Real World Peaceful Parenting

One of the most frustrating situations in parenting is when your kid just won't take "no" for an answer. Most of the time, our instinct is to explain back to them why we set a particular boundary and try to make them understand our reasoning.  The problem with this response is that we're looking for our kids' approval and they are just not going to give it to us.  In this episode, I'll d...

What's something your child does that triggers you? Maybe it's sneaking sweets or doing something they knew was wrong because a friend encouraged them to. Usually, the behaviors that trigger us the most are the ones that make us fear for our child's future and the kind of adult they'll become.   I explain why the best thing we can do when we're triggered is to get neutral. I'll give you some...

One of the most powerful tools you can implement as a parent is the pause. Although it might seem small, just pausing during your parenting allows you to do so much.   I discuss the power of the pause as a parent. I talk about the major benefits of learning to pause in a difficult moment with your child – how it can help you to better connect with them and teach them how to regulate their own...

Our kids can be great teachers in showing us the things we feel shameful about or have tried to hide from the world – our shadow side. Often what we project onto our kids are wounds we developed as children ourselves.   I'll show you how to start identifying your shadow side and how you may unknowingly project it onto your child. I'll also explain how healing your inner child can help you ove...

As a parent, the role you play at home has a completely different job description from the role you play at your corporate job. Different tools are required for different jobs, and it is so important that as parents, we take the time to consider this, and think about what needs to go into our parental job description.   Learn what new tools you can put in your toolbox to get closer to the par...

One of the major roadblocks many of us have on the road to peaceful parenting is our relationship with our own parents. They can be well-meaning and involved, but they are dominant.   I offer you a chance to become the cycle breaker you want to be by learning how to take small steps in setting boundaries with your parents, even when it feels wildly uncomfortable to do so. Discover why setting...

There is a right time and a wrong time to parent your kids, and when you are stuck in dysregulation and anger, this is the wrong time.   I share a 3-step process to help you move from reactive parenting to responsive parenting. Hear one of the best ways I know to work on your triggers and reactiveness to them, and how to manage your thoughts and change your behavior to become the responsive p...

Do you feel like you are at the end of your rope with no option to deal with your kids other than to yell? Do you ever feel trapped in the cycle of resorting to physical and verbal punishment when your kids' behavior pushes you to your limit?   Learn how to break the generational parenting cycle and create connection with your kids instead of fear and compliance. Discover the importance of mo...

Witnessing your child in pain is one of the hardest things you can experience as a parent. You might think it's your job as a parent to fix all their problems, fight all their battles, or soothe all their heartaches, and it's natural to want to rescue your kids from their suffering. But this week, I share a different perspective and show you why doing so is a problem.   Find out why you are a...

I am so excited to welcome an incredible guest to the show this week. Kiva Schuler is the Founder and CEO of the Jai Institute for Parenting, the world's leading parent coach training institute. Kiva is a very special person in my life. She is a friend, a mentor, a sister, and a colleague in this revolution of changing the world one family at a time, and she joins me this week to share more about...

Do you often feel pressured to do things right in the eyes of others? Do you parent in a way that tries to avoid the judgment of other parents? In this episode, I'm sharing why so many of us have a fear of doing things "wrong" and why your worth and value are not determined by your actions or your ability as a parent. Learn how to know if you are a people-pleaser, why this is showing up in your li...

In this episode, I'm showing you what to do when your co-parent responds differently to you in their parenting and sharing a different approach that will work beautifully to help the situation while creating deeper connection for all involved. Learn how to get on the same page as your co-parent while still maintaining a peaceful parenting approach and a powerful tool you can use to help ensure all...

I'm declaring 2023 the year of unconditional love and connection, so to welcome in the new year this week, I'm bringing you a replay of an episode that is more important than ever to hear. Tune in this week to hear 10 things I know for sure about real world peaceful parenting. These 10 things are absolute game-changers when it comes to your parenting, so learn how to apply them in your life to tra...

How's it going at your house this holiday season? Are your kids expressing the level of gratitude that you expected for their gifts? Instead of just giving you information on the topic of gratitude, coaching gives you the opportunity to create transformation in your own life, so don't miss this coaching call with Gail to hear my thoughts on gratitude when it comes to gift-giving. I encourage you t...

Your kids are going to storm around the holidays; you might as well add it to your calendar with the rest of the festive activities. But the important question is, despite all this, will you give them the most beautiful gift available this holiday season? This week, I'm showing you how to hold space for your children during this time without making their behavior mean they are difficult or ungrate...

In this episode, I'm giving you a fresh perspective on Elf on the Shelf and showing you how to use it for connection and cooperation, not threats and punishments. I'm encouraging you to move away from bribery, rewards, and fear-based parenting around the holidays and showing you why you need to keep in mind that they can bring extra stress, excitement, intensity, and anxiety for your kids, without...

To celebrate the 100th episode, I wanted to bring you something extra special, and boy, are you in for a treat today! I am joined by a group of amazing, progress-not-perfection parents who are all members of The Hive, and they are here to share their experiences of being in The Hive and how their parenting has changed as a result. Hear the dramatic changes they've experienced since joining The Hiv...

What are your expectations of your kids? If you get real honest, do you expect your kids to know what you want when you want it? I get it, no judgment. In this episode, I'm diving into expectations, resentment, and parenting and showing you how to get clear on your own expectations of your kids. I'm sharing what expectations really are, two things that are working against us in our parenting, why...

Did you know that holding space for your kids and staying regulated while they are storming is one of the absolute most important things you can do to build connection with your kids? We are so quick to take storms personally, and it can be difficult to hold space for our kids in the moment. But doing so is crucial in building connection. This is something we all need reminding of, so this week I'...

Hear more about Kimberly's experience of healing her own inner childhood wounds and how these were showing up in the way she was parenting her children. I'm sharing some questions to ask yourself when you are having a giant reaction to your child's behavior, how to recognize where your own inner wounds could be showing up in your parenting, and some tips to help you parent from a neutral place. &n...

In this episode, I'm encouraging you to dig into your anger and showing you how to start using it as a beacon in your parenting. I'm sharing my own experiences with anger as a parent, how I learned to change my approach to dealing with anger, and some tips to help you use anger to create more cooperation with your children.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://thepeacefulp...

Do you identify as a run-of-the-mill worrier, an expert one, or the ultimate catastrophizer? In this episode, I'm showing you how to recognize catastrophizing showing up for you and some tips to help you manage it. I'm sharing how this has shown up for me in my own life and the effects it had, why you have full, complete control over your worrying even though it doesn't feel like it, and how to st...

In this episode, I'm sharing the concept of The Productivity Quadrant and showing you how to use it to start feeling more recharged, refreshed, and rejuvenated in your life. Find out how you may be doing things that you think are productive but are actually robbing you of your energy and restoration, and some examples of how you can apply this work in your own life to start feeling more energized....

Connection is something that we should give through the good, the bag, the storming, and the regulated. In this episode, find out why building connection with your children is one of the most important tools you can understand and implement as a parent. Hear why it's not always about how you  choose to connect, but about your child feeling seen, heard, and valued, and how to use connection as...

I'm sharing more about why teenagers suddenly need more freedom and autonomy and some ways you can satisfy this need for your own teen. I'm sharing an amazing exercise you can do together to teach your teen about autonomy, and 8 tools you can implement when your teen is begging for more freedom.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://thepeacefulparent.com/92