the pause. Although it might seem small, just pausing during your parenting allows you to do so much.   I discuss the power of the pause as a parent. I talk about the major benefits of learning to pause in a difficult moment with your child – how it can help you to better connect with them and teach them how to regulate their own emot...

Our kids can be great teachers in showing us the things we feel shameful about or have tried to hide from the world – our shadow side. Often what we project onto our kids are wounds we developed as children ourselves.   I’ll show you how to start identifying your shadow side and how you may unknowingly project it onto your child. I’ll also explain how healing your inner child can help you overcome...