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Did you know that, in addition to self-regulation skills, humans benefit immensely from co-regulating with others? You may have a strong toolbox of self-care activities, and that's great. But did you know secure attachment can make a huge difference in your well-being?    This week on the podcast, I’m making the case for secure attachment and well-being.  Join me as I review The Power of Attachmen...

Please tell me you are a reader. Reading connects you to humanity. You see what is true for all of us, even though we are so unique; you see that your problems are not new; you see familiar patterns and potential solutions to your challenges. Reading offers perspective.    Join me on this week's podcast to explore the benefits of reading.   How reading can help you:  Broadens your perspective and...

Are you able to embrace distress in the face of uncertainty?   We often find ourselves seeking quick solutions, numbing our emotions, and avoiding the discomfort that comes with facing our pain. We like to think that we confront our pain head-on and are adept at managing our emotional experiences.    However, when life hits us with distressing emotions, many of us instinctively turn away. Join me...

Do you have a scarcity mindset, where you fear that you aren’t good enough?   Or do you approach life from an abundance mindset or the belief that you are enough, that life is good, and that you have what you need to be successful? Do you believe that you can be prosperous and that you have the time you need to take care of the things that matter most?     Mindset can have powerful implications fo...

Leaders are not meant to have all the answers, and their ability to approach life humbly can be one of their best qualities for leadership.   Asking the question “What can I learn here?” Will not only open you up to growth, learning, and development, but it will make it more likely that others will come to you for guidance and with answers that you need to lead more effectively.     Join me to lea...

So much about life is learning to manage yourself well. It's been the focus of our series on cultivating curiosity. And today, I have an excellent book to share with you on this topic. Join me as I review, On Managing Yourself by Clayton M. Christensen.   This podcast will help you:  Determine how you may want to measure your life Be cautious about telling others what to think Identify how to mana...

Learning to trust yourself is an important goal in life. But how does that happen? As you quiet yourself and tune into intuition, trust builds. Intuition is an important way of knowing, not the only one. But when we disregard intuition, we often undermine ourselves.    Getting quiet and curious is the key to cultivating intuition.    This podcast will help you:  Learn what gets in the way of trust...

As a leader, you may be more accustomed to giving help, but the ability to accept help is just as essential to a life well-lived.     It is an act of humility and vulnerability to accept help, and will connect you to others. If you want to be more competent and experience more joy in daily life, you should ask for help.   This podcast will help you: Learn how accepting & appreciating help will...

We live in a society obsessed with overcoming our weaknesses. While there may be some value in looking at your challenges, research shows that your time and energy will be much better spent focused on developing your strengths.  In other words, don't spend much time trying to overcome your weaknesses—this will be a less effective use of your time!  This podcast will help you: Identify your strengt...

We all undermine ourselves at times, whether we recognize that fact or not. Self-sabotage is one of the sneakiest ways we get in our own way, yet if we lack awareness, knowing how to help ourselves can be challenging. This week, I will review Brianna Wiest's book, The Mountain is You.   This podcast will help you: Identify self-sabotage in yourself and others Learn how you might be engaging in sel...

Is it possible to be critical of yourself yet compassionate toward others?    This is a challenging issue for many of us, especially women who spend so much of their lives giving to others yet being quite self-critical. This week on the podcast, I want to look at how self-compassion creates the best foundation for strong relationships and compassion within your community.     Join me today as I di...

I've got a question for you: Where are you headed in life? Do you know? Do you care? Purpose can be a big, gauzy topic, but today I want to help you get practical about purpose and see how understanding purpose clarifies life. It makes all the difference in thriving vs just surviving.    This podcast will help you: Clarify your purpose Identify daily priorities that keep you aligned with purpose  ...

Owning your story is about taking complete responsibility for every aspect of your life. This sounds straight-forward, but believe me, it can be harder to do in actual practice. As humans, we are master storytellers. We love devising elaborate stories about how we've been wronged and why we can't take responsibility for our lives. And some of these stories may even be true.    But here's the thing...

