Real-ationship Goals

Y'all compromise is hard but it's so essential to healthy, equitable relationships. This week the hosts discuss the tension between the necessity of compromise and the non-negotiables we have within all of our relationships.  Arianna's Recommendation: Journaling (and especially the journals from Walmart) Access the episode transcript . Advocacy Center Crisis Hotline (254) 752-7233 or (888) 86...

None of us are perfect, and we all make mistakes. At the same time, growth is necessary in every relationship, and if there is not change after issues are confronted, that's a significant red flag. In this episode, we're talking about holding these two things in tension.  Other episodes of the podcast referenced in this episode: Gaslighting and Deflecting Responsibility Aleigh's Recommendatio...

We're back for season three of Real-ationship Goals! Access the trailer transcript here . Advocacy Center Crisis Hotline (254) 752-7233 or (888) 867-7233. Follow us on Instagram at @ACCVC_Prevention to connect with us and for more great content!

Starting a conversation about relationships, boundaries, and expectations can feel really daunting -- especially if that conversation is with a parent or a young person. So in this episode, we're hoping to give you some starters and ideas for how to engage those around you.  View the digital Table Topics conversation card deck. Listen to our interview with local high school students .  F...

How on earth do we model asking for consent to the people around us - especially when asking for something like a kiss can feel really awkward? In this episode, we're getting really practical about what it looks like to model asking for consent - as well as modeling "no" - every single day. Previous consent episodes: Season 1 and Season 2 Access the episode transcript . Advocacy Center Crisis Hotl...

Students have A LOT to say about who their partner can and can't talk to or hang out with while they're dating, about how it makes them feel when their best friend sits with someone else at lunch, and about how people can get upset if they don't respond to a text right away. Navigating space, boundaries, and time apart (physically and digitally) can be really difficult in a relationship, so we're...

Students have a LOT to say about sexting. And more specifically they have a lot to say about sending and receiving nude and explicit photos. Should we? Shouldn't we? Isn't it just a normal part of a relationship?  This can be a tricky and uncomfortable topic, so in this episode we're giving you some tips on what to do if you've been sent a photo without your consent and how to have conversati...

Students have a LOT to say about passwords. And more specifically they have a lot to say about whether or not they should be required to share their passwords with a romantic partner or even best friend. In this episode we're giving you some tips on how to set digital boundaries and have conversations about doing so with many people in your life. Access the episode transcript . Advocacy Center Cri...

In this episode Aleigh is joined by Alyssa, Kacy, and Savannah, three students from a local high school who participated in our programming this year, to talk all things relationships - what they've observed about relationships from their peers, what kind of relationships they see on TV, AND what they want all adults to know.   This is a special one, y'all. You don't want to miss it.&nbs...

Physical safety, emotional safety, and feeling safe to be yourself are all nonnegotiables in every relationship you're in. Aleigh's Recommendation: Fresh Ink by Lamar Giles (and others) Access the episode transcript . Advocacy Center Crisis Hotline (254) 752-7233 or (888) 867-7233. Follow us on Instagram at @ACCVC_Prevention to connect with us and for more great content!

You should feel safe in every single one of your relationships. Full stop. Today we're covering the not just unhealthy, but abusive characteristic of feeling or being unsafe in relationships.  If you or someone you know is in a relationship that is unsafe, several hotline numbers are listed below, including the Advocacy Center's. When you are ready, we encourage you to reach out to someone. R...

If equality in relationships isn't 50/50 all of the time, then what is it? Today Aleigh, Blythe, and Katie talk tennis, goats, and a new Netflix show as they breakdown what it means for our relationships to be equal and what it can look like. Blythe's Recommendation: Turn bandanas, handkerchiefs, or old t-shirts into reusable napkins!  Access the episode transcript .  Advocacy Center Cri...

As we start to wrap up the season, our last two unhealthy characteristics are two very important ones to be aware of. Today Aleigh, Blythe, and Katie are talking about inequality in relationships, and why someone having more power or control in a relationship is not just unhealthy but puts us on a path towards abusive relationships. You won't want to skip this one. Our hosts mentioned One Love and...

Trust, dessert, secrets - this episode packs a lot in as our hosts break down what trust is and what it looks like.  Katie's recommendation: Brené Brown's BRAVING Inventory Access the episode transcript . Advocacy Center Crisis Hotline (254) 752-7233 or (888) 867-7233. Follow us on Instagram at @ACCVC_Prevention to connect with us and for more great content!

If you live in Texas, do you remember the snowpocalypse of Feb. 2021 -- and how the following week was sunny and near 70 degrees? If you do, then you might have felt gaslit by the weather - or at least we did. So on this episode, we're break down and highlight the unhealthy characteristic of gaslighting because, honestly, it's a bit confusing and hard to grasp.  Blythe's Recommendation: Somet...

It can be easy to lose yourself in a relationship of any kind, so how do we make sure we stay true to who we are no matter who we're in relationship with? In this episode Aleigh, Blythe, and Katie talk all about the importance of independence in relationships. Aleigh's Recommendation: Reread your favorite book.  Access the episode transcript .  Advocacy Center Crisis Hotline (254) 752-72...

Having close friends and close relationships is so important -- but it can go too far when someone starts demanding they're our only close friend or close person. So how do we draw the line between isolation and just closeness? Aleigh, Katie, and Blythe wrestle with this and more in this episode about isolation. Katie's Recommendation: Beyond the Gender Binary by Alok Vaid-Menon Access the episode...

No ifs, ands, or buts -- well at least no "buts" when it comes to a good apology! We've been talking a lot this season about unhealthy relationship characteristics, and an essential piece to a healthy relationship (because we all make mistakes) is a good apology. Tune in to learn a bit more about some core tenets of a high quality apology.  We recommend reading through the rest of Dr. Harriet...

In this episode we're bringing you our healthy alternative to belittling, and hearing how Christmas lights help Aleigh acknowledge and see someone's full humanity.  Blythe's Recommendation: The Hundred Wells of Salaga by Ayesha Harruna Attah  More information on Love Bombing   Access the episode transcript .   Advocacy Center Crisis Hotline (254) 752-7233 or (888) 867-7233...

Ever have someone say "But I was just joking!" after they insulted you or made you feel small? It's the worst. In this episode Aleigh, Blythe, and Katie talk about this and other signs of belittling in your relationships. Aleigh's Recommendation: Breakfast Tacos Access the episode transcript .  Advocacy Center Crisis Hotline (254) 752-7233 or (888) 867-7233. Follow us on Instagram at @ACCVC_P...

Today we're talking about owning up to our mistakes and harmful behaviors and how "What Not to Wear" and Stacy London helped Blythe be accountable for one of hers. Katie's Recommendation: Man Enough Podcast Lizzo's Valentines Day Post Access the episode transcript .  Advocacy Center Crisis Hotline (254) 752-7233 or (888) 867-7233. Follow us on Instagram at @ACCVC_Prevention to connect with us...

Thanks to the timeless wisdom of Hannah Montana, we know that "Everyone makes mistakes / Everyone has those days". But while we might all make mistakes, it's important to be on the lookout for when someone isn't owning up to their mistakes or their harmful behaviors. Today's relationship red flag: deflecting responsibility.  Blythe's Recommendation: Cold brewing tea Access the episode transcr...

Whether Olivia Rodrigo, Doja Cat, or Nick Jonas are singing about it or you're feeling it, jealousy can find its way into our lives in a lot of ways. In the first episode of Season 2 we're talking all about jealousy, jealousy and how though it's a totally normal emotion it can be a major red flag in our relationships.  CORRECTION: We meant to define jealousy as a natural feeling of protective...

Whether you're texting, Snapping, Zooming, or chatting with a pal in person, we're communicating all the time with all sorts of people. So why can it be one of the most difficult things to get right in a relationship?  Aleigh's Recommendation: Netflix's "Love on the Spectrum" Access to the episode transcript.  Advocacy Center Crisis Hotline (254) 752-7233 or (888) 867-7233. Follow us on...

We're back with a brand new season of Real-ationship Goals! Advocacy Center Crisis Hotline (254) 752-7233 or (888) 867-7233. Follow us on Instagram at @ACCVC_Prevention to connect with us and for more great content!