Pure Victory Podcast

Welcome to episode #180! This week, Matt and Braden talk about the truths of STDs and STIs with Dr. Zee M.D. Sexual health is big on God’s Heart He designed sex as a beautiful covenant between man and woman, especially in marriage. One sin is no bigger than another, but sexual sin is the only sin that is against our own bodies. We can see it like autoimmune diseases - one healthy cell fighting you...

Welcome to episode #179! This week, Matt and Braden talk with Jacob Valk, the co-producer and co-founder of the documentary called "Into The Light". They'll go into what it's about and the heart behind it this documentary to help men and women find freedom from porn.  What is Into the Light? Into the Light is a teaching documentary on freedom from pornography. It walks through the process of chang...

Welcome to episode #178! This week, Matt and Braden talk with John and Lucas Fort from Be Broken Ministries about talking to your kids about porn. Create an environment where there is safety and care for children to talk You want to have a punish free zone so that there is a safety to open up. There is fear on both sides when opening up about feelings and making sure that the children won’t feel l...

Welcome to episode #177! This week, Matt and Braden talk with Javier and Shannan from 24/7 Marriage about differences in our libidos. Everyone is different in this area It's rare that you will have a “matching” season of life in regards to your libido. Sometimes your libido is up while your spouse’s is down and vice versa. It's important to work together and through those differences. When working...

Welcome to episode #176! This week, Matt and Braden talk about how identifying our desires can help us in the war of temptations and addiction. Ask yourself: what am I desiring? There is something deeper than just looking at porn. There are desires that fall underneath the surface of all these behaviours. It’s important to identify what they are, which leads to understanding and healing and opens...

Welcome to episode #175! This week, Matt and Braden talk about faulty strategies that don't really help you quit porn. You can’t beat porn on your own. You need community. We try to deal with our porn problem by ourselves. So no one has to know. We can talk about it without feeling the “shame” of going through it anymore and won’t feel uncomfortable talking about it. You need people around you. Go...

Welcome to episode #174! This week, Matt and Braden are bustin' one more myth: Porn Helps Me. Porn Isolates You When there is sin in our lives, the enemy pulls us into isolation and darkness. When you look at porn, it creates shame. Shame takes on a label and we start to believe that about ourselves. We don’t want to be exposed. It teaches you to lie and be deceitful. It will stunt us in our relat...

Welcome to episode #173! This week, Matt and Braden are bustin' myths again. They're taking a look at the impact of porn use impacts the world at large, including the porn industry and human/sex trafficking.  Porn use impacts the world at large.   Even if you aren’t buying anything and clicking on a free video, they are able to track the views and emboldens them to keep producing and making more v...

Welcome to episode #172! This week, Matt and Braden share the first week of a three-week series on busting myths regarding porn. The first myth: "My porn use doesn't hurt anybody". It impacts you.  You matter more than you realize. Your porn use hurts you and others. The myth: It doesn’t hurt anybody. You might feel lonely, that it doesn’t matter or make a difference. The myth will devalue you and...

Welcome to episode #171! This week, Matt and Braden talk with Joy Skarka of Authentic Intimacy about her story of rape and addiction, breaking shame, and embracing God's good design of sexual desire. Joy's rape led to coping in her porn addiction Joy got raped on her third day of university, which led to lots of confusion and pain. She tried to understand what had happened to her by learning about...

Welcome to episode #170! This week, Matt and Braden talk with Brant Hansen talk with Brant Hansen about anger, forgiveness and living unoffendable. Whatever you do with anger, you can do better without it.  When you struggle with addiction there's, typically, a component of being hurt, angry, lonely or tired. When you’re healthy, you’re less likely to fall into stuff you don’t want to be involved...

Welcome to episode #169! This week, Matt and Braden talk with Dr. Christopher Yuan about holy sexuality and the gospel. Your Identity is not in your sexuality.  We can’t allow sexual attractions to dictate who we are and how we live. Our sexuality should not be the core of who we are. Our identity should not be: defined by our sexuality; grounded in our desires; and homo or heterosexual. Our ident...

