PolySoCal

This week’s PolySoCal conversation centered around gratitude — and it turned deeply personal fast. The group shared what they’re most thankful for in life, exploring how trauma, resilience, and identity shape the love we give and receive. Themes of healing from injury and illness, releasing grief, and supporting partners through transformation were woven throughout the night. It was a powerful rem...

this episode dives into the emotional landscape of aging within polyamorous and kink-friendly relationships. The group explores vulnerability, sexual confidence, physical changes, emotional safety, and the evolving experience of intimacy between partners of different ages. What starts as a discussion about sexual safety expands into honest storytelling about ED, communication, demisexuality, confi...

The discussion moves far beyond physical protection, delving into emotional safety — the kind of trust that allows someone to be fully vulnerable, seen, and accepted. Each guest brings a deeply personal perspective: Patty speaks about freedom of expression and emotional honesty, John reflects on being “a safe person” and the complexities of male vulnerability, Heather explores how self-knowledge a...

In this candid interview, host Alonzo Banx sits down with Patty , a cornerstone of the PolySoCal community, for a deep and heartfelt conversation about her 31-year relationship with her husband John, their journey through polyamory, and the wisdom that only comes from decades of experience. Patty shares stories from their early days — from swinging to growing into emotionally connected polyamory —...

One of the most spirited PolySoCal roundtables yet, exploring the question: Do you have to be kinky to be poly? and Isn’t poly just swinging, anyway? What begins as a lighthearted discussion quickly evolves into a candid exploration of love, sex, and self-definition. With a full cast including Max, Patty, Cupcake, John, Noah, and Heather , the conversation dives deep into how we define “kink,” wha...

In Episode 18, Alonzo Banx brings together a familiar and lively panel — Heather, Cookie, Noah, Blake, and Lana — for a deep, candid conversation about what it really means to feel secure in polyamory. The discussion explores how love languages, trust, and communication shape emotional safety, and how security isn’t static — it’s something partners build, test, and rebuild over time. From redefini...

The PolySoCal crew dives deep into the electric, chaotic, and beautiful phenomenon known as New Relationship Energy (NRE) — that intoxicating rush when a new connection begins. Hosted by Alonzo Banx with Heather, Noah, Max, and Cupcake , the conversation explores how to recognize, manage, and sustain relationships when NRE hits hard. From emotional honesty and neglected partners to compersion, dop...

In this intimate and powerful one-on-one, Alonzo Banx sits down with Cupcake , one of the most loved voices of the PolySoCal community. For the first time, she shares her journey through trauma, recovery, and self-discovery — from surviving assault and toxic relationships to finding love, strength, and healing through kink, polyamory, and community. What begins as a personal history unfolds into a...

In this heartfelt roundtable, the PolySoCal crew opens up about belonging, rejection, and what it truly means to feel part of a community . Hosted by Alonzo Banx with guests Lana, Noah, Ash, Sy, and Cupcake , this episode dives into the emotional undercurrents of inclusion — when we feel invited, when we don’t, and how our own perceptions shape that sense of belonging. The group explores how trust...

 What does fear look like when you’re trying to love openly? In this episode, three men sit down to talk honestly about confidence, insecurity, aging, and the quiet ways anxiety shows up in polyamorous relationships. It’s not a debate or a lectureit’s a real conversation between friends who’ve lived the questions they’re asking. From feeling “replaceable,” to learning emotional maturity, to the un...

Guest host Noah leads a lively and heartfelt discussion exploring the many forms of polyamory — from kitchen-table dynamics to monogamish relationships, harems of cuddle buddies, and solo poly living. The conversation opens with introductions from the full PolySoCal crew and new guests, each sharing their experiences and definitions of what “poly” means to them. Together, they dive into the import...

 In this roundtable conversation, the PolySoCal Podcast takes on one of the most common questions newcomers ask: “How do I join the community and conduct myself properly?” Alonzo Banx is joined by Cupcake, Noah, Ash, Oslo, Heather, and Craig for an honest and sometimes raw discussion about the do’s and don’ts of entering poly and lifestyle spaces. The group explores respect, boundaries, consent, a...

 Hosted by Alonzo Banx, this episode of the PolySoCal Podcast brings together a group of men—Jon, Beeb, Craig, Blake, Max, and Noah—for an unfiltered conversation about what it really takes to show up in shared spaces and non-monogamous dynamics. They tackle hard truths about ego, consent, communication, and emotional responsibility, sharing both personal insights and practical advice. It’s an hon...

 In this powerful episode of the PolySoCal Podcast , host Patty guides a roundtable of six incredible women—Heather, Jenna, Cupcake, Captain Lynn, and Lana—through a deeply honest conversation about what to expect when entering the world of open or non-traditional relationships. Drawing on lived experience and hard-earned wisdom, they explore how to ask for what you need, how to stay grounded in y...

This episode of PolySoCal podcast dives into one of the most challenging and relatable dynamics in open relationships: the uneven balance of attention and playtime between men and women. Our panel of voices shared personal stories of jealousy, reassurance, cultural bias, and creative solutions—like being your partner’s wingwoman, setting clear agreements, or simply learning to celebrate each other...

In this episode of the PolySoCal Podcast, Alonzo sits down with Patty, John, Heather, and Beeb — a four-person polycule — to talk about how their connection began, what it’s like to grow from swinging into a committed quad, and how they navigate the everyday challenges of jealousy, compersion, agreements, and family disclosure. From playful banter about “love cups” to honest reflections on emotion...

In this episode of the PolysoCal Roundtable Talk, host Alonzo Banx and a diverse group of guests discuss the intricacies of polyamorous relationships. They explore how to navigate the introduction of new partners, the importance of communication, and the lessons learned from past experiences. The conversation emphasizes the significance of mental health and the need for transparency and trust in p...

What does the word “polyamory” actually mean anymore? In this thoughtful and sometimes spirited roundtable, Alonzo Banx opens the floor to unpack a question that’s become more complicated with time: Has the word “poly” lost its meaning—or expanded it? From ethical non-monogamy to monogamish dynamics, from swinging to polyfidelity, this episode dives into the evolving language of love and the emoti...

In this powerful, vulnerable roundtable, the PolySoCal community explores a single, profound question: “If society never judged your relationships, how would that change the way you love?” What unfolds is a raw and deeply human conversation about family rejection, corporate fear, the grief of lost friendships, and the bittersweet path to self-acceptance. Voices range from seasoned poly veterans to...

In this week’s PolySoCal Roundtable, host Alonzo Banx welcomes an engaging mix of voices—from seasoned polycule partners to a guest with a monogamish perspective—for an honest conversation about relationship agreements. Together, they explore how couples create, uphold, and evolve agreements that foster trust, respect, and safety in ethical non-monogamy. The group shares personal strategies, from...

In this week’s PolySoCal Roundtable, host Alonzo Banx and an inspiring panel of voices explore one of the most persistent myths in ethical non-monogamy—the idea that fairness means splitting time equally between partners. Through candid stories, laughter, and heartfelt insights, they reveal why emotional presence, intentionality, and genuine connection matter far more than keeping the calendar bal...

In our very first episode of The PolySoCal Podcast , we sit down with Noah, Cookie, and Cupcake — a connected, loving polycule navigating life, love, and growth together. They share their journey from friendship to deep connection, the joys and challenges of joining an existing relationship, and the powerful lessons they’ve learned about compersion, communication, and self-awareness. Whether you’r...

In this special PolySoCal Podcast Roundtable, Alonzo Banx gathers voices from across our community — Cookie, Noah, Cupcake, Patty, and Captain Lin — for an open, fireside-style conversation about the beliefs around love and commitment we’ve all had to unlearn. From breaking free of “one true love” conditioning to learning that jealousy can be a teacher, each guest shares personal experiences, less...