Queer Sex Ed Podcast

This week Sara and Jay talk about topping and bottoming fisting! Also discussed: defining edge play, how to safely explore your edges and how queerness gets portrayed as inherently sexual. Show links:  https://crashpadseries.com/queer-porn/queer-porn-meets-sex-ed-in-crashpads-guide-to-fisting/     http://www.queersexed.org/archive/2017/5/31/queer-sex-ed-podcast-episode-2-kink-and-bdsm-101 http://w...

Sara and Jay talk about switching during kink play this week! Learn about why we talk about dom and top as different things, what switching means, ways you can try switching, and things to think about when you're negotiating play where people switch roles. Queer Sex Ed is going on tour in 2019 and you can bring us to your school, community center, workplace, or local dungeon! Learn more at  www.qu...

This episode of QSE was recorded live at CU Boulder! Jay and Sara discuss defining sex and why that's so difficult to do. Also discussed: STI testing, demisexuality, the sexphobia of SESTA/FOSTA, growing confidence as a dom, and so much more when we take audience questions. This episode was made possible by the University of Colorado's Ace&Aro Student Group. If you enjoyed this live episode, you c...

Sara and Jay talk about everything impact play this week! Learn about safe words, different kinds of impact play, things to negotiate in impact, and so much more. Queer Sex Ed is going on tour in 2019 and you can bring us to your school, community center, workplace, or local dungeon! Learn more at www.queersexed.org/tour2019  or email queersexed@gmail.com  to book your event with us or inquire abo...

Sara reads her most recent article about voter suppression for Medium.com. Please vote if you can in the US on November 6th, but remember that this system will never change just from votes alone. "Voting is important work.  If you are working on voting rights and access, what you do matters.  However, I also need you to understand that the reasons people can't or don't vote are largely linked to t...

Sara and Jay are talking about voting, voter suppression, and gerrymandering this week. If you're wondering why a sex ed show is talking about this, we're excited for you to learn! We talk about the recent attacks on the trans community by the Trump Administration as well as different types of gerrymandering, types of voter suppression, the importance of voting as harm reduction, and what we can d...

Jay and Sara are answering your questions this week! Thank you to everyone who was vulnerable and asked us to help you move through difficult things. Discussed in this episode: dysphoria and eating disorder history, family rejection, telling a partner you are no longer attracted to them, fatphobia in dating preferences, what queer porn do we enjoy, supporting ethical porn production, and the pitfa...

Sara and Jay are BACK and this time we're talking about boundaries, rules, agreements, and how you can figure out what your boundaries are and what you need to feel safe. Useful links:  https://www.morethantwo.com/polyamorywithoutrules.html https://www.morethantwo.com/jealousypractice.html You can send your questions to  queersexed@gmail.com  for us to answer them on future shows. More information...

Sara is back with another clip episode while the show is on a quick hiatus. This week we have clips from episodes 2, 14, and 16 about kink, BDSM, dominance, and submission, enjoy!  

Sara edited together some of her favorite moments about communication from past QSE episodes while she is healing from surgery. New episodes should be back in a few weeks, thank you for understanding. Full episodes available here: https://open.spotify.com/episode/2bcQC0QCVSl0vOlly0zXgQ?si=bl-Wchy_RWeiapwS273uOg https://open.spotify.com/episode/45LSqplKIF7DNz0TMOssAF?si=SLXgJgjwQOegPiKytBNosg   htt...

QSE is on a short hiatus while Sara recovers from surgery, so we wanted to share this episode of Sara's new podcast in the feed for folks who haven't had a chance to listen yet. This new show was made possible by your generous Patreon subscriptions! Thank you for your support of QSE and we hope to be back soon.

Sara is back to read another article she recently published on Medium. This one is about how Nazis came to power and what we can learn from their legal structures, America's history, and our current legal climate. You can read-along with the article here:  https://medium.com/@QSE/the-time-for-never-again-has-passed-americans-are-complicit-in-genocide-as-defined-by-the-un-940b368e63e5 You can send...

Sara and Jay dive deep into heteronormativity, including how the assumption that everyone is straight shapes our world and what we can do to fight back against it. Also discussed: searching for a trans gene, assimilation, and how the nature vs nurture debate harms us all. Show links: http://titleknown.tumblr.com/post/122715038542/cactuswrens-bad-dragon-blacklist-post https://www.teenvogue.com/stor...

This week Sara and Jay tackle how we can make sex toys that are marketed to able bodied cis men and women work for fat bodies, trans bodies, disabled bodies, and all different kinds of bodies. Topics include: sex negativity, making binary toys less binary, naming your body parts, experimenting, identifying pervertibles, and lots more! You can send your questions to  queersexed@gmail.com  for us to...

Jay and Sara continue their 101 series, this time to discuss sex toys! How do you find safe sex toys? What different types of sex toys exist? What the heck is an erogenous zone?? Answers to these questions and more on this week's QSE.   Show links: http://dangerouslilly.com/toxictoys/ https://grapeshotmq.com.au/2016/11/the-ovipositor-the-infamous-egg-laying-dildo/ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0...

Sara and Jay finish their discussion from last week with how modern laws, policies, and structures continue to fuel queer criminalization today. Also discussed: ICE and immigration enforcement, BDSM criminalization case law, HIV laws, SESTA/FOSTA, mass incarceration, and more. Thanks for sticking with us through a pair of difficult and important episodes. Show links: http://www.blackandpink.org/ h...

Sara and Jay cover a brief overview of ways that colonialist states have used police, incarceration, and state violence to criminalize and punish queer and trans people. Show links:  https://www.npr.org/templates/transcript/transcript.php?storyId=622972320 https://www.amazon.com/Transgender-History-Studies-Susan-Stryker-ebook/dp/B004KPLWHG https://www.amazon.com/Transgender-Warriors-Making-History...

Sara and Jay sit down with Chris Barcelos, a researcher studying queer sexuality, teenage pregnancy, and health messaging. We discuss many different things including whether to double down on a moderate message in times of crisis or transform, messaging around teen pregnancy, how sex health is racist, the untold history of sexual health education in the USA, and much more. QUEER AND TRANS SAFER SE...

This week we talked about a few different topics that have been in community conversation lately, but part of a much longer history: bisexual, pansexual, omnisexual, and polysexual as sexual identities are not transphobic. We also discuss how dating preferences are informed by cis white heteropatriarchy, challenging your own assumptions, and dealing with the difference between a bigoted preference...

Sara and Jay dive into a deep discussion of femme as an identity, expression, and way of being in the world. Also discussed: being femme in public, femme invisibility, non-binary femme, androgyny as a masculine default, and more. You can send your questions to  queersexed@gmail.com  for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at  www.queersexed.org . This sh...

Sara and Jay are back from a mini-break to answer your questions! Thank you to everyone who sent in a question, which you can also do at queersexed@gmail.com. Topics discussed include: STI disclosure, cutting a glove to make a dental dam, building a personal/community safety plan that doesn't involve police, icebreaker games for sex education groups, cis allyship, and dating at work. "Game On! The...

JAY IS HERE! We will be recording episodes in person to release over the next few weeks, but in the meantime, I wanted to share another article I wrote on Medium with you. This one is about dating and transphobia. Content warning for discussions of transmisogyny, violence against trans people, and queerphobia Read along at  https://medium.com/@QSE/when-you-say-i-would-never-date-a-trans-person-its...

This is the second part of our conversation about sex ed! This week Jay and Sara discuss what it means to center education on the most marginalized identities, content we would like to see in sexual education, and some conversation about how openly exploring sexuality has changed our lives. For more on the FRC from Brynn Tannehill:  https://www.huffingtonpost.com/brynn-tannehill/and-then-they-came...

Sara and Jay reflect on their first year of the Queer Sex Ed Podcast in addition to talking about the politics of what we call "comprehensive" sex ed. This discussion went over three hours, so we split it into two parts. The second part will be available next Thursday. Please send your questions to  queersexed@gmail.com  for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission ava...

Sara delivered this presentation at the Gender Infinity Conference in Houston just a few days after leaving her job to do Queer Sex Ed full time. Topics include: who gets left out of sex ed, expanding the scope of sex ed, and where our sexual scripts come from. In preparation for our next episode about comprehensive sex ed, we wanted to share the audio of this presentation with you. Next week, we...