Welcome to episode #168! This week, Matt and Braden talk with Brad and Lisa Valencia about how to have great sex in your marriage. Get your priorities right. Starting with building your relationship with Christ and being rooted and grounding in it and then working on your marriage outside the bedroom is how you begin to build a great sex life. Intimacy should be in every area and then sex is an ov...

Welcome to episode #167! This week, Matt and Braden talk with Dr. Kim Kimberling about narcissism. Are you married to a narcissist? What is narcissism? We can all be a little narcissistic in our behavior: being selfish and wanting our own way. But a narcissist takes it to the extreme: excessive interest and admiration of themselves, very selfish, physical appearance is important, sense of entitlem...

Welcome to episode #166! This week, Matt and Braden talk about purity. What is purity? Why does it matter for us?  Purity is more than just sexual.  Purity is more than just behavior. We need to be pure in our motives and in our language; we need to be honest and have integrity. The indicator of impurity is the behavior, but having the impurity out of our life is not just the behavior. You can be...

Welcome to episode #165! This week, Matt and Braden talk with Justin Roethlingshoefer about the importance of holistic health.  A Holistic Approach To Your Life & Health Holistically integrated health isn’t just physical - how fit we are, how we’re eating or sleeping, etc. Holistic means all. Integrated means to bring together, to make complete. Health is the mental, physical, spiritual, and e...

Welcome to episode #164! This week, Matt and Braden chat with former NASCAR driver, Andy Ponstein. Andy talks about his life, battling addiction to pornography, and how with God's help his life was changed. Andy relates addiction to when he would watch other drivers on the track. When you are the one watching the other drivers, you can see how fast they are going; but when you’re driving the car,...

Welcome to episode #163! This week, Matt and Braden talk about having sex versus making love. Is it the same thing? Is it not? Tune in to see what the guys have to say! There can be a difference between simply having sex and making love the way God designed.  Sex as a broader cultural term is just a physical act or point of contact with another. It’s self-focused, about my pleasure and using anoth...

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Welcome to episode #160! This week, Matt and Braden discuss whether or not porn is a 2-5 year process to overcome. Share this with your friends Who do you know that can benefit from this podcast and other episodes coming in the future? Share it with them so they can subscribe as well. Subscribe Subscribe on any podcast app to make sure you catch new episodes! Watch the podcast on YouTube here . Re...

Welcome to episode #159! This week, Matt and Braden talk about the impact the subtle porn has on culture and on individuals that can sometimes go unidentified. You're more impacted than you know With the world becoming more and more hyper-sexualized and tolerant to perverse sexuality, the extreme nature of sexual behaviour gets further and further away from what most of us engage with. However, th...

Welcome to episode #158! This week, Matt and Braden chat with Kristy Rodriguez, Executive Director of Hope After Betrayal about what the path to restoration looks like in a marriage after sexual betrayal. There is so much gold in this episode! Some of what we discussed were the 3 phases couples need to go through after disclosure. Phase 1: Safety To create safety in the marriage, there are many th...

Welcome to episode #157!  Matt and Braden chat with Kristy Rodriguez, from Hope after Betrayal, as she shares her story and what led her to get involved in helping women heal from betrayal trauma. Share this with your friends Who do you know that can benefit from this podcast and other episodes coming in the future? Share it with them so they can subscribe as well. Subscribe Subscribe on any podca...

Welcome to episode #156!  Matt and Braden clarify the difference between sexual arousal and desire and explain why knowing the difference matters. Arousal is a bodily reaction Sexual arousal is a natural thing that happens in healthy bodies. We often gets aroused as a response to touch because this is how God made us. We might get aroused by something that we don't have sexual desire towards. Know...

Welcome to episode #155!  Matt and Braden talk about our beliefs about God, and why that is so important in beating a porn addiction and getting free!  Beliefs are foundational to how we live A belief is incredibly powerful in how it can influence the way we choose to live. When we have a wrong belief about something we can adopt that lie as truth and it becomes a guiding voice in our life. When w...