Pirate Monk Podcast

On this episode: This week, it's Friday to Aaron. Our Guest: Kimberly Panganiban is a Gottman-trained LMFT with a Filipino last name. She tells her story of being curious about people and her parent's divorce that led her to the therapy field. Kimberly shares that many sexual problems in marriage are simply misalignments and are repairable with the help of an outsider. She discusses the importance...

On this episode: Aaron is excited. Our Guest: Christine Baker is a PHD, CSAT, LPC, SEP, and a sex addiction therapist. She shares her journey from working at the Baptist Children’s home and attending a lecture that led her to pursue sex addiction therapy for women. Christine later transitioned into sex addiction therapy for men and women, stating the value and importance of helping men heal and re...

On this episode: Nate and Aaron talk about different seasons of life. They share how important it is to balance parts of life, including: work, friends, play, and scheduling. Our Guest: Sam Jolman shares how he asked his brother to clarify sexual questions for him. They discuss how many people are sexually awakened and then immediately shamed. Sam shows us how to welcome one's sexuality, learning...

On this episode: Nate and Aaron talk about healthy play. Nate shares what it's like to attend 3 intensives in 2 months. He shares the joy and relief in attending intensives instead of leading them. Our Guest: Shane Ramer is an old school skater, recovery coach, and podcaster. They discuss recreation and fun in sobriety and fighting the boredom. Shane shares why community is important, even when we...

On this episode: Nate and Aaron are back for another episode of the podcast a few people will enjoy. This podcast took a year off of Aarons Life. Planning for the Italy and Germany retreats are discussed, as well as Octoberfest. Our Guest: Dr. Carrie Cole is director of research, training, and runs the “Love Lab” at the Gottman Institute. She performs analysis of relationships. Carrie shares throu...

On this episode: Nate and Aaron bring the podcast back. Aaron wears pants and a hat on Thursday. Nate is still swimming and reads Lonely All the Time. And Aaron goes to jail. Our Guest: Vickey Easa is a therapist and podcaster in Boston Mass via SoCal. She discusses the cultural challenges of how sarcasm is avoiding vulnerability and also blocks intimacy. Understanding how males use insults to sho...

On this episode: Aaron interviews returning guest Andrea Ashley. Andrea is the host of the Adult Child podcast. She’s the only child from an alcoholic household who became sober at 19 years old. She shares her story of learning and implementing boundaries with her parents and others. Andrea shares how she has learned to see her inner child and stopped trying to correct it. She talks about how her...

On this episode: Rob eats turtles and recommends the MickeyD’s app. Pablito eats fair foods and illustrates safety in vulnerable discussions. Our Guest: Nate talks to Nathaan Demers. Nathaan is a psychologist and has a passion for getting quality mental health to the underserved. He has come up with a unique way to help men that engages through humor. Nathaan talks about the many free resources as...

Our Guest: Aaron dives right into the interview with Tim Timmons, musical guest for the 2024 Summit, pastor's kid, musician, worship leader, Tennessean by way of California, sporting a magnificent beard. He talks about growing up with the "husky" label, a home life that blew up as a young teenager, and his mother's intentionally taking the arrows to protect his relationship with his dad. Tim had a...

On this episode: Aaron gets out of bed to podcast and shares his “chesticles up” perspective. Jason shares what he looks forward to at the retreat and favorites from past retreats. Mark has some kind of ailment that Aaron can't pronounce and shares his experiences with Andrew Bauman. Our Guest: Nate talks with Sam Louie. Sam shares about the religion of work and his journey to becoming a counselor...

On this episode: Join Aaron as he talks to our guest Tim Fletcher. Tim’s journey includes pastorship, being on disability, and becoming a temporary counselor that has turned into a passion and career. Aaron and Tim discuss the history of trauma and therapy in Canada, the past, and even in the Bible. Tim shares that adapting to trauma (addiction), helps us survive childhood but messes up adult life...

On this episode: Aaron talks to returning guest Chris Bruno. Chris leads story work counseling at Re-story Counseling, and guides groups of men at the Restoration Project. Aaron and Chris discuss the history of “rites of passage,” women raising boys, and consequences of boys going to approximations of manhood. Chris has written a new book called: Man Maker Project. This book helps guide males (and...

On this episode: Aaron, Mark, and Jason start the show at 9:05pm Tennessee time. Mark talks about sharing his story in a co-ed setting. Our Guest: Nate and Aaron talk with Ian and Tamara Dowling. Ian gets excited and talks fast. He shares about how his childhood abuse and introduction to pornography shaped his view of relationships. They discuss the importance of seeking healing for yourself and n...

Our Guest: This week, Aaron interviews Matt Wade. Matt’s life started as a small boy. He’s now a couples counselor specializing in EFT therapy. Matt discusses his journey of not being supported in becoming a pastor and how he had more of a passion for ministry than a passion for Jesus. He shares how his childhood abuse led to promiscuity to find acceptance and love. Matt encourages us with the hea...

Our Guest: Aaron has a talk with Trent Dollyhigh. Trent is from Mayberry. Yes, that Mayberry. He grew up with whistling, fishing, violence and pornography. Trent was also youth pastor to Andrew Bauman. He shares that Andrew was a student of his and now he is a student of Andrew. Trent discusses how unresolved trauma is usually repeated, and the value of understanding an abuser's history. In his mi...

On this episode: Pablito is not Nate, and Rob is back from retirement. Together, they compare improv to recovery. Our Guest: Aaron and Tim Ice interview Joel Roberts. Joel shares his transition from military career to becoming a therapist. He discusses how our culture and church are not characteristically raising men to be husbands and fathers, and how important it is to pursue growth in those are...

On this episode: This week Aaron goes solo. Our Guests: Daniel Weiss and Josh Glaser. Josh is executive director at Regeneration Ministries where he works with parents, equipping them in the digital age with kids. Daniel comes from Focus on the Family, where he specialized in healthy sexuality for families and now, he equips leaders to promote Gospel-centered sexuality in the church. Together, the...

On this episode: Nate and Aaron made it back from England. Aaron gets up at 2am. Our Guest: Aaron and Nate have a discussion with Justin, Jason, and Mark. Nate is anxious about going to a group intensive lead by Andrew Bauman and wants the guys to give him the lowdown. Justin, Jason, and Mark share what they experienced as they recently went through the retreat together. They share how recovery is...

On this episode: Nate is travelling. Aaron hosts solo and has many sub points. Our Guest: Dr. Joel Muddamalle. Joel resides in North Carolina via Chicago. