Raw Conversations with Corinne Blum

We all have needs but many of them are unconscious, stemming from childhood, and we play them out through our ‘reactive’ behaviour in relationship. Needs are just a feeling that we require in a particular moment and situation. Unmet needs are a feeling we needed that we didn’t receive (most especially in childhood). The need could be for safety, validation, love, assurance, connection, truth worth...

If we believe that there are parts of us that are good and parts of us that are bad, if we believe that certain emotions are positive and therefore ok to feel and others are negative and therefore should be gotten rid of, we are living in duality within ourselves. When we’re in duality, we see things in black and white, good and bad, right and wrong and inevitably what that produces, is judgment....

Life isn’t linear, but cyclical and sometimes squiggly. It isn’t a constant forward and upward moving line, either. It ebbs and flows. It travels across various terrains. Sometimes it’s easeful and we’re riding a nice, long wave to the shore, and in other moments it’s tempestuous. Cultivating resilience and endurance is learning how to dance with life. Knowing that we’re in partnership with life,...

Self-trust is not something that happens over night, most especially in a society that doesn’t encourage us to listen to our true selves. It is something that is cultivated over time. First we have to get to know our true Self, which lies beneath all the false layers of who we think we should be for others. Next, we have to show up with presence and kindness with enough consistency that we begin t...

“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.” ― Rumi No matter what it is that we’re seeking in life, be it love, work, home, we often expend so much energy trying to “find” it. In the process of “looking,” we get tired, we lose hope, faith and the belief that what we’re seeking, we’ll find. In this episode I offer...

Stress, anxiety, worry, fear, all have a way of taking up a lot of our time and vitality if we let them. But we often try to “deal” with these by masking the symptoms. We’re a Bandaid culture that doesn’t often like to take the time to go a little deeper into the core of WHY we feel stressed, anxious, worried or scared. In this episode I talk about how stress plays out in our lives, how we tend to...

How often do you find yourself pretending? You might not be conscious of it but we often don’t share how we really are, not only with others but sometimes, more importantly, with ourselves. We’ll distract ourselves from the discomfort, we’ll push down the pain, we’ll avoid the sadness…but there’s no ‘away.’ There is only repression and at one point or another, we will have to face what’s inside of...

*Correction: around 30 minutes what I meant to say is:” never has it felt bad to put my ego to the side and apologise when I was wrong. When I found humility and maturity. I think my brain thought I said it out loud but I don’t think the words came out that way! 😊. A lot of our suffering comes from the over identification with our thoughts, feelings and behaviours. We believe we ARE them…but we’r...

I believe that the more we get to know ourselves, the more liberation, happiness, fulfilment and peace we create for ourselves. When I was introduced to the Enneagram in my early/mid twenties, it gave me a context to understand myself more. I felt so relieved in a way, thinking, “Oh wow, I’m not the only one that feels this way?!” But more so, it helped me understand the underbelly of who I am. Ho...

Dating isn’t so easy these days for singles. Some of you might be from a generation that you remember what dating was like before smart phones and dating apps; it could only happen organically. Some of you might be from a generation where you’ve never met someone in an organic way but only through apps. It’s a strange time for dating for everyone. But no matter which way you choose to date, how to...

This is really only the beginning of a much vaster conversation. Really, I’d like to speak more to women and men directly, and gather their stories and share more based on what I learn from them. Already I’ve had men especially, reaching out wanting to share their thoughts and experiences. Both women and men alike, have their plight. And I believe much of it comes down to an unhealthy society that...

Yesterday I hit the wall and I felt vulnerable for it. I had a good cry. Today I’m sharing a little about hitting the wall. About not knowing or of knowing that somehow “here” doesn’t feel right, but I can’t yet see where “there” is and how to get there. I don’t have answers but all I can say is that many, if not all of us, are undergoing great transition and the dragging on of it is frustrating....

There is an illusion that comes through wanting to control others or the environment around us. What I mean by that is, we believe that if we can control someone or something else around us, that we’ll feel safe. But safety can’t be conditional and dependent on something outside of us because the reality is we don’t have control of anyone or anything outsides of ourselves. We only have control ove...

Confidence isn’t something you acquire from the outside. Confidence naturally comes when you become comfortable within yourself, and in order to feel comfortable within yourself, you have to get comfy with the parts that make you feel uncomfortable. That’s a mouthful! You can say affirmations, sure. You can do things that make you feel good, sure. Ultimately though, confidence arises when we’ve le...

What is intimacy? What does it require? Why are we afraid of it? Why is intimacy so important? Intimacy is all about heart and it requires us to reside in our heart so that we can connect to others. But our hearts are both powerful and tender so there is great vulnerability and even risk that comes with intimacy. Ultimately, intimacy begins with being intimate with ourselves and being intimate wit...

You’re not a project because you’re not broken and therefore there’s nothing to fix, or even accomplish. I wish I could give you a step 1,2,3 on how to do this life business, but if it were that linear, life would come with a manual. For me, this work isn’t about “doing,” at least it doesn’t start from there. It’s about “being.” How are we “being” with ourselves. Are we being kind or mean? Are we...

The main things that keep us from feeling liberated within ourselves are: our story, judgment and expectations. There will always be an element of struggle and suffering in life, but there’s no need for the unnecessary suffering that comes through all the ways in which we keep ourselves small, put ourselves down or feel like we’re failing at life. One of the greatest intentions I hold in my work,...

Sometimes we simply don’t have the capacity to meet someone’s needs and vice-versa. When we do the inner work, we begin to see life and others through a clear, more neutral lens. Our perspective is less tinted and tainted by our own wounds, triggers and unmet needs. When we’ve healed our wounds and tended to our triggers and know how to show up for ourselves with acceptance, love and care, we can...

What if there was nothing wrong with you? What if there was no problem to fix, or nothing to get rid of? What if you knew that you are innately good enough and worthy but maybe there are just parts of you that need your loving attention? How would that change things? And how would it feel to know that you are not your behaviour? That sure, we all need to be accountable for our behaviour, but that...

We don’t like to talk about the messy parts of being human because we’ve been taught and told to believe that there are “good” parts of us and “bad” parts of us—which is totally untrue. We’ve been told we need to be perfect, happy and positive all the time. That some emotions and states of being are positive and others are negative and to stay well away from the “negative” ones. But in doing so, w...

If we want to change the world we have to change ourselves but changing ourselves doesn’t mean that we’re not good enough as we are. It just means that we need to drop into our heart and fall into love and the way to do that is by accepting our entire humanity. We do have the power to change the world. All it would require would be to drop into our hearts and raise our frequency but the challenge...

I’ve learned that humility is such a key part of being human and embracing our humanity—all of it. That the more I soften, surrender, trust and remain curious, the more life flows. The deeper and more connected our relationships become. The more easeful this experience becomes even when things get tough—because they inevitably will and do get tough at times. The more you know, you realise you know...

Cultivating self-awareness is really the starting point to this journey of getting to know yourself. Without self-awareness we’re at the mercy of our lives and unconscious behaviours, which include our triggers, traumas, wounding, limiting self-beliefs etc. Without self-awareness we’ll continue to replicate the same patterns of behaviour, the same dynamics of relationship, not much will really cha...

We all resist at times. We resist our experience, how we’re feeling, our pain and discomfort. But the more we resist, the greater our state of tension becomes. The more we resist, the more layers of density we build up over time. And the more layers we cake on, the more afraid we become, which in turn makes us resist more. It becomes a vicious cycle. We want to be in a state of relaxation—which do...

Relationship is such a vast topic, rich with content. Whether you’re single longing to be in relationship, or are in a partnership, relationship can be a central focus of our lives. When talking about relationship the immediate question is: what is our relationship to relationship? Which basically means, what is our relationship to love and attachment? Relationship is an amazing catalyst for heali...