As children, we were all afraid of something, the dark monsters under the bed, the principal. As adults, the subject of our fears may shift, but we still have fears. This week I will review Meera Lee Patel's book, My Friend Fear. It's time to get more acquainted with your friend, fear.    This podcast will help you: Understand the role fear has in your life  Learn to befriend your fear Discover wh...

We grow in the process of facing our fears. There is no other way. It's like exercising a muscle. The muscle becomes stronger through the breakdown of the muscle tissue. It isn't a pleasant process, yet it is the process of growth and development. Join me on the podcast to learn more about the process of growth.  This podcast will help you: Learn the FOUNDATION acronym for self-leadership Discover...

Did you know the quality of your eating can impact your effectiveness at home and work? Perhaps you know it’s important to get something to eat, and you even know that what you eat matters, but did you know that how you eat also makes a big difference?   This podcast will help you: Learn the signs of unbalanced eating Remember the basics of balanced eating Identify the benefits of intuitive eating

What does it mean to truly renew? Does it require two weeks on a deserted island? Well, while that sounds very nice and would indeed be renewing, you don’t need weeks away from your life in order to renew. And in fact, adopting daily practices of renewal can make all the difference in your well-being.    This podcast will help you: Learn why renewal is essential to sanity and well-being  Improve y...

Are you constantly plugged in? Either with work, email, screens, or multitasking? Maybe it’s time for a pause. I promise that by learning to unplug, even in small amounts, you will experience greater well-being. Join me as we discuss how you can unplug to benefit your life.   This podcast will help you: Learn how to unplug effectively  Overcome the guilt of unplugging by tapping into its benefits...

Not too long I reviewed a book, Radical Acceptance, which is all about learning to accept rather than resist reality. Well, I’m back this month with that book’s companion, Radical Compassion, by Tara Brach, PhD. It’s so good. Join me to learn more.    This podcast will help you: Identify how compassion can help you harness both mindfulness and compassion in moments of distress Learn how compassion...

Do you consider yourself a creative, or do you defer to others when it comes to innovation? As humans, we are all creative, and engaging creativity is core to being a human. Join me on the podcast as I discuss why creativity can show up in so many ways, and is really about giving yourself permission to explore and think outside of the box.     This podcast will help you: Understand why creativity...

In my life as a psychologist and leadership coach, I tell those I work with that there are two no-brainers that everyone should be doing to help themselves, and that they shouldn’t even consider more substantial interventions until they are doing these two things consistently:     1 - Balanced Movement 2 - Mindfulness Practice   Join me on the podcast to learn how balanced movement can strengthen...

Spirituality cultivates meaning and moves us toward purpose-driven living. The spiritual life can shift us out of our anxious navel-gazing so that we can take in the grandeur of life and relationships. The spiritual life is the path of peace and purpose and makes you a better leader.    Tune into today's podcast with me to learn why you need a spiritual practice to strengthen your leadership.    T...

We live in a world designed to distract us from what matters. Mindfulness is an invitation to climb against forces designed to keep you distracted, stressed, and numb to the beauty of life. Join me as I discuss Neurodharma, a new book by Rick Hanson, PhD book. It’s designed to help you bring mindfulness into your life in simple ways and explains the neuroscience of this process.     This podcast w...

Self-leadership is a way of life and is all about how you show up to life. It's focused on how you DO life. The way you live your life is your best example and most important legacy.     This podcast will help you: Remember that self-leadership is a marathon, not a sprint Understand the role of consistency Learn why consistency should be flexible, not rigid

As a leader, you need to be the calm in the storm. You've got to be able to slow yourself down when faced with many stressors, uncertainty, and others looking to you to lead, make decisions, and provide certainty to them. Curiosity helps you overcome primitive hardwiring for extreme reactions in the face of uncertainty and stress. Curiosity allows you to harness the power of presence to respond mi...