Raising Daughters

Show Notes: Understanding why your teen is disrespectful will help you stay more detached and supportive. The many ways we disrespect teenagers: School: early start times, expecting every teen to be a perfect generalist, parents and teachers focusing on achievement over character We label and medicate strongminded, independent, powerful kids vs. understand their growing edges and providing outlets...

Show Notes: If you want to remain an influence in your daughter’s life, avoid these 8 mistakes parents make in listening. 8 Mistakes parents make when listening: Stop giving me advice! Just listen, mirror, and empathize without trying to reassure, fix, or problem-solve; when girls share they shift from their amygdala & emotional centers into their prefrontal cortex where reason can supplant emotio...

Show Notes: Understanding what your emotions are teaching you normalizes them & aids girls in managing them. Feelings Meanings: see feelings as vital sources of information, motivation, and they are trustworthy. Emotional distress often prompts our most growth-giving actions and lessons. We need to help girls get comfortable with the reality that they will at times have to live with emotional disc...

Show Notes: The following 3 issues are current plagues that are damaging girls: good girl conditioning, the lack of down time and unstructured play, and early specialization in sports and activities. Dr. Jordan describes how girls experience unhealthy good girl conditioning. He describes lists of qualities of good girls, bad girls, and real girls derived from discussions at his retreats and camps....

Show Notes: Learn the many reasons why girls may feel lonely & disconnected, including friendship drama & social media Dr. Jordan shows mental health stats of college women, including large numbers who feel very lonely and isolated. You will also hear stats about the high level of loneliness and disconnection amongst today’s adults. Dr. Jordan describes the many reasons behind girls feeling lonely...

Show Notes: Author Dr. Sheila Ohlsson discusses her book, Wise Decisions, and how to teach girls how to make better choices The following are topics discussed with author Dr. Sheila Ohlsson: How to reframe old negative beliefs that become girl’s harmful inner voice How girls can create their own end in mind, or per Dr. Ohlsson, their Y.O.D.A. your own decision advisor, to help direct their decisio...

Show Notes: Teach your daughter how to be aware of & trust her gut alarms & what blunts them, set firm boundaries, create criteria for sexuality before dating, & how to find non-sexual ways to experience intimacy. In a fictional letter to his daughter, a dad imparts some wisdom to help her take care of herself on prom night. This advice includes: Don’t buy into the cultural myth that prom is a com...

Show Notes: Dorothy’s heroine’s journey illustrates how girls must face their fears and overcome adversities in order to gain the strength and resources to face the adult world. Dr. Jordan briefly describes the heroine’s journey that all girls must embark on in order to grow into strong, courageous adults. Dr. Jordan’s Heroine’s journey podcast 8-5-21 Using many examples from the movie, Dr. Jordan...

Show Notes: Overblown parental fears regarding stranger danger adds undo anxiety to children and zaps their confidence. Every generation has offered things for parents to worry about including: abductions, teen predators, cyberbullying, online predators, Aids, STDs, teen pregnancy, social media, war of drugs, and vaping. Kids have learned that the need a phone to feel safe and to have constant con...

Show Notes: Listen in and learn some ways that parents may be contributing to or causing their daughter’s anxiety. Ways that parents cause anxiety in their children: Kids reflect the adults around them: kids may mirror their parent’s anxieties and worries. This is especially true for parents who have an untreated anxiety disorder Kids may respond to traumatic experiences like child abuse or parent...

Show Notes: Listen to 4 young adults candidly explain their fears about growing up and settling like their parent’s generation. Dr. Jordan presents data showing how the life path of young adults today is so much different than in previous generations. Learn about a new stage in their life span called emerging adulthood and how it impacts their mental health and plans. Dr. Jordan also presents data...

Show Notes: Topics discussed in this podcast: Should girls be allowed to wear sexy outfits to school? Dances? Going to parties? How are school dress codes damaging to girls? What can parents do to support their daughters with this issue? Old beliefs drive decisions about dress codes: that the female body is inherently tempting and leads to sin, so cover it! School dress codes tend to target girls...

