Pynk Spots

Send a text Nic answers an awesome question from PaulV about whether or not those of us who are disabled homebodies really need to get out there and socialize/exercise more. Mommy's in a spicy mood today, get ready for the heat! Mentioned in the episode:  How to Get Rid of Neck Hump Fast (YouTube) 7 hand exercises for carpal tunnel syndrome with pictures (Medical News Today) Yoga for Aching J...

Send a text Today I tackle an awesome question from Abby about how to foster and build community while also being neurodivergent and introverted...something I can heavily relate to! - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - -- - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - If you have a question for the show, please send it to the show name at gmail dot com or vi...

Send a text Today I talk about how I feel now that I've officially turned 40, what I've learned along the way, where I hope to go next. - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - -- - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - If you have a question for the show, please send it to the show name at gmail dot com or via Patreon or Discord (links below)!...

Send a text This week I have a personal chat about my experience with resentment towards parents prompted by an awesome submission from community member Pia who is processing some recent information about their dad and their family dynamic. - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - -- - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - If you have a question for the s...

Send a text Note from Nic: This episode was done on Tuesday but when I went to upload my data plan was 10 minutes short so I waited until today to upload in order to not get charged. This conflicts with some things I say in the episode about what day this is coming out so wanted to clear up any potential confusion around that.  Also, episodes will be posted on Thursdays now! -------------------- T...

Send a text This week's question comes from a listener's dad who wonders what are the signs that a child has received good parenting? As a good mommy to all of you, I of course have all the answers ;)  - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - -- - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - If you have a question for the show, please send it to the sh...

Send a text Nic's sister Gina joins her today to talk about her lessons learned in dismantling her identity around productivity after suffering a major injury to her foot and having to be out of work for months. We also talk mommy issues (it's the new daddy issues! so 2021!) and also saunter into some queer conversations about gender.  [Sorry this episode is a few days late. I'm suf...

Send a text Riikka from our Discord community writes: I'd like to hear you talk about impostor syndrome, what is your relationship with it and how to fight it. I'm looking for jobs right now & I feel extremely uncomfortable talking about my skills and achievements and I'm constantly downplaying them. As someone who has (mostly) overcome imposter feelings, I was thrilled to give...

Send a text This week's question, from community member Dustin, is around surviving capitalism as a leftist: Hey, Nic I was wondering if you could do an advice episode on how a leftist can thrive in a capitalist society, while avoiding burnout or not succumbing to depression or other physical and mental ailments?? It’s something I constantly struggle with and I’m sure many others are sufferin...

Send a text This week, Nic tackles a question about how to be on a well-established work team as a new person when you're also autistic. Tips for how to navigate small talk, connect with people one-on-one or in small groups, and show yourself to be a good teammate ahead! - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - -- - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - -...

Send a text Nic ecstatically tackles this week's question from Anonymous about a past love who has remerged, seemingly evolved and ready to commit, while they had done a lot of work to move past them and are now in a healthy relationship. Anonymous asked specifically about trauma bonds, as they feel very bonded to this person and are questioning if that is why they still feel so in love with...

Send a text Nic is joined this week by Jewish activist, Jacob Z, to talk about Israel's military occupation of Palestine. Jacob walks us through the history of the occupation at a high-level, talks about the pinkwashing and veganwashing of the Israeli military, gives tips about how to discuss the situation without being antisemitic as well as how to refute Zionist arguments, and provides a to...

Send a text Today's question comes from Jasper, who asks about moving beyond frustration with a partner who is otherwise amazing but breaks one boundary that has been explicitly set and talked about. I broaden the question to include behaviors that we just don't prefer (like leaving dirty dishes in the sink), as well as established boundaries (like no flirting in front of me). I ramble a...

Send a text In this episode, Nic tackles a question that has come up in multiple conversations - how to develop a strong sense of self? Question from Yesim : In a few of your episodes you talk about the theme of having a ‘strong sense of self’. I don’t consider myself to have this. In your earlier episode you mentioned how you didn’t have a strong sense of self in the past. I’d love to hear how yo...

Send a text After suffering from fatigue so intense it caused an existential crisis, I decided to do an unscripted loose rant about my experiences as a disabled person dealing with vaccine side effects and the reality of never feeling safe; people and their need to believe they are fully formed at your expense; and the frustration of people trying to "help" you so they can feel good abou...

Send a text Today I slip into some good 'ol unsolicited advice inspired by recent conversations with other disabled, neurodivergent, and anxious comrades around the topic of productivity. I give my perspective on "productivity" as an inherently violent capitalist concept and then dive deep into some tips on how I manage to get things done while experiencing near-constant pain, fatig...

Send a text I am joined by my friend Everett (they/them) to answer this week's question, using it as an excuse to talk about gender, queering, and heterosexualizing.  Question from Mohera:  I was watching TikTok and there’s a trans man I follow who put up a video about girls asking him if they are still straight if they date him. He said, “of course you are, I’m a man! Trans men are men!”  I...

Send a text Today's question comes from Valerie via Instagram: I have a random question. This morning I was doing some overthinking (as per usual) and I remembered an episode where you discussed that when you were interested in someone you’d stare at them. I always thought I was the only one who did this and I was wondering what steps you might’ve taken to overcome this? I answer Valerie&apos...

Send a text Nic is joined today by comrade Pearson Bolt from Coffee with Comrades to answer a listener question: "Do you have any tips for being shy and/or introverted and having a public platform (live streaming, podcasting, etc.)?" Follow/Support Pearson: Twitter |  Patreon | Website Channel Zero Anarchist Podcast Network - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - Lo...

Send a text My friend, Hilary, and I talk about friendships as adults, and how awful friendship breakups are.  We also talk a bit about the tattoo industry near the end of the episode and go more in-depth into it during the after-party so if you liked that part of the conversation, you can hear it continue over on YouTube! Follow Hilary on Instagram: Bliss Tattoo   Hilary Shelby   - - - - - - - -...

Send a text Today I am flying solo for my first Pynk Spots advice episode! I answer a question from Anonymous (she/her): My depression and anxiety have been exacerbated by quarantine. I’ve heard disassociating and disassociation in mental health communities but haven’t researched it much.  In a conversation with a friend, I mentioned that I have been having a hard time and feel like I’ve been disa...

Send a text An episode five years in the making, today I'm joined by THE Christopher Sebastian McJetters to talk about being squishy humans in activist spaces that can often feel unsafe and aggressive. We get petty about being "canceled" and try to work our way through how we can talk about the issues without thwarting the efforts of the people who created tools like canceling to fi...

Send a text NOTE: The audio is pretty shit on this one, I did the best I could with it but it's still pretty crap. If it's too much, it may be easier to watch the YouTube version because it might sound a little better, and also the visuals help. I'm joined today by my honorary daughter and STEM badass (double-majoring in chemical engineering and math, thankyouverymuch) Mohera, who i...

Send a text I sit down with Claire (aka Professor Flowers, now goes by Lua) to talk about the need for community, the fallacy of the "lone wolf" mentality that we both have operated under for years, and her plan to run away in an RV. Follow Professor Flowers: YouTube | Twitter - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - Love the show!? Click the links below to support m...

Send a text Pynk Spot's first collaborative episode is with Kye Plant (they/them) from Feelin Weird Podcast ! This conversation is an extension of the one we had over on Feelin Weird where we talked about autism, anger, and childhood trauma. Listen to that episode here ! - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - Love the show!? Click the links below to support me, follow m...