Real Recovery Talk

Here we are with Real Recovery Talk! Ben and I are driving and podcasting at the same time today, we are here having our car chat and recording this episode. Have you considered an addict that you need to be managed? This is a hard proposition to accept, as we want to feel in control of our lives. Much of the management is in the context of timelines and includes goals. Ultimately, you and your me...

Here we are with Real Recovery Talk! Let's find out what the five stages of change are and how you could be enabling your loved one to stay addicted to drugs and alcohol. Addicts can transfer from one stage to another daily. There are many different factors in the addict's life, which will play into what stage the addict is currently experiencing. This episode is not only for those who are addicte...

Here we are with Real Recovery Talk! Ben is hosting our show today with our guest Johnny, a recovered alcoholic and drug addict and part of the team at Futures Recovery Health Care in Jupiter, Florida. Johnny grew up in a financially stable household and was a very privileged child, attended prep school, and expected people to always tell him he was brilliant. He graduated from college and landed...

Here we are with Real Recovery Talk! Ben is with me today, and we are going to talk about what you can expect from day 31 on when you are a recovering addict. The first thirty days are all about detox and living in a safe environment. The next phase for patients is intensive outpatient treatment. You can easily underestimate how well you will do after 30 days and may want to skip this phase, howev...

5 Min or Less Original Song by Ben B! Visit: www.realrecoverytalk.com for all the episodes Ben and I Can be reached at: Ben@realrecoverytalk.com Tom@realrecoverytalk.com Also Follow us on FB and YouTube @RealRecoveryTalk Original song with a message for today! Everyone experiences pain. Whether it be addiction, trauma, mental health, or the like. These are just a few examples. My question to you i...

Here we are with Real Recovery Talk! Do you know someone who is considering going to a treatment facility for up to 30 days? Today, I'm going to talk about how you most likely won't be cured by going to treatment for 30 days. There are a few people who have been successful after just 30 days; however, they are few and far between. The first day of treatment consists of detox, which generally range...

5 Min or Less Visit: www.realrecoverytalk.com for all the episodes Ben and I Can be reached at: Ben@realrecoverytalk.com Tom@realrecoverytalk.com Also Follow us on FB and YouTube @RealRecoveryTalk Just want to say thank you! Tom and I just wanted to take a moment to thank everybody for allowing us to be a part of their recovery. In this segment we discussed a few phone calls that we received in th...

5 Min or Less Visit: www.realrecoverytalk.com for all the episodes Ben and I Can be reached at:   Ben@realrecoverytalk.com Tom@realrecoverytalk.com Also Follow us on FB and YouTube @RealRecoveryTalk When we only have very little sober time, we should hang with people that have more sober time than us! When we have a few years sober, we should hang with people that have very little sober time! The...

5 Min or Less Visit: www.realrecoverytalk.com for all the episodes Ben and I Can be reached at:   Ben@realrecoverytalk.com Tom@realrecoverytalk.com Also Follow us on FB and YouTube @RealRecoveryTalk I love you man! In this excerpt, I discuss the importance of brotherly love in recovery. It is not weak to tell another man you love him. Many of us were raised to think that we have to be big, strong,...

5 Min or Less No need for a romantic relationship at this time! Visit: www.realrecoverytalk.com for all the episodes \Ben and I Can be reached at: Ben@realrecoverytalk.com Tom@realrecoverytalk.com Also Follow us on FB and YouTube @RealRecoveryTalk There is a reason why people suggest to not get into a relationship when establishing a foundation of sobriety. When we get sober we need to focus on no...

Here we are with Real Recovery Talk! Have you or someone you loved relapsed back into drug and alcohol addiction? Today, I'm going to talk about five different types of mindsets, which can lead to relapse. If you notice yourself or your loved one in one of these mindsets, make sure to reach out and get support and help - avoid the relapse cycle! The first mindset to watch out for is complacency. W...

5 Min or Less Prioritizing time when getting sober Visit: www.realrecoverytalk.com for all the episodes Ben and I Can be reached at: Ben@realrecoverytalk.com Tom@realrecoverytalk.com Also Follow us on FB and YouTube @RealRecoveryTalk When getting sober we find that we are likely unemployed, lacking any meaningful relationships with family or loved ones due to our addiction, and have a lot of extra...

