Prey VS Predator

In part 2 of our conversation with Carolyn from Hagar's Voice we focus on exposing the dark side of the church by providing 10 tips for supporting victims of clergy sexual abuse. In this episode, we dive deeper into our conversation with Carolyn from Hagar's Voice, an organization dedicated to supporting survivors of clergy sexual abuse. Carolyn discusses the systemic problems within churc...

Hagar's Voice is a movement that believes together we can stop clergy sexual abuse through empowering, advocating , and giving a voice to victims. This episode with Carolyn from Hagar's Voice has been in the making for months and we are extremely excited to share this conversation with you. Hagar's Voice is a movement that exists to strategically support survivors of clergy sexual abus...

"Is my relationship doomed"? If you've ever asked yourself this question, this is the conversation for you. In this incredibly important episode, we discuss the five principles of trust laid out by John Gottman in the Science of Trust which are crucial for identifying healthy (or toxic and predatory) relationships. It is very important to be able to recognize trustworthiness in relat...

In order to gain a better understanding of religious coercive control it is important to understand post traumatic church disorder. In this episode of Prey versus Predator, with our guest Sarah, we discuss the impact of coercive religions and relationships on individuals, focusing on the concept of 'Post Traumatic Church Syndrome.' Sarah, from Sacred Unraveling, shares her personal story o...

What are ways to spot a predator? Surprisingly, there are lessons of coercive control to glean from classic fairy tales! Through a close reading of Little Red Riding Hood, we can actually find some helpful insights into predatory tactics! In this episode of Prey VS Predator, we explore elements of coercive control through the lens of this classic fairy tale, and look into how the wolf's behavi...

This is Coercive Control, and the nightmare of Post-Separation Abuse. Welcome to Part 2 of our conversation with Courtney Gilmartin from New Jersey Protective Moms. In this episode, we discuss the realities of dealing with coercive control within the context of separation and custody battles. Courtney shares her journey of escaping an abusive relationship, only to face ongoing legal and personal c...

Domestic Abuse can often be hidden in plain sight, which is the dark truth of coercive control. In this episode, we dive into the nuances of coercive control, a pervasive yet often misunderstood form of domestic abuse. We welcome Courtney Gilmartin, from New Jersey Protective Moms, who shares her harrowing story of surviving an abusive relationship marked by manipulation, control, and terror. Cour...

This sneaky tactic is how abusers and narcissists isolate their victims. It's called flying monkeys, and it's as insidious as it sounds. Welcome back to Prey Versus Predator. In this episode we explore the concept of 'flying monkeys' within the context of abusive relationships and narcissistic manipulation. A flying monkey is someone who a predator enlists in order to alienate and...

Chad Harris, a cult survivor who aims to take down the IBLP cult and Bill Gothard, shares the truth about his experience with this dangerous cult. Welcome to part two of our conversation with Chad Harris, featured in the 'Shiny Happy People Duggar Family Secrets' docuseries! In this episode, Chad discusses his journey of escaping the highly controlling and cultish environment of the Instit...

Chad Harris from Shiny Happy People shares his shocking story of living the majority of his life under the Controlling Cults known as the Independent Fundamental Baptist (IFB) Movement and the Advanced Training Institute (ATI). We are so excited to have Chad Harris on Prey VS Predator. Chad discusses his background growing up and living in the Independent Fundamental Baptist (IFB) church cult. Cha...

Is my partner a narcissist? That is a question that Dr. Tamara Knott seeks to answer through sharing her groundbreaking research on the five stages of narcissistic abuse. Dr. Tamara Knott has done extensive research on the stages of relationships with narcissistic partners. She identifies five stages: the foundations of the relationship, where partners experience some life transition; the stage be...

Dr. Tamara Knott discusses the implications of understanding narcissistic abuse. Dr. Tamara Knott shares groundbreaking research that focuses on partners who are in relationships with narcissistic abusers. We learn from Dr. Knott that couples counselling simply does not work with a narcissist as there is an extreme power imbalance. Dr. Knott also mentions that counsellors should focus on empowerin...

Most people will one day ask how to help someone who is being abused. In this episode we seek to answer the question of what to do when a friend is being abused. We discuss our personal experiences of abuse and provide insight as to identify abusive relationships and abusive friendships. As a friend of someone who is in a relationship with a predator, it is important to stay curious, to ask questi...

Curiosity is what allowed Andrew to start a journey of breaking free from Christian fundamentalism. In this final part of our conversation with Andrew Pledger, survivor of the Christian cult Bob Jones University, we ask him questions about his story and how he found freedom after leaving. Andrew discusses the pressure to conform, deep feelings of shame, and the development of intuition and curiosi...

In Part 3 of Andrew Pledgers' story, Andrew discusses coming out as queer at the fundamentalist cult of Bob Jones University. In this incredible conversation, Andrew highlights the ways in which post-COVID schooling impacted his mental health and the decisions that led to him rediscovering himself, acknowledging the trauma, and ultimately finding freedom from Bob Jones University - a place he...

In Part 2 of Andrew Pledgers' story, Exposing Bob Jones University, Andrew unveils the truth of what really goes on at Bob Jones University. Andrew discusses the oppression, fundamentalism, and transformation that he experienced at Bob Jones University. Andrew expands on the snitching culture, being stalked, and the intense harassment that he faced. Finally, Andrew indicates how he found hope...

Andrew Pledgers' story proves that the IFB movement is a Christian Cult. The IFB movement, founded by charismatic leader Jack Hyles, is known for its fundamentalist beliefs and fear-based teachings, including graphic sermons about hell and the constant reminder of the rapture's imminence. In this episode, we get the pleasure of hearing Andrew Pledgers' story. He describes how the IFB u...

Ensuring our Children's safety is often a battle. Predators frequently use manipulative tactics, such as parental alienation, to disrupt prey post separation. This often leads to children's safety becoming jeopardized. In this episode we tackle this challenging topic and discuss how predators can manipulate family courts, which impacts the prey parents and the children involved. We further...

This is Part two of a conversation with Lindsey Williams on the aftermath of escaping a cult - the fundamentalist Christian cult of the IBLP from the Amazon docu-series Shiny Happy People. In this episode, we continue the conversation with Lindsey Williams and explore where Bill Gothard is now. We also examine how Bill Gothard and the IBLP are very much active in today's society. Lindsey also...

Lindsey Williams on the aftermath of escaping a cult - the fundamentalist Christian cult of the IBLP from the Amazon docu-series Shiny Happy People. In this episode, we continue the conversation that was started last season with Lindsey Williams, who survived Bill Gothard and the IBLP cult and is now sharing her story of what took place. We discuss the psychological impacts of indoctrination and r...

In this episode, we explore how to know your boundaries and escape the nice trap. Join us, Jill, Amber, and PJ, as we tackle the dangerous assumptions and hidden pitfalls associated with being "nice." Jill, Amber, and PJ explore how societal pressures force women and children into the mold of niceness, leaving them vulnerable to manipulation by predators. Finally, they offer some tips th...

Finding healing is crucial after escaping abuse. In part two, Tia Levings' discusses her journey of liberation and recovery from a system of high-control Christian patriarchy. Tia Levings joins hosts Amber and PJ as they delve deeper into her harrowing escape from an abusive, high-control religious environment. Drawing from her experiences which have now been documented in her book, Tia discus...

The Christian Patriarchy saturates Western politics, Tia Leving's powerful testimony focuses on exposing this abusive system. Born into a Christian fundamentalist system, Tia delves into the complexities of experiencing violence, growing up in an evangelical church, and the tragedy losing a child. Tia sheds light on the manipulative aspects of Bill Gothard's IBLP and its system of patriarc...

Inside the Christian Cult of IBLP, featured in Shiny Happy People, and how one strong survivor escaped the clutches of Bill Gothard and the IBLP! This is part 2 of our interview with Lindsey Williams, a courageous survivor of Bill Gothard's controlling cult Institute in Basic Life Principles (IBLP). Lindsey gives a chilling account of being personally groomed and targeted by Bill Gothard as a...

In this incredible interview, we sit down with Lindsey Williams, an articulate and beautiful survivor of the IBLP (Institute in Basic Life Principles) cult. Lindsey opens up about her traumatic childhood experiences of manipulation, extreme discipline, and psychological abuse that left her anxious and struggling with PTSD. As a child, Lindsey felt unheard, afraid, and starved of creativity and aut...