Real Life Mentoring

Have you ever tried hard in a relationship — showed up, helped, talked, served — and the other person still felt distant? It’s frustrating and confusing. And often it leads people to one conclusion: “Maybe we just aren’t compatible.” But many struggling relationships don’t have a love problem. They have an understanding problem. Every person has relational needs — specific ways they experience car...

Today concludes part three of the series: Image of a Mentor. Today's image: soldier. In the Bible, soldiers are often seen as symbols of authority, discipline and power They are also associated with faith, obedience and spiritual warfare. As a soldier, a mentor helps a mentee identify their enemies such as an unhealthy mindset about themselves or others. Giving them tools to fight the enemy such a...

Today continues the images of a mentor as Chris and Christina discuss the traits of an athlete and compare them to a mentor. An athlete, according to Google, is most commonly a person who competes in one or more sports involving physical strength, speed, power or endurance. Some characteristics of an athlete that can be compared to that of a mentor include: Being intrinsically motivated Endurance...

Often visual images help us picture concepts in more concrete forms. Today, Chris and Christina will introduce a three part series of images to help form a picture of a mentor: farmer, athlete, soldier. According to google, a farmer's responsibilities can vary depending on their specialty. The same is definitely true of a mentor. Some characteristics of a farmer: Hard physical work patience consis...

Mentoring should be personal, practical, meaningful and effective. That's the lens in which Chris and Christina look through one-on-one mentoring. Today, guest Davey Blackburn shares his story through pain and suffering and how it led to a beautiful, healing and redeeming story of God's faithfulness. In 2015, Davey lost his wife, Amanda of 7 years and his unborn baby in a random shooting spree in...

The fuel for today's podcast is based on the initial viewing of Beyond Weightloss , a documentary hosted by Keith Kline. Are you like most of us who find it difficult to get and stay motivated? In today's episode, Chris and Christina discuss the topic of motivation. Did you know there are three levels of motivation: Level One: Fear based motivation. This gets your attention, may elicit immediate c...

As Chris and Christina jump into a new year, they suggest taking some time to look back. In looking back, what are some things you need to grieve? In looking back, what are some things you need to celebrate? In every transition, this is a great exercise to engage not just yourself but a mentee. Taking time to grieve loss while at the same time to celebrate success is a worthwhile task. Chris and C...

Over the years, Christina has found that there seems to be reoccurring themes that come up when mentoring. Often, mentors give advice, ask questions, make observations and generalize to help a mentee see more clearly. This is exactly what today's episode reveals. Christina walks us through the "top 10" pieces of advice, questions, observations and generalizations that she has given to women or rec...

Knowing our self-worth begins from feeling cared for and nurtured by our parents. Knowing our self-worth and being genuinely confident does not just happen it must be shown, talk about and lived out. That's where a good mentor comes in! Today, Chris and Christina jump into the topic of self-worth. Where does it come from? How does it get distorted? What role does social media and advertising play?...

You can grow up in the same household and yet have differing perspectives. How does that happen? Today we will find out how that happened in the Elledge household. Kim Cary joins Chris and Christina as they discuss the stories that siblings share. Kim is the youngest sister of the Elledge family in which Chris is the oldest brother. Growing up in poverty, dysfunction and never really communicating...

Kim Cary returns to talk about how God gave her the most incredible "R" words during one of the most difficult seasons she's experienced. In today's interview, Chris and Christina dive into how Kim received these powerful words. Release was the first word, given during her difficult journey of caring for her aging mother. Rest followed a year later as she knew rest was exactly what she needed as s...

When most men come to church, they are searching for more than a worship service. They are hoping for a genuine connection with other men where they can be vulnerable and transparent. When men connect at a heart level, they will most likely want to be a part of the church and will, as a result, lead their family in that involvement. This is the basic idea that Chris leads with in today's episode....