Often times people will look at failure as a setback. I encourage you to look at failure as an opportunity to improve. When people relapse continuously it's easy for them to fall into the mindset of "I will never be sober". This is unrealistic thinking, just because we relapse doesn't mean we're not going to ever be able to achieve long-term sobriety. This does not lessen the effect of relapse. We...

5 Min or Less   There are certain things that we can do when in early recovery that will help us feel better mentally emotionally and spiritually. It is vital for us to do all three of these in conjunction with our support program and or treatment. These three things are:   Exercise: 🏃🏃‍♀️🏀🏊‍♂️ move a muscle change a thought. This doesn't mean that we have to take on CrossFit, powerlifting or...

5 Min or Less Visit: www.realrecoverytalk.com for all the episodes   Ben and I Can be reached at:   Ben@realrecoverytalk.com Tom@realrecoverytalk.com   Also Follow us on FB and YouTube @RealRecoveryTalk When having a conversation with somebody it's important that we try and practice active listening. Active listening will let that person know that we hear them, although we may not be able to relat...

Check out my new website where you can download any episode right from my site along with other useful information for those in recovery. Look for our new daily shows, which are five minutes or under! Listen in for yourself or for a friend. You can also find our new short episodes on our Facebook page . Today Ben and I will talk about the importance of helping other people in sobriety and why this...

5 Min or Less It is not weak to admit defeat! I am an addict. I am an alcoholic.   In this video we discuss the importance of qualifying. We have the only disease, that tells us we don't have   it, that has to be self diagnosed. If I do not admit to myself that I have a problem, I am most likely not going to seek out a solution. Admitting that I am an alcoholic or a drug addict, is simply stating...

Does it need to be said? Does it need to be said by me? Does it need to be said by me right now? After putting down the drink and drug, my next goal was to figure out how to live life. How can I live life in such a way that minimizes anxiety, worry, resentment or the like? I know that if I live my life feeling these negative feelings as a constant, I will eventually go back to the "ease and comfor...

You are who you surround yourself with! The people that we choose to hang around with will directly affect the level of success we achieve throughout our sobriety. If we choose to hang out with losers, we will lose. If we choose to hang with winners, we will win. This goes for anybody in life. Not just people getting sober. If you want to be a successful business person then hang out with successf...

So you think you know what it means to surrender in recovery? A term that gets thrown around a lot in recovery is the word surrender. It sounds good when you say it, but do you really know what it means? Do you really know what you're committing to? I thought surrender meant to go over to the winning side, or give up. Come to find out, it means "to agree to the terms of peace." Meaning, if you wan...

5 Min or Less   You Gotta Put In the Work! please visit www.realrecoverytalk.com Follow @realrecoverytalk Join @realrecoverytalksupportgroup   If you are going to take the plunge into getting sober, you have to understand that it is going to take a lot of hard work. I sometimes think that people are under the misconception that getting sober is just about stopping using drugs and alcohol. That is...

5 min or Less     I can see straight through your "stage-character!"   There is a reason 30 days is not enough to get to the underlying issues and the root of the problem.   Every client comes into treatment presenting their stage character. This is the person that they want everybody to think they are, so they can get the reputation they think they deserve.   Funny thing is, this usually gives wa...

Check out my new website where you can download any episode right from my site along with other useful information for those in recovery. Look for our new daily shows, which are five minutes or under! Listen in for yourself or for a friend. You can also find our new short episodes on our Facebook page . Today I will talk about the process and path of a person moving from being a "normie" to using...

MTV Real World: "the halfway house" In this video I will discuss the abundance of stimulus one feels while living in a sober support community. There is always something entertaining going on. It is the excitement of a new environment. It is the chaos of living with others. I discuss this topic to bring awareness and preparation for the day that you move out into the adult world. All of a sudden y...

Have you ever tried having a conversation with someone and it just isn't going the way that you thought that it would? 🙋🏻‍♂️ I know for myself when someone is not responding to me in the way I don't want to be responded to, I get on the defense. I will start to justify why I am right and you are wrong, I will get angry, I will get defensive and in the end it's not a productive conversation at al...