R3ciprocity.com - Prof David Maslach: Innovation; Research Life; Striving Towards Happiness

#Education often measures people based on their outcome. But, in reality, we should be measuring people based on their action. This is a simple problem. Success in one’s life has a little to do with how you perform on test. Success is everything to do whether you are willing to show up, and being a kind and generous person every day. This is a simple problem. success and one slice has a little to...

Welcome to “Academic Affirmations: Unveiling My Need for Validation,”* where I explore why I constantly reassure others of their worth in academia. In each episode, I'll share personal stories and delve into the psychological reasons behind these affirmations. Join me as I uncover how this practice not only impacts those I praise but also mirrors my own quest for validation and acceptance within t...

What’s important is that you keep working through things, and continue to make positive changes in your life. Eventually, when you make enough positive changes in your life, people start noticing, and they make positive changes in their own life.

You will not listen to this because I talk about money. People either think that money doesn’t relate to them or their hyperfocused on getting ahead. If you talk about money in a calm fashion, where it’s part of your life, nobody cares. If I talk about it in the sense that, you will gain “success,”only a small group of people will listen to it, and it’s likely the wrong group of people. Just open,...

If you focus on the negative and the cost of things, you will never see just how wonderful it actually is. There are miracles happening every day, and people are making them happen, you simply have to be the person to see it. Focusing on just the cost in the negative side will prevent you from ever seeing the world of possibilities that are closer to you than you think.

I offered $10 to 4 people FOR FREE. ZERO people have taken me up on the offer. A very generous person gave me $20 to give to $10 to two people so that they would log onto the #R3ciprocity platform. I added another $20. Another generous soul said they would pitch in $20. Exactly 0 people have taken me up on that offer since I posted it on social media. The post got 1000 impressions— a reasonable am...

There is a dramatic difference between theory and the practical environment and the key issue is because the practical environment contains context that is unique to each individual participating in that context.

I just want to say thank you to the good Samaritan in my life.

You often need to accept people as they are. Despite clear evidence, not everyone is open to accepting it. There are many reasons why people may feel uncomfortable with evidence, and it's important to recognize these factors. Your role is to connect meaningfully with a few individuals and hope that those who don't accept the evidence still lead long and healthy lives.

Keep moving I’m feeling good about yourself well into your 100s. If you don’t make it there, at least you spent a lifetime smiling and playing.

"I don't know how to say no," often stems from fear and judgment about their past decisions. You may feel shame about how things turned out. Remember, you can't control all the outcomes in your life; many factors are beyond your control. From my experience, it's better to focus on how you felt when you made the decision, rather than the outcome. Often, making the decision was a positive moment in...

Persistency is key—just keep moving forward, one step at a time, day after day. Often, the difference between those you complete their goals and others is simply the ability to rise each day and persist. BLOCK OUT distractions and stay focused. Progress might seem slow; most days can be frustrating, and it often feels like nothing is changing. However, it's the cumulative effort, consistently appl...

having a career outside of your career is healthy, and it allows you to continue to grow as a person. It allows you to continue to do great things for yourself, while other people are standing on the sidelines.

Starting and growing a #business, doing #phd research, or any idea is a challenging journey for everyone. It begins with a simple step, acknowledging that the path ahead will often make you feel inadequate and filled with self-doubt. Doubt is a natural part of the process. You may never feel fully prepared or confident. You to feel like a failure. You’re never gonna feel good enough. Self-doubt is...

I used to wonder why people often give up on tough tasks. It's not about their productivity. In fact, focusing too much on productivity can actually backfire. The real issue is how they see themselves. If people feel good about themselves, they're more likely to keep trying day after day. Simple solutions like getting up early, rewarding productivity, or using productivity hacks might actually mak...

It truly is amazing to see older people that do things together as a couple. It’s important to have somebody to share your life with, and to get out of the house as much as he possibly can.

we talk about how to change research with the R3ciprocity Project, and what might that look like.

The #1 lesson I learned from creating the #R3ciprocity Project: YOU DON’T CARE. What you must understand with all things in your life is this: Ultimately, you are on your own. It is solely up to you to rise again and persevere. When I embarked on the R3ciprocity Project, I naively believed that rallying support would be straightforward. Given the project’s significance—creating a platform to help...

Making sure that you always win at all costs can lead to problematic behaviors. It is very easy to want to impress other people as there is often a lot of benefits that come from these positive impressions. However, it often leads to challenges in the long run where you do not match with what is expected of you. Keep being you, my friends!

Help me thank a #PhD today by rethinking what success means in academia. Traditionally, we view success through a narrow lens, often defining it in ways that favor our personal achievements. This perspective can lead to significant biases, particularly when we choose benchmarks of success that highlight our strengths and ignore the broader spectrum of academic contributions. Furthermore, we often...

#Educators: Live Authentically To Be Happy in #Academia. Stop Listening To The Metrics & Criticisms! One critical lesson that has profoundly influenced my approach to personal and professional life is the realization that you don't need to prove your “worth” to anyone. This mindset, grounded in the pursuit of authentic living, emphasizes the importance of prioritizing one's happiness and health ov...

We almost always default the thinking that our time is actually worth something. The truth is is that it’s only worth some thing when you reach out and begin something that makes no financial sense in the first place.

Think about the things in your life that you’re just doing because of impression management. Is it OK to do impression management? Absolutely. But, you have to learn to control it so it doesn’t get away from you. It’s easy to get caught up in the competition of life, and we all struggle with it.

It’s OK to realize that many things in life actually do not improve with experience. Not everything is malleable and not everything can be learnt That’s where you have to learn to love yourself regardless of the fact that known everything can be learnt, or that you will change.

Have a healthy dose of walking past people that do not want to support you in the first place. They know that they can support you, but they choose not to. Remember that. You just smile and nod as you walk past in your journey in life. You can accomplish a lot, with a wink and a smile.