Pirate Monk Podcast

On this episode: Nate expresses gratitude and shares the role his wife played in starting the Samson Society. Aaron reflects on the Samson Summit and requests listeners to send in questions, experiences, and thoughts. Our Guest: Tod Bolsinger: former pastor, associate professor of leadership at De Pree Center, and author. Tod discusses what happens when old best practices no longer work, adaptive...

On this episode: Nate and Aaron give Halloween updates. Our Guest: Sheila Paige Harkins is a missionary kid, missionary, artist, and author. She shares her story of missions, marriage, adoption and how life happened in those events. She cautions about giving more energy to her husband's healing than he was giving. The damages of “trickle disclosure” and why it happens. Sheila took to the therapy o...

On this episode: Nate and Aaron discuss how to deal with relapse including gentleness and curiosity. Our Guest: Jenna Riemersma is an IFS therapist and author of Altogether You. She explains how Internal Family System therapy practices work to help their clients. Jenna leads us though a very powerful exercise to examine, understand, and grow related to our escaping behavior. Understanding authenti...

On this episode: Nate, Aaron and guest host Elijah Lloyd Jones cure all that ails you, explaining how to cast your burdens on Christ. Also, be careful “shoulding” on yourself. Our Guest: Carver Brown is a recovery coach, recovery coach trainer, structured family recovery counselor, love first interventionists, and Life Works coach. He comes to us with over 20 years of sober experience. Carver remi...

On this episode: Nate and Aaron skip the intro and get right to the interview. Our Guest: Dr. Bruce Hebel is an author, pastor, pastor's kid, and speaker. He brings the freedom of the gospel through forgiveness, revolutionary transformative change. Bruce discusses why it's important to forgive, citing that it can help relieve depression, anxiety, paranoia, and addiction. The choice we have to forg...

On this episode: Nate and Aaron discuss delight in walking alongside others and seeing their growth and first-time experiences. Our Guest: Andy Gullahorn, singer/songwriter, musician, and musical guest at the 2023 Samson Summit in Van TX. Andy is also nearly an O.G. Samson brother! Discussing the benefits of sobriety, including creativity, being in your own body physically and emotionally, vulnera...

On this episode: Nate and Aaron answer questions about patience in recovery, and speculate about Paul maybe wanting to wack off. Our Guest: Rebekah Vickery: Therapist, Allender Center trained, and Trauma Specialist. Rebekah shares her work concerning church and sexual trauma. Discussing the fault of spiritual bypass: ignoring the situation, feelings, what’s wrong, and focusing on religion. Sharing...

On this episode: Nate and Aaron discussing grieving and wailing, one step at time. Q from A: Why is it important to have separate men's and women’s sex addiction recovery groups? Our Guest: Phil Dvorak: pastor, therapist, clinical director and church planter. Considering “Night of Joy” vs. “MTV Spring Break.” Phil discusses his journey to and from alcoholism. The importance of community, coming cl...

On this episode: Nate and Aaron are in the ionosphere speculating. Q from A:   How much detail is appropriate to disclose to your spouse? Our Guest: Adam Young: author, therapist, speaker and podcaster. Adam talks about writing his upcoming book: Your Life Makes Sense. When we are not connected emotionally, interpersonally, and emotionally, we isolate, our brain fragments, and we tend to do whatev...

On this episode: Aaron is back with updates. Aaron introduces his new jingle. Questions from Albuquerque:  I'm lying in bed and can't sleep and I know that acting out will "fix" the problem.  What do I do? Our Guest: Jason Mathew: founder of Lead Me Not accountability software. Jason shares his story of porn, fantasy, and dating apps and his need for digital-wellness. The app tracks trends, sends...

On this episode: Nate and guest host Chris Inman talk about kids leaving the house and becoming P.O.R.K. Our Guest: Laura Connell: author and trauma informed coach. Laura discusses how adverse childhood experiences (A.C.E. test) affect life expectancy and how to get those years back. She talks about how self-sabotage relates to childhood trauma. How willpower is not enough to stop self-sabotage fr...

On this episode: Nate and guest host Tom Moucka discuss the difference between a therapist, coach, and Silas. Our Guest: Mari Lee: author, speaker, therapist, CSAT, trained in Gottman, betrayal trauma, complex trauma, sexual addiction and recovery, EMDR, and mindfulness based therapy. Mari discusses how her pain became her passion. We don’t have to live in the past, but the past lives in us. She e...