Today, Chris and Christina continue to discuss "The Big Six", a podcast episode of Adam Young's The Place We Find Ourselves. In his episode, The Big Six, Adam talks about the way children's brains development based upon the level of care and kindness in the family environment. The "Big Six" are the six things you needed from your parents: Attunement Responsiveness Engagement Ability to Regulate Yo...

Today, Chris and Christina discuss a recent podcast hosted by Adam Young (licensed clinical social worker with a master degree in social work (Virginia Commonwealth University) and Divinity (Emory University), host of podcast The Place We Find Ourselves and Fellow with The Allender Center). In his episode, The Big Six, Adam talks about the way children's brains development based upon the level of...

Integrity builds trust. Trust is essential for good relationships. At the end of the day, this podcast is all about relationships. Today, Chris and Christina talk about the disease of partial integrity. Disease: illness, sickness, infection, ailments, disorder, affliction We don't allow a disease to stay in our bodies. If you have an illness, the doctor asks for your symptoms. Just like a doctor m...

No script! Today, Chris and Christina recount their spontaneous thoughts about the power of connection. Why do we connect? How do we connect? Where do we connect? If you have a best friend, co-worker, spouse or children it is important to connect. The concept of connecting well with others get explored today in depth! Sponsor for today's show: Commercial Brick . For more information, please click...

Today, Chris and Micheal pick back up with their talk about the loss and grief they have experienced through death of a loved one as well as the benefits of talking about death, the reason why we don't talk about death, and why as a trusted Mentor, you could have the privilege of initiating one the most important conversations with others. At Fahrenheit: Real Life Mentoring, we care about and enga...

At Fahrenheit: Real Life Mentoring, we care about and engage the whole person. We are spiritual, physical, mental, emotional, relational, and professional/educational. Jesus talked about his own death repeatedly. He didn’t run from the fact that his life would be cut short or try to hide that from his followers. He talked openly about it and I believe it helped him stay focused on what He was here...

Today, Nathan Brewer joins Chris and Christina once again to discuss The Working Genius. The Working Genius Model is the fastest way to find out what kind of work brings you joy and energy and the simplest way to maximize your team's productivity. In today's podcast, Nathan will give a short review based on the past two episodes. Then he will go into the dynamics of using The Working Genius in mar...

Today, Chris and Christina continue the conversation with Nathan Brewer on The Working Genius. The Working Genius Model is the fastest way to find out what kind of work brings you joy and energy and the simplest way to maximize your team's productivity. The Working Genius can bring clarity to you in the workplace as you discover how you best operate in and how your "genius" brings you joy in your...

Today, Nathan Brewer joins Chris and Christina once again to discuss The Working Genius. The Working Genius Model is the fastest way to find out what kind of work brings you joy and energy and the simplest way to maximize your team's productivity. Today kicks off a three-part series in which Nathan will help you, the listener, understand how The Working Genius can bring clarity to you in the workp...

Words are powerful. We've all been on the receiving end of words that built us up or unfortunately tore us down. But how many times has a conversation changed your life? Today Chris and Christina take a look at how a conversation has the power to potentially change your life. They give some examples from their own lives of conversations that were used to impact the trajectory of their lives as wel...

The foundation of family is important. Building tools that keep these relationships healthy takes intentional effort over time. By way of what NOT to do, today Chris and Christina talk about the top 12 ways that choosing these repeated behaviors could potentially damage the relationships within your family. If you enjoy the content that Real Life Mentoring puts out each week, consider becoming a d...

Today Chris and Christina continue their conversation with Shannon Irwin. Picking up from the last weeks episode in which Shannon talks about her own journey with mentoring, today she talks about her role in the public school system. In her role as New Teacher Liaison, Shannon has the opportunity to mentor Mentor Teachers. She talks about how mentoring looks like on the job, what benefits are prov...

In today's episode, Chris and Christina interview Shannon Irwin. Shannon is a wife, mother, soon to be mother-in-law, school teacher and mentor. She candidly shares how not having a mentor in her early years affected her. She also talks about the role mentors played in her life to give her tools that have benefited her today. You won't want to miss today's interview on Shannon's journey with mento...