Raising Elite Competitors

Talk to most athletes and they’ll say that they want to “level up.” This desire is the first step. Unfortunately, that won’t take most athletes far enough. What separates those athletes that want to level up and those that actually do? In my experience playing at the collegiate level, being a head coach for the past 10 years, and as a mindset coach for high-performing athletes, the ones that actua...

I recently surveyed our Elite Competitor Society moms/coaches, asking: “What kills your daughter’s confidence the most when it comes to her sport/performance?” Turns out, there are a few things that moms of female athletes agree on that cut their athlete daughter’s confidence the most.  So, let’s face them head on!  Note: All three of these confidence cutters deserve their own separate discussions...

I started getting good at volleyball around my sophomore year when I finally started to grow into my 6ft frame.  I was playing a lot. I started getting noticed... by colleges, other teams, and coaches.  My teammates also noticed. And some didn’t like it... I can remember the snarky comments.. “She thinks she’s so good…” The subtle eye rolls when coach would announce the starting lineup.  And wanti...

The comparison game can be a tricky one.  It can easily leave athletes feeling defeated, discouraged, and distracted. (And let’s face it, this doesn’t just happen with athletes!) Comparison is a part of life that is hard (impossible, maybe) to get away from. We are naturally inclined to compare our abilities, situations, appearances, etc. to those around us.  But, what if our athletes could actual...

How often have you seen this scenario with your female athlete... She had a pretty good game. Maybe she competed well and did a lot of great things. However, she can’t stop thinking and talking about that ONE mistake she made.  She's playing it over and over in her head and beating herself up.  Sound familiar? I used to be the same way as an athlete! It never seemed like anything was “good en...

Join basketball, volleyball, and track star Emma Behrmann as she shares her journey to confidence through the Elite Competitor Program! Highlights include: How she learned to overcome mistakes and failures Her struggle with perfectionism and how she shifted her focus to allow for healthy striving The key strategy she used to break free from caring about the opinions of others When asked what Emma...

We have a special interview with Tarah (mom) and Evelyn (athlete daughter) today! They're going to share their experience inside The Elite Competitor Program, Tarah ends by saying: "We really have loved this program. And I think that you and Kristina are such great encouragers and Evelyn's already looking up to you guys as role models and mentioning you guys at different times. And...

Here's a truth you need to know: Not all confidence is created equal. We all want it... Confidence. It’s what we truly desire for our athlete daughters, not only on the court/field, but in life.  The confidence to play to potential. To bounce back from mistakes. To play with tenacity. To perform consistently.  But, not all confidence is created equal and not all confidence gives the results w...

  Today, I want to fill you in on what I’ve noticed after 10 years of coaching female athletes to become mentally tough and confident. Some of the greatest benefits are actually occurring off the court and field! When most athletes and parents start to understand and utilize the power of mental training, it’s typically to help with things like: - Performance anxiety - Getting out of playing slumps...

We get what we repeat... your confidence is a lagging measure of your daily mindset habits. To get results,  athletes need to train their minds daily (not every once in a while).  Same goes for us, moms! Here’s three simple ways they can get started now: #1: Practice Productive Self-Talk We say over 50,000 things to ourselves daily! If we aren’t aware of what’s going on in our minds, these thought...

One common concern I hear from parents is this: “My daughter doesn’t feel like she’s good enough!” Good enough to be on the team… Good enough to compete with other athletes… Or, just that nothing she does will ever be “good enough”!  It can be hard as a parent, especially if you feel like you tell her all the time that she IS good, but she won’t believe it.  Below, I’ve compiled some key drivers i...

Elite Performance...it’s what our players are after, and what we want for our athletes, right? Athletes want so badly to... have confidence from the inside out have consistent performance play to potential  experience continuous improvement move past mistakes quickly come in clutch  And as parents and coaches, we want these things for our athletes, too. And it’s hard to know what to do when we not...

What if I told you that you could control the outcomes you get in life? That by simply making one shift, you can change the results you’re getting? See, the thing is that many athletes that I work with WANT something different - more playing time, better performance, to play at the higher level - but feel like they have no control over what’s happening in reality.  They get stuck in loops that kee...

If you’ve been in the sports world for any amount of time, you’ve probably heard of visualization.  And if you’re here, you probably have a hunch that it’s important.  I’m here to tell you you’re absolutely right!  Professional and elite athletes use visualization and imagery regularly as a part of their training and success.  The great news is that this is available to athletes of any age! And it...

Being “benched” or not getting the playing time athletes desire isn’t fun.  However, it’s bound to happen at some point in an athlete’s career. Usually the response to getting benched is negative and can easily cut a player’s confidence if she doesn’t have strategies to use when she finds herself on the sidelines.  Fortunately, there are some simple ways that athletes can regain their confidence i...

In working with thousands of female athletes, I’ve been able to see a wide range of personalities and behaviors on and off the court/field.  One that tends to baffle coaches and parents alike? Athletes that are shy, timid, or hold back during competition.  Sometimes accused of being “too nice,” these athletes have a tendency to back down when the competition gets fierce. They pull it back instead...

Alright parents, and coaches. I want you to give me a nod if you can relate to one of the following... Parents, you’re seeing your athlete do “all the things.” You’re providing opportunities for her, getting her private lessons even. You see the work she’s putting in, yet she still lacks confidence in herself and feels stuck.  Coaches, you’re experiencing the same thing on your teams. You provide...

  You can expect weekly episodes dedicated to inspiring and enabling female athletes to unlock their true potential. We'll bring you proven systems, strategies, and tips designed to address the underlying causes that are holding female athletes back from playing with confidence and elite performance. And we'll always include actionable ways to utilize high-quality mental training so that...