On this episode: Nate and guest host Chris Inman discuss the awesomeness of Rob Chenoweth, retreats and new podcasts. Our Guest: Dr. Michael Barta: author, psychologist, therapist, CSAT, and 12-stepper. Michael discusses how to treat “what’s causing the rash” -- going deeper beyond the symptoms. Digging into the intimacy disorder, learning to co-regulate in community. The lack of stability, emotio...

On this episode: Nate and guest host Chris Inman update everyone on Aaron and Erin Our Guest: Michelle Mays: author, counselor and innovator. Michelle guides couples through healing and recovery from betrayal. Helping couples understand betrayal through attachment. She reminds us of the four attachment styles and how they affect both partners before and during recovery. Michelle also defines the t...

On this episode: Aaron and guest-host/guest Nate Geyer discuss everything from Birkenstocks to stocks. Our Guest: Nate Geyer works for Begin Again Institute as an LPC and CSATC. He comes from a background of education as well as lots of personal experience. Nate shares his journey of therapy and story work to find healing and recovery. He discusses how he started at four years old and felt like ju...

On this episode: Aaron and guest host Rob discuss Soul Architecture and how it works. Nate is still on a cruise. Our Guest: Kervins Clement: therapist CSAT, PHD candidate, husband, former sex addict. Kervins shares how growing up as a black Haitian immigrant impacted his addiction and recovery. Embracing ADHD and dyslexia, athletics, Young Life, community, crime, and sharing secrets. Identifying y...

On this episode: Aaron and guest host Rob discuss breaking down walls and curiosity about others’ stories. Nate is on a cruise. Our Guest: Jonathan Merritt is an author, journalist, coach, and speaker. Learning to understand how news and opinion differ and how they change the reader. Embracing and investigating fear. Not allowing fear to tear us apart, especially when considering fear and faith. A...

On this episode: Aaron with an A and Erin with an E host while Nate is in Alaska. Our Guest: Mary Archibeque - addiction therapist and CSAT. Recovered drug addict turned drug addiction therapist, then gambling addiction therapist, and finally sex addiction therapist. Connecting to others through vulnerability and authenticity; no one cares what you know if they don’t know you care. You can’t care...

On this episode: Nate fixes wiring. Aaron is stranded at home. They discuss emotions in the church and the shortcomings of online friends. Our Guest: Stephen McWhirter - musician, minister, husband, and father. Stephen shares his story of being a preacher's kid and recovered drug addict. Your story [of healing] matters. Jesus didn’t heal people the same way twice. Jesus is real, despite your exper...

On this episode: Nate and Aaron don’t have time for buffoonery. Our Guest: Zachary Wagner, an American in England, writer, researcher, and ordained minister. We look at how was Jesus’ masculinity shaped the narratives of the church. Understanding myths about the need for sex. Replacing the purity paradigm with learning. Turning immature image of sex into mature understanding. Discussing sexual abu...

On this episode: Nate and Aaron are back from England. Aaron has realizations and understands his feet. And a mysterious guest host is on the show. Our Guest: Cathy Loerzel:, author, coach, speaker, wife, and mother. Cathy, Co-founder of the Allender Center, talks about her next steps in life. Discussing loyalty and false loyalty: staying due to fear of being alone. Francis Weller’s premise of gri...

On this episode: Aaron has end of high school anxiety. Nate is old enough to have a grandchild graduating college. Our Guest: Dr. Craig Cashwell is a professor at William and Mary College and trauma counselor. Competent and ethical integration of spirituality into the counseling process. Understanding spiritual bypass. What you resist, persists. Discussing “need shame” and toxic positivity. Undern...

On this episode: Aaron paints a challenging image of himself. Nate engineers again. Both discuss medicating with work. Our Guest: Ron Williams: a pirate monk and coach shares his story that landed him in prison; the healing and hope that resulted; how his experiences have helped himself and other men grow; helping churches with their internal policies related to sex offenders. Links: Ron's coachin...

On this episode: Aaron unfriends on facebook. Nate listens to a new book. Our Guest: Blaine Hogan: actor, director, author, husband, and father. You know you have succeeded as a parent, if your kids go to therapy for different reasons than you did. You can’t understand where you are going, if you don’t know where you have been. Free people free people! Composing your future is much like composing...

On this episode: Aaron markets the virtues of living in a sauna and learns about FOMO. Nate reads 6 books on an Alaskan cruise. Our Guest: Sam Black: a pirate monk, meeting host, author, journalist, and reporter. Sam educates pastors and church leaders on understanding pornography addiction, how it happens, early exposure, trauma and drama, and the volume of males and females consuming. How sharin...