Show Notes: Can we please find better alternatives then the military for young adults to experience risk, adventure, mission, and purpose? Dr. Jordan was inspired to do this podcast after reading three books: Pat Tillman: Where Men Win Glory; Into Thin Air by Jon Krakauer; a soon to be published book from his friend Ginny Luther about her son Bart’s military experience Pat Tillman was an active, i...

Show Notes: Learn the evolutionary, brain, and hormonal reasons behind dating and falling in love Evolution:  Romantic love evolved to enable you to focus your mating energy on just one individual at a time, and to reproduce and pass on your genes. Attachment evolved to get you to stick with this person at least long enough to raise a single child together. Learn the stages of courtship: attention...

Show Notes: In this podcast, learn the social readiness signs that would indicate your daughter is ready to try social media Learn how the teenage brain is more susceptible to addictions, risky behaviors, and the need to belong and fit in and be included by peers. Because of these vulnerabilities, Dr. Jordan lays out why teen girls are at risk for misusing social media and being negatively affecte...

Show Notes: Stop trying to change your daughter and accept her for who she is even if she is different than your family Girls often complain to me that their parents don’t see them, understand them, accept them for who they are, can’t relate to them, and are always trying to change them to fit the parent’s vision of them. I discussed the concept of the vulnerable child syndrome and ghosts in the n...

Show Notes: Today’s hypercompetitive & hyperspecialized youth sports are causing girls to experience more overuse injuries, anxiety, stress, and burnout. Interview with author Linda Flanagan, author of Take Back the Game: How Money and Mania are Ruining Kids’ Sports — and Why It Matters The following are topics discussed in Dr. Jordan’s interview with author Linda Flanagan: How have youth sports c...

Show Notes: Parents, schools, and girls themselves can learn to stop cyberbullying; here’s how. Nearly half of teens say they have been cyberbullied, and it’s most prevalent in adolescent girls. Bullying is unwanted, aggressive behavior that involves a real or perceived power imbalance. The behavior is repeated or has the potential to be repeated over time.  The kinds of cyberbullying girls share...

Show Notes: Dads have a unique role to play in raising confident, successful, amazing daughters. BENEFITS TO HAVING AN INVOLVED FATHER IN THE HOME Dr. Jordan discusses research about the benefits of having an involved father in the home: less likely to be poor, perform better in school, less likely to abuse alcohol, drugs, or to be sexually active as teenagers, and less mental health disorders lik...

Show Notes: Set an intention for 2023 to slow down, stop multitasking, unplug, & learn to be alone without being lonely. Learn how slowing down does mean being less productive, quitting your job or retiring, or auctioning off your kids. You can learn to be busy without being hurried and stressed out. The culture conditions us to believe faster is better, hurrying is normal, speed means more effici...

Show Notes: Covid fatigue: When we are in the eye of the storm and can’t find our way out, it is easy to lose hope and think the storm will last forever. But one day the sun will shine on you again, and the clouds will clear, and you will look around and realize you have been blown to an even better place. Sometimes, in the storm, there is a miracle waiting to be seen. Dani, look for the lessons &...

Listen with your family to a story about the origin of tinsel and one about a father's love for his daughter. MERRY CHRISTMAS! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Show Notes: Happiness does not result from having more money, fame, or likes; it comes from living a life of purpose & service. Kids have been conditioned to believe that happiness results from externals such as being rich, famous & popular, winning the lottery. The culture tells them that more & faster is better, and that achievement is more important than character. We’re raising a generation of...

Parents have a role in raising daughters who are generous, empathetic, and guided by an internal code of ethics. Included in this week's podcast: For more info on resources by Dr. Jordan, go to his website at www.drtimjordan.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Show Notes: Raising a spirited, powerful child is challenging; these stories offer ways to support them without crushing their spirit. James Hillman’s book, The Soul’s Code, describes how powerful, spirited children have an unconscious knowing of what life will bring them. Behaviors they exhibit in childhood are often labelled as abnormal vs. understanding what it might mean for them in the long-t...