Playbook For Performance

This week, we are talking about stop making others miserable, suck it up! So our mission is to make work fun again and this month we discussed how we internally make things more fun by finding joy and being a little less cranky. So one of the things that we really try to emphasize in coaching is agency. We are thinking that you are in control of your situation and everything around you. And so in...

This is podcast 50, we're at the 50 marker. Amazing. So we started this off last year and we've been releasing weekly. We've got lots of topics out there and we would love to hear from you about what your favorites are.   And today our idea is really to pick your poison. And that is what is your happiness at work strategy? So we're trying to position you to be an agent of your own happiness becaus...

This month's theme is about finding joy and being a little less cranky. So today’s topic is what you are doing all day, all day long. What is it that's bringing you joy? What's bringing you this crankiness? What is it that really can help you with whatever it is that you need to do to not be a jerk at work and that you can figure out what's really fun for you in terms of what you're doing all day?...

We're on podcast 48. We are so close to the 50-meter mark here. So this month we are talking about Finding joy and Being a little less cranky. And this week specifically, we're going to be talking about, do not be that guy at work. This applies to gals too, But it is this whole idea of sometimes people just don't behave, they get resentful and it can be a lot of different things that are causing t...

Today, specifically, we're going to talk about the shared principles in coaching culture and preventing polarization. You may or may not know, that I literally wrote the book on a coaching culture. You can find my book available on Amazon, as well as the audible version. It talks about what coaching is, why it works, how to do it and how to implement it. And I regularly speak to organizations abou...

Today specifically, we're going to talk about preventing polarization. As I’ve mentioned in my podcast a couple of weeks ago, there are several organizations that have done some very quality research in this area about how we have arrived at the state that we're in. We've seen things come across from politics, #MeToo, BLM, and the police situation, all kinds of stuff. And this week we're seeing a...

This month we're discussing the parallels between a coaching culture and preventing polarization. And today, I want to talk about reuniting and the willingness of people to invest. So this whole idea that people have about reuniting is this challenge they have with investing their time, their effort maybe their money in something. That's not a sure thing because others are not always predictable....

This month, we're going to be talking about conclusions from the research on polarization and what we learned between these qualitative interviews and the survey. So loads of organizations are devoted to hosting discussions based on polarization and overcoming polarization. There are groups that are devoted to politics, getting conservatives and liberals together to talk about what they have in co...

This month’s theme is all about restoring your integrity and today we're gonna be talking about "Shedding Ego Identities". So what does that mean? What's an ego identity. So in coaching, when we talk about ego, we're talking about that sort of demographic, the outside of you, the things that people can see and surmise about you based on your appearance, your age, your gender, your race perhaps wha...

Today we're going to be talking about reuniting, forgotten parts of yourself to make yourself whole. Now you're probably wondering how does this make work fun again? How does it build better leaders? Well, all of this comes down to our integrity. When we think about pieces of ourselves that are out of integrity, we're thinking about things splintering off and it takes a lot more energy for somethi...

This month we are talking about restoring your integrity and specifically today, we're going to talk about boundaries, standards, and preferences. We discussed this a little bit last month when we were talking about spring cleaning your life, and creating some of these things, but we want to go into more detail about what this will do for you and what this does for your integrity. Boundaries are o...

For this month's theme, we're going to be talking about integrity. Do you feel yourself splintering? So the solution here to this idea of splintering is to try integrity, to reunite those parts and become whole. So what is integrity and what are we talking about when we say integrity? Well, first of all, it's not a moral compass. The idea of integrity is that something is intact, that it's strong....

So onto today's topic, we're talking about standards. Standards are companions to boundaries and the fact that boundaries are what people may say or do or behave around you, your standards are your rules about how you would behave for yourself. So this is your code of conduct. Megan Kelly wrote a book entitled " Setting For More", based on this reflection that she had watched a Dr. Phil show. She...

This month, we are talking about spring cleaning your work relationships, and today we're going to be talking about boundaries. What are boundaries? Boundaries are like fences. They keep the good things in and the bad things out. I find that there are two main issues that show up when encountering boundaries with my clients. The first is that people know that there is a line, but they're really un...

This week, we're talking about this idea of spring cleaning your relationships, and part two of this is “to get clear about what you want”. Think about all of the things that you do in your life, either your work, your home, et cetera, and set it all in one place. So you could see it all, you'd touch it. And you'd say, what brings me joy? What I really want to encourage people to do this week is t...

So this week, in particular, I want to talk about making space by clearing out the toxins, particularly in work relationships, but this could be home too. We want to make sure that the relationships that we have are valuable, that they're nurturing, and supportive. So how do we decide what deserves our space and our effort? How do we decide who's a toxic person and why we need them out? The best w...

Conflict develops slowly, usually, someone in a group would test the atmosphere about a certain topic with a light comment expecting to see what the reaction of the audience is. Then, if the response of the group is receptive and even encouraged by one or more people, the subject can tend to escalate until it becomes a confrontation that separates people, following opposing ideas like right and wr...

What is the price we pay for not holding the space for dialogue? What is the cost of not stopping to try to understand another’s point of view? We pay with our once “significant connections”, we sacrifice friends who become acquaintances. I am passionate and curious about this topic, how did we get from “agree to disagree “ to the intolerance we usually hold for anyone with differing points of vie...

In today’s episode, I am diving deep into fight stories and how people engage and end up escalating.  Fights find their ground when people start reacting from their egos in a defensive way, this way, the conflict turns out to be more about the image that we have of ourselves rather than being related to a particular topic. Our egos don’t allow us to be vulnerable or open to others’ points of view....

People are not able to hold to polarizing ideas in their minds at the same time, leading to generalizations. The truth is that people can make bad decisions, and we can still be friends, what we need to do is to UNDERSTAND each other.  Most people have lost a special relationship due to having opposing ideas on a certain matter, and that is one of the reasons why I am so passionate about this topi...

There is a lot of damage that can come with conflict, part of it is the loss of control, the escalation, the narratives we tell ourselves about what the other might be thinking, and mainly that we become separated from the other conflictive party.  How can we respect our differences and remain friends with someone who believes differently than we do? My suggestion is: Have fun and be playful. Play...

Here are the tools you need to create the right mindset to approach and resolve conflict. The first step is to suspend judgment; curiosity is the ultimate coaching tool, simply ask more questions. The second tool is to have the intention of creating peace as your main objective; if your goal is to convert, accuse or convince others, they will react defensively. The third piece is to approach with...

There are different kinds of conflicts: expressed conflict, unexpressed but anticipated conflict, and thirdly, unexpressed but resentful conflict. We long for clarity and settlement, we are wired for connection; that is why conflict puts us in a state of anxiety and disruption . The first thing we need to do in order to resolve conflicts is to do an Internal Inventory by asking ourselves: What is...

An ideal state is when we are at our best, using our gifts and talents and being surrounded by a community that brings out the best in us, the best performing teams know this and encourage people to be at their ideal state consequently fostering psychological safety.  There are several ways to promote people reaching their Ideal state: Share challenges especially when the team reacts with empathy...

Where does all the conflict come from? Nowadays people tend to believe that if you are not with me then you are against me, our communities are increasingly divided by conflict. Once we were used to “agree to disagree”, we would seek to understand and wouldn’t force our opinions on others. Sharpening your listening skills can help you identify generalizations, deletions, and distortions that are n...