Raising Elite Competitors

Meditation and gratitude can change lives. I know that's a bold claim, but you will find through today’s conversation that the way our guest approaches these skills really is transformational and it will change your life and in turn, help your daughter. This is an opportunity for Sports Moms to do their own personal work as well to influence their daughter’s environment. Today, we're tal...

What do you say to your daughter when she’s beating herself after mistakes? Here’s a question from one of our Sports Moms Inner Circle moms relating to this kind of struggle.  “My daughter plays well in games, at least I think she does, but afterward, she won't stop beating herself up over a few mistakes. I usually try to tell her to move on and remember all the good things she did. However,...

How do we become the moms that our female athletes need? Do we have to know everything about their sport? Is it enough to just tell them to have fun during the competition? As a sports mom, you would no doubt raise these questions in your intent to support your athlete daughters. Do know that by raising these concerns, you have also made the first and most important step to be the parent that your...

Has your athlete daughter ever compared herself with another athlete? What did you tell her in response?  Today, we’ll talk about how to support our daughters when they start comparing themselves with others so that they can still steer towards their goals. In most most cases, when our daughters compare themselves with another female athlete, it triggers a downward spiral of thoughts that they’re...

One of the things that female athletes experience that’s different from male athletes is having to deal with the menstrual cycle. What can we do to alleviate some of the things that affect them while training during their period? Is it always a burden or an advantage? In this episode, we are going to be diving into female athletes' menstrual cycle, how that impacts their training, and how it...

Has your female athlete ever asked you how she played after the game? How did you respond to that?  This could be a real dilemma for many parents when it comes to giving athletic feedback. You could be torn between how to be a truthful mom and not acting out like you're the coach. If you have been to this arena, it helps to remember the different roles that you could play in your daughter&apo...

Your daughter must enjoy herself, and being an athlete is no exception. They also require time to be a child and a teenager. They require that breathing space. Our athletes' mental health is our top priority as mothers. It has a significant impact on how she navigates not only her sport but also her life. Many parents are left wondering - what can I do to help? To begin with, you're prob...

How do we help our female athletes excel and be the best at everything they do? And how do we recognize when it’s too much? Is your female athlete struggling to keep up with everything? There’s a thin line between doing your best and doing too much. Our daughters feeling immense pressure might be coming from a place of perfectionism and competitiveness. Let’s talk about the early signs of perfecti...

Are you worried about your daughter’s motivation this summer? Or, wondering what you can do to keep your athlete motivated and focused?  Summer is upon us! There will be more freedom in schedules, longer days, and vacations. But when it comes to helping your athlete daughter stay motivated— summer can be tricky!  Here's what I'm hearing from our community: “My daughter wants her "su...

Have you ever seen your female athlete get demotivated? Do you see external factors causing her to be demotivated?  It’s painful to watch your daughter get demotivated, especially when the negative feelings are caused by external factors such as her teammates, coaches, etc. We feel the urge to do something at these moments when the coach seems like the reason why the whole team is feeling down. “M...

What can a mom do to help their female athletes cope with confidence issues? Wanting to know what moms can do to help their female athletes is probably the first step and right thing to ask. It is what sports moms are expected to do. However, there are a lot of things that get overlooked in the process of trying to find the answers and solutions to the issue at hand. What most parents get wrong is...

When you see your female athlete losing interest to work on her goals, what do you do? Do you try to push/motivate her? Or do you stay still and let her figure it out on her own? As a parent, we can see our daughter's potential and capabilities, so whenever we notice her pulling back, what is the right thing to do? In today’s episode, we have the same kind of question from one of our ECP moms...

Do you think your female athlete is struggling due to stress or fatigue? Are you considering taking pills or medication for it? Jess Beal a sports pharmacist and our guest for today’s episode strongly advises moms on— “Skills over pills.”  The skills needed to overcome fatigue and have a healthy lifestyle are far more effective than taking pills to boost your energy. No supplement can replace a pr...

How can we help our female athletes get back up from a mistake and not shy away?  Here is a magic question to help your daughter with those moments she wants to let up and pull back. I believe so many parents have seen their daughter hesitate after making a mistake and pull back from trying again. One great strategy that is helpful in this situation is— asking the right questions.  We’re going to...

Do you feel that your female athlete can’t get out of her own negative thoughts? Does it seem like her one mistake is leading to the dreaded spiral of negative thinking and then more mistakes? Everything you say might not be getting through, and as her mom, you want to help her.  But how exactly can you help? The Spiral of Negative Thinking First off, we need to fully understand what the spiral of...

It's never too young for your athlete to start mindset training. The earlier the better!  There is an old belief that mental training or mindset training is only suitable for those kids in high school. There are a lot of parents who notice their child struggling but are concerned about their child being too young to be open about mental training.  In this episode, we’re gonna answer a questio...

What can you do if your daughter looks like she’s hesitating during competitions? As much as you believe in the skills your athlete shows during practice, she is the one living her thoughts during the game.  She has to have the tools to shift her thoughts herself. In this episode, we’re gonna tackle the differences between practice and competition. Her possible thoughts during the game and the rea...

How can I better support when my athlete loses her ambition? Have you had this question in mind? If you’re a mom resonating with this, recognize this feeling because it’s a hard place to be in. And many moms have experienced seeing their daughters “lose” ambition/motivation all the time.  What can we do in times like this? We can’t expect them to always be on fire, but what could be the reason beh...

How can getting "more reps" actually make your athlete worse? As moms, we all want our athletes to level up. We wish to see her play to her full potential, lessen minor mistakes, and reach the next level in her favorite sport. And whenever we see our daughter struggle to keep up, we often resort to getting “more reps”. More gym time. More reps. More time on the field/court/pool.  Physica...

What's the difference between perfectionism and healthy striving?  It appears that there is a narrow line that separates the two, and many mothers have asked the same question. This is a great question because I have yet to meet a female athlete who does not suffer from perfectionism in some way. And a lot of athletes mistakenly believe that perfectionism is the reason they are good at their...

What words do you say to your athlete after a long game? What words do you say to yourself throughout your daughter’s sports journey? Truth be told, it’s not the BIG wins that are going to be ingrained in your daughter’s memory, it’s the little moments. Looking back at my experience with my mom, I hardly remember those wins. I always remember the car ride to the tournaments with my mom and stoppin...

Elite Athletes use performance anxiety to their advantage! A lot of moms are stating their girls are having trouble with performance anxiety, whether it's overthinking, not performing at their best, hesitating, or just having that overpowering feeling. of being nervous. Performance anxiety can be seen as a problem, but it can also be used to the athletes advantage .   Elite athletes have pre-...

Elite Competitor Society member,  Alexanne Hendrick  asks: My daughter plays on a highly competitive team where playing time is hard to come by. She's playing more timid because of this. Any tips to help?  For an opportunity to have your question answered, make sure to submit it in the Elite Competitor Society ! Register for the Summer Strong Mental Game Bootcamp! We kick-off June 24th (regis...

What is the most important step that all athletes and parents must take to get recruited to college?  I know a lot of athletes in our community want to embark on this journey. And there are a lot of sports moms out there who are thinking, "I don't even know where to start in this process," and it can be overwhelming. But there are steps you can take to get the process right. Togethe...

If you want better results for your athletes, forget about setting goals. Instead, concentrate on your system. That's what James Clear meant when he said that we don't rise to our goals, but instead, fall to the level of our system. Parents frequently believe that their athletes will "figure it out" and achieve whatever goal they set. Yes. The goal is critical. It is critical f...