Quiet Messenger: Redefining leadership & messaging for introverts & sensitive souls

Have you ever second-guessed your voice?  …Said things because you thought that's what others wanted to hear from you?  …Felt pressure to do or say something as a leader because it was what you should do? Ashley Looker and Jenna Teague of Eff Perfect help women break free from the myth of perfection. I brought them on the show because… It's time to break free from perfectionism. With you...

The first few days of self-quarantine, Veronica Marquez was feeling EVERYTHING at the same time. Frustration, gratitude, guilt. The controlling part of her wanted to micromanage her kids. The victim part was upset that it seemed like everyone else had all this time to read books when, as a parent, she was even busier now with her two young kids at home. Veronica is co-founder of Dinner Confidentia...

Right now is an opportunity to speak to how your work can support your people in our current pandemic world. Yet it's natural to feel uncertain about your messaging and be left wondering how it all fits together or how you can stay relevant. Whether it be how you communicate your offering, talk about your work, or speak on social media, the most powerful messaging is relevant and specific. Th...

When we got stay-home orders and the online space overflowed with voices offering support, my own voice felt the need to go SILENT. And so did Empowerment Coach Shawnrey Notto's. Yet, as a leader, she felt the pressure to stand up and be out there for her people. For fifteen years, Shawnrey has used her roles as coach, speaker, professional dancer-choroegrapher, yoga instructor, emcee, and fa...

Right now, many of us are experiencing things we've NEVER experienced. Empty grocery store shelves… quarantines… canceled events and closed doors (in 30 years, this is the first time I've ever seen the Vegas casinos close).  It's surreal, isn't it?  Our current global pandemic has brought so much uncertainty, and many Messengers I know have been feeling A LOT. If this has trans...

If you've ever pivoted or evolved your messaging, you've likely wondered… Should I avoid contradicting what I said before? I've got a sea of content about my old topic – how do I transition to my new focus in a way that doesn't confuse anyone or discredit me? A podcast listener asked in my Hotseat applications last month: "My business has been in a state of 'transitio...

A few weeks ago, I put out a call to apply for a Hotseat with me. I loved reading everyone's applications and learning about their businesses and messages. And I also saw a pattern I see often. We assume that any lack of clarity will be a simple fix ~ 15 minutes of coaching from me for a perfectly shiny and sparkly message. This thinking assumes there's such a thing as a PERFECT message....

I'm back today with a followup to 151 "Why I Stopped Sacrificing Integrity for Strategy." Today we're talking practical, tangible examples of how to choose integrity and trust your own knowingness. Real-world biz examples. Because I know some (myself included) need concrete examples in order to visualize and fully integrate. I talk about: Why I said "no" to a powerful...

When you're thrust into this world of marketing strategies and sales tactics, there's so much external noise, best practices, and "shoulds". It's easy to trust what experts say are good strategies over your own internal knowing and not give yourself permission to say NO. But you don't have to use a strategy that feels off because it worked for someone else. You can tr...

Taking a moment to celebrate we just hit 150 podcast episodes. One Hundred and Fifty Episodes! Because even though I love it, it hasn't always been easy. Multi-month pauses from burnout… new shows surpassing my downloads… feeling disillusioned… the increasing costs of production. It's taken dedication. Devotion. I recorded this episode to share 15 lessons I've learned about being IN...

In 2019,  I deepened into what I stood for and said things publicly that made me cry I struggled to find balance between receiving support and maintaining connection with my people I cut out income streams in my business to be more in alignment (and proved the fear wrong by replacing that income) Next year, in 2020, I'm being called to use my voice to contribute to more conversations that rea...

What does giving have to do with leadership and your business, you ask? Giving is part of a compelling message because… Giving reveals your values, as a human being and a business owner.  Giving deepens your mission. It sets an example and helps you step into your leadership. Giving creates connection. When you give back to people and groups that resonate with your audience, it helps your audience...

Have you ever spent hours writing an email invite or sign up page and then released your baby into the world… and gotten crickets? It can feel so FRUSTRATING and discouraging.  This year, in addition to my beloved Messenger Masterminds , I've taken on copywriting projects for women whose missions I really believe in. I've noticed there are certain intentions I set to move people to actio...

Ever had people think you're so lucky for the body/health/marriage/lifestyle you work hard for? Kristen is another smart, big-hearted woman coach in the fall round of my quarterly Messenger Mastermind . (Enrolling now for January & April.) She wants to inspire allied healthcare professionals who are burned out to take intentional action in their lives. But as a mom and healthcare practiti...

You know you have something BIG to say, just not what.  Maybe it's become clear that what you've been talking about no longer feels congruent and you're pivoting…  Or you're ready to claim what you want to be known for and applying for a TEDx talk.  Either way, you're in the right place. Today is all about uncovering your true message (or the next evolution of it). After a...

Does it ever feel like a struggle to grow your audience? It can be so frustrating when you have such beautiful, impactful things to share.  The smart, passionate, Sensitive Soul April is one of the core group in my Messenger Mastermind this fall. Before she joined us, she did my Message Clarity Challenge and applied for a hotseat with me. This was April's question: "What do I write about...

Have you ever been explaining your work and watched eyes glaze over? Or maybe you were talking to someone you knew was your ideal client and she didn't see it.  Simple fact: if someone doesn't understand what you do, they're not going to pay for it.  Well, if they don't understand the HIGH value in it, they won't pay well for it. They may pay for one session, but they aren...

Lee is one of my beloved Messenger Masterminders who just joined our fall round, but before that, I had a chance to hotseat her during my last Message Clarity Challenge. She uses art & creativity to support her clients, and she wants to put that in her messaging because talking about it often sparks people's interest – it speaks to them and draws them in. Especially the artistic types! Bu...

How to use niching down to create more depth with your people, stop unconsciously censoring yourself, and call in the right people for YOU.      During October, I'm bringing you a mix of illuminating message clarity hotseats with real women coaches around their biggest struggles -- interspersed with powerful episodes like this one that I intentionally selected from the waaay back podcast arch...

Have you ever felt like your work could help so many different types of people and go in many different directions? If so, today's episode is for you! Listen in. Kim Pendleton is a powerhouse at the intersection between women's sexuality + trauma recovery who gives women sacred space to unveil their soulful, sexy side—to heal from the past, find their way home, and have more of that juic...

Each time I have meaningful conversations with would-be messengers as I enroll my Messenger Mastermind , several shared beliefs emerge. These 6 beliefs, left unchecked, can easily keep you from expanding your impact as a Messenger. In this week's episode, I'm going to show you how to transform those beliefs into your greatest allies so you can grow your biz and impact for years to come!...

You care so much. You have something to say. You're a Messenger… Or would-be Messenger. Because even though you're out there sharing, you still feel invisible. Ooomph.  I know the pain of that.  Let's be real. With the algorithm shifts in Instagram and Facebook, it can sometimes feel like what you say goes into a black hole… so what's the point. Your people need to hear your me...

If you've ever felt like you know who your people are yet they're not listening to your marketing… If you've ever felt like you just didn't know how to meet your people where they're at… If you've ever felt all over the place in what you're saying, and your words weren't landing for your people… You're going to want to listen to this episode of Unforget...

Ever feel like it's noisy out there and your people can't hear you? Well, listen up because I've got something important to tell you. Even if someone else has the same message and works with the same people, it doesn't matter. Because the Messenger is part of the message. When it comes to calling in your people, deeper clarity on who they are is half the equation, but YOU are t...