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Today’s episode will be back on track with the transition series, and today’s topic is rebuilding a relationship with yourself. Getting back to the most important person in your life – YOU – is a big deal because what generally happens as you are in an abusive relationship, absolutely everything is about the abuser and no one else, so the importance of your/kids existence (or the relationship with...

The questions for this episode seem to be more about triggers, and they are pertaining to the work I do outside the podcast. For those who do not know, I am a Restoration Strategist supporting victims and survivors of abuse as they transition from toxic relationships. I also share resources with their supporters (friends, family, or coworkers) with resources to help them transition successfully. J...

Now that the victim has become a survivor, what to deal with first can be very confusing amid the other overwhelming factors surrounding them. Today's episode will take you through the main thing a survivor should deal with first to assure their success of transitioning after a life of abuse. Last Week's Episode Proactive Eye Podcast Blog Publications Support Proactive Eye podcast Support Heal Wit...

One of the many, many, many things a survivor of abuse deals with is fear. Not knowing if their abuser will track them down and harm them again; if they will threaten to harm their family members; stop their flow of money by causing them to lose their job/business; steal the children away if there are any involved; sending others to taunt them for leaving – these are the things survivors either de...

As difficult as it is leaving out of a toxic relationship, it is equally hard evolving into a healed individual; mainly because as someone works on healing, they have to confront all the darkness they went through and process ‘out loud’ how it makes them feel and how they want to change it now that they have the opportunity to do so. Today’s episode will be about transitioning from toxicity to who...

Yes it is my birthday and I am celebrating a little different today. I have decided to celebrate doing things I love like spending time with you all as I do every Friday. Today’s episode I will answer several questions I was saving for a quarterly Q & A but decided because of the amount of questions I received, to split them up and do a number of them now. So let’s get to it! Last Week's Episo...

No one in this world should be more important to you than you, and this is also for those who have not experienced abuse. In any given situation, it is necessary that whatever, or whoever, you are engaged in or with, brings you peace and things you want to manifest. If that’s not happening, there is a problem. Living that VIP status will help you gain momentum of continuing your life of freedom af...

Today's episode is about my top 3 a survivor must do to progress after a life of abuse.  Last week's episode Proactive Eye Podcast Blog Publications Email: proactiveye@gmail.com Please make use of these resources: If you are in immediate danger, call *911 National Domestic Violence hotline 1(800)799-SAFE National Child Abuse hotline 1(800)4-A-Child National Sexual Assault hotline 1(800)656-HO...

This week, I am doing something a little different. Most episodes posted were pertaining to things once a person is out of a toxic relationship. This time, we are going over a few things to consider while in an abusive relationship.  Last week's episode Proactive Eye Podcast Blog Publications Email: proactiveye@gmail.com Please make use of these resources: If you are in immediate danger, call...

The holidays are over, and now is a great time to get back on it. Today's episode starts this year with reintroducing myself and to welcome new listeners. Thank you for your support. It is greatly appreciated.  Proactive Eye Podcast Blog Email: proactiveye@gmail.com Please make use of these resources: If you are in immediate danger, call *911 National Domestic Violence hotline 1(800)799-SAFE...

This episode is focusing on the short-term as well as the long-term affects domestic violence have on children. Tune in to also learn how we can help them recover.  Last episode ElegantGrannyTV Proactive Eye Podcast Blog Email: proactiveye@gmail.com Please make use of these resources: If you are in immediate danger, call *911 National Domestic Violence hotline 1(800)799-SAFE National Child Ab...

At the early onset of the stay-at-home orders in March, many advocates, including myself, expressed a deep concern about a potential increase of Domestic Violence.  Last episode  ElegantGrannyTV AFSP Donor Drive Proactive Eye Podcast Blog Email: proactiveye@gmail.com Please make use of these resources: If you are in immediate danger, call *911 National Domestic Violence hotline 1(800)799...

As I continue celebrating this last week of the podcast's 1 year anniversary, I thought it fitting to share some of the plans for next year. My goal is more engagement with you and dialogue with real conversation about these topics. Last week's episode ElegantGrannyTV AFSP Donor Drive Proactive Eye Podcast Blog Email: proactiveye@gmail.com Please make use of these resources: If you are in immediat...

Last week was the kick off of celebrating one year as a podcaster. This week I am sharing a few things I learned along the way. Last week's episode ElegantGrannyTV AFSP Donor Drive Proactive Eye Podcast Blog Email: proactiveye@gmail.com Please make use of these resources: If you are in immediate danger, call *911 National Domestic Violence hotline 1(800)799-SAFE National Child Abuse hotline 1(800)...

This week's episode is celebratory. Proactive Eye Podcast is a year old and I am so grateful to all of you who have supported me from the beginning to now. For those of you who do not know me, feel free to go back through some of the old posts on the blog, the year long catalog on the podcast, or on my YouTube channel where I share more details I do not disclose on the blog or the podcast. I feel...

This one is tough. How do you deal with the loss of someone you know or love who died by suicide? I can start by telling you how it made me feel – helpless, scared, angry, abandoned, guilty, etc. I never knew what caused my loved ones to leave me this way, and it is possible I will never know. My prayer is that this episode will give you some options on how to recover after your loss. AFSP DONOR D...

This week we are discussing how to help someone you believe is thinking of suicide by recognizing signs and symptoms, and things you can do to help. AFSP DONOR DRIVE Last week's episode My hope is that everyone is in a safe place and enjoying time with their loved ones. If you are under the sound of my voice, and you are someone who is thinking of a way out, reach out to someone you trust to talk....

“Survivors of intimate partner violence are twice as likely to attempt suicide multiple times, he points out, and cases of murder-suicide are most likely to occur in the context of abuse.” ~ Dr. Richard McKeon (Chief of the suicide prevention branch at the U.S. Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA) AFSP DONOR DRIVE Last week's episode My hope is that everyone is in a s...

This week we are diving right into financial abuse and how to recover from it. Actually, I’m going to share some things I’m doing to recover from it. Now let’s dive right in because this is one a lot of victims and survivors struggle with either before they come out of a toxic relationship or once they come out of it. BankRate - Personal Finance  Last Week's Episode My hope is that everyone i...

Spiritual abuse is not limited to a certain religion or denomination. Any person, of any belief system, is capable of perpetrating spiritual ( or religious) abuse, just as anyone can be the victim of it. My hope is that everyone is in a safe place and enjoying time with their loved ones. Feel free to email me at proactiveeye@gmail.com with comments, questions, or concerns you would like addressed....

Defined by One Love Foundation, emotional abuse is any abusive behavior that isn’t physical, which may include verbal aggression, intimidation, manipulation, and humiliation, which most often unfolds as a pattern of behavior over time that aims to diminish another person’s sense of identity, dignity and self-worth, and which also results in anxiety, depression, suicidal thoughts, and post-traumati...

Social abuse is behavior that aims to cut you off from your family, friends, or community. It can also involve a person or people trying to damage your relationships with others. Social abuse can include things done in the home, in public, over the phone, or on the internet and social media. Last week's episode Elegant Granny Linktree Email: proactiveye@gmail.com Please make use of these resources...

Men suffer from abuse so much more than we realize. As socially responsible citizens, we should support these men change mythical narratives by dispelling the behaviors and ideologies causing them to experience society's perception of them.  Last week's episode  Elegant Granny Linktree Email: proactiveye@gmail.com  Please make use of these resources: If you are in immediate danger,...

It may appear that men do not suffer at the hands of their abuser as much as women, but that could quite possibly be further from the truth. There are a few reasons why I say this. Last week's episode Elegant Granny Linktree Publications  Purchase copy of You Can Anthology <-- preorder now thru Aug. 1, 2020 for $20; after Aug. 1 for $25 Interview for Release of Upcoming Anthology You Can P...

My life has changed in many ways peacefully as I spend a lot of time recovering from Intimate Partner Violence (IPV). A lot of people misconstrue that you can just wish healing and it happens. Further from the truth. It is a continuous process and it involves a lot of work.  Last week's episode  Elegant Granny Linktree Publications: Love's Celebration - The Book Love's Celebration - The...