Practical Change for Midlife Lesbians

Didn't get the job? The new relationship you thought had long-term potential fizzled? Didn't get the thing that you were going for or hoping would happen? It ray-e-ained on your wedding day (a la Alanis Moressette)? Disappointment is a real part of life, with real brain chemistry that makes it hurt, sometimes without relief. Is the answer to lower your expectations to protect yourself from pain?

How we talk to ourselves and how we frame our thoughts about our circumstances has a defining influence on whether we get what we want. Listen in for some practical suggestions for changing the conversation.

Even though our thoughts dictate our feelings, sometimes we can take actions that improve our mood and get us to a place of thinking more constructively. Here are a few quick cheap and easy ideas to feel better right away and get you moving to where you want to be.

Borrowing from personal finance advice, it's truly in your best interest to do those things daily that set you up for the day/week/year/ life you want to have.

To make changes you want, you have to have hope that it's possible. But you can't have change without some fear. How do you balance pursuing what you want when you are afraid that it won't work out?

What can Team Martina teach us today about cutting ourselves some slack AND working toward a future we want? Lesbian wisdom from the 80's is right here for you!

Are we worthy of forgiveness? Are others? What would it take to move from guilt and shame about things we've done in the past, or blame and anger at others for their behaviors. Do we even want to? What does forgiveness even mean?

Why *do* we want what we want? And if we can figure out how to be happy (or maybe just not miserable) right where we are, does that take away our desire to create something new for ourselves? 

When we decide to make a change, it's because we think we'll feel better after we make it happen. So what's happening when we set a goal and don't make it? Using a desire to lose weight as an example, this episode explores where things go off track and offers a different way to think about approaching it.

We may think that the status quo is better than change, or that to make change happen, we have to throw a granade and blow things up. But what if it could unfold differently? 

In this episode, we explore what to think, feel and do when your grown son comes to town but doesn't call.

We midlife lesbians need a podcast of our own! Welcome to Practical Change for Midlife Lesbians. In this one corner of the world, we are not invisible and we can start creating some practical change for the next part of our lives. Claire Baker of PracticalChangeCoaching.com is your host.