Play Therapy Podcast: A Master-Class in Child-Centered Play Therapy

In this episode of the Play Therapy Podcast, I answer two thoughtful questions from Mikayla, a graduate student and new play therapist in Illinois. Mikayla asks whether child-centered play therapy (CCPT) will still work if she doesn't have a fully stocked playroom and whether the approach can be effective even when she feels she's still learning. I reassure her that while having a variety of toys...

In this episode of the Play Therapy Podcast, I share a simple but powerful "Pro Tip": the importance of adding the word "yet" when returning responsibility to children in the playroom. When children struggle to accomplish something and feel frustrated or defeated, our well-meaning phrases like, "You can do it!" can sometimes come across as dismissive. By adding the word "yet," as in, "You haven't...

In this episode of the Play Therapy Podcast, I answer two questions from Alyssa in California, a therapist in training, about working with children in child-centered play therapy (CCPT). First, Alyssa asks about transitioning a six-year-old client with separation anxiety from sessions where her mom is present to sessions where it's just the child and therapist. I share strategies for setting clear...

In this episode of the Play Therapy Podcast, I address a question from Jess in Florida about how to handle a child who refuses to leave the playroom after being asked to return a toy. Jess shares her experience with a seven-year-old client who initially resisted putting back a Lego treasure chest and then curled up on the floor, refusing to leave. I discuss how to set limits effectively within the...

In this Session Savvy "wrap-up" episode, I end the series by emphasizing the importance of preserving the classical child-centered play therapy (CCPT) model. Reflecting on Louise Guerney's powerful foreword from the book Child-Centered Play Therapy by VanFleet, I discuss the dangers of modifying CCPT to make clinical "improvements" and why staying adherent to the original principles is vital for t...

In this Session Savvy episode of the Play Therapy Podcast, I discuss the potential impact of using the word "silly" in the playroom and why it's essential to choose language carefully in child-centered play therapy (CCPT). Words like "silly," while often used with positive intent, can carry unintended connotations based on the child's prior experiences. I explain how such words might be interprete...

In this episode of the Play Therapy Podcast, I answer a question from Mary Clare in Illinois, who is working with a 10-year-old client and feeling unsure if child-centered play therapy (CCPT) is the right approach for him. I address her concerns about the child's resistance, performative play, social challenges, and low self-esteem. I explain how these behaviors align perfectly with what CCPT is d...

In this episode of the Play Therapy Podcast, I respond to a question from Laura in Washington about incorporating sand trays in a child-centered play therapy (CCPT) playroom. Laura is hesitant due to her dislike of sand and the practical challenges of working in a shared space. I share tips on choosing sand types, such as kinetic sand or Jurassic Sand, to minimize mess and make cleanup easier. I a...

In this Session Savvy episode of the Play Therapy Podcast, I discuss the critical importance of phrasing choices correctly in child-centered play therapy (CCPT). While we often focus on including the word "choose" in our choice-giving, the phrasing itself is just as essential. I explain why questions like "Do you want to choose?" or "Would you like to choose?" are problematic, as they invite a "no...

In this episode of the Play Therapy Podcast, I address a thoughtful question from Malley in Texas, who wonders how not having children might influence her work as a play therapist, especially in building trust with parents. Malley expresses concerns about parents questioning her ability to help their children simply because she isn't a parent herself. I share personal anecdotes from my early caree...

In this episode of the Play Therapy Podcast, I respond to a question from Jyotsna in India about a child who enters the playroom calm and reserved but then suddenly shifts to destructive, aggressive play mid-session. I discuss how this kind of transition often represents the "calm before the storm" — the child's internal preparation for the emotional release needed. I explain that this shift is a...

In this episode of the Play Therapy Podcast, I answer two questions from Chris in the Virgin Islands. First, Chris asks about how to respond when children frequently ask how much time is left in their session. I explain how this can indicate various needs, such as a desire for control, anxiety, or simply curiosity, and share strategies for reflecting their question and, if necessary, providing a n...

In this Session Savvy episode of the Play Therapy Podcast, I talk about the importance of avoiding commentary on a child's body or physical actions in the playroom, such as saying, "Your body is telling you it needs to move." While well-intentioned, these types of remarks can lead to interpretation and assumptions, which go against the neutrality required in child-centered play therapy (CCPT). I d...

In this episode of the Play Therapy Podcast, I answer a question from Sandy in Iowa about creating SMART Goals, referencing the four universal outcomes in child-centered play therapy (CCPT). Sandy wanted guidance on how to document data to share with parents and teachers in a school setting. I explain how each universal outcome—such as increased self-regulation, self-esteem, emotional vocabulary,...

In this episode of the Play Therapy Podcast, I address a question from Sarah Beth in North Carolina about handling a tricky situation with two siblings in therapy. Sarah Beth's client feels jealous because his brother, who sees a different therapist with a more directive approach, receives prizes after his sessions. This difference has left Sarah Beth's client feeling upset, and she's looking for...

In this Session Savvy episode of the Play Therapy Podcast, I discuss the importance of staying neutral and avoiding value-laden language when a child disagrees with us in the playroom. Often, therapists may respond with phrases like "I made a mistake" or "I got that wrong," which can unintentionally imply fault or ownership. I explain why these responses can be problematic and share strategies to...

In this episode of the Play Therapy Podcast, I answer a question from Michelle in Texas regarding how child-centered play therapy (CCPT) aligns with the needs of children on the autism spectrum. Michelle asked about potential differences in themes, stages, and considerations for therapists working with neurodivergent children. I share insights from my experience and explain why children on the spe...

In this episode of the Play Therapy Podcast, I address a question from Melissa in Colorado about how to communicate upcoming absences to children and their parents. Melissa specifically asked about handling maternity leave and vacations that require taking time away from the playroom. I outline my approach for both scenarios, explaining that vacations can be discussed simply the week before, while...

In this episode of the Play Therapy Podcast, I respond to a question from Nicole in Indiana about finding research that compares child-centered play therapy (CCPT) with other types of therapy. Nicole, whose manager is skeptical of CCPT's broad applicability, especially for issues outside trauma, asked for research to support CCPT's effectiveness across various child needs. Instead of a comparison,...

In this episode of the Play Therapy Podcast, I respond to a question from Deidra in Virginia, a first-year supervised therapist whose supervisor isn't child-centered and often suggests teaching coping skills to young clients in play therapy sessions. I share my perspective on why child-centered play therapy (CCPT) doesn't involve directive instruction like teaching coping skills and how children n...

In this episode of the Play Therapy Podcast, I address a question from Suzanne in Maryland, who has been working with a six-year-old child that engages in repetitive dressing and undressing of Barbie dolls in each session. Suzanne wonders how to interpret this behavior and whether it aligns with themes like nurturing and caregiving. I explain that this type of repetitive play can often be a form o...

In this Session Savvy episode of the Play Therapy Podcast, I discuss an important topic: not assuming that content is emotionally connected in child-centered play therapy (CCPT). I explain that therapists often make the mistake of reacting to play scenarios based on their own assumptions rather than waiting for the child to cue the emotional response. I share specific examples, such as being handc...

In this episode of the Play Therapy Podcast, I respond to Ethan from Virginia, who asked about writing in-session notes during child-centered play therapy (CCPT). Ethan wants to know what kinds of things to document and how to categorize them effectively. I explain my personal note-taking system, breaking down how I organize observations, themes, significant quotes, and other key moments from the...

In this episode of the Play Therapy Podcast, I respond to Brianna from Texas, who asks about the process of sending birthday cards to clients while maintaining confidentiality. I explain the benefits of sending birthday cards and how it strengthens the relationship between therapist and child. I also share practical steps for ensuring confidentiality, such as using only the child's name and mailin...

In this Session Savvy episode of the Play Therapy Podcast, I discuss a common deviation in child-centered play therapy (CCPT)—using phrases like "you feel," "you must be," or "you seem" when reflecting a child's feelings. These phrases, often used as buffers, can unintentionally shift the focus from the child's actual feeling to the qualifier, disrupting the reflective process. I explain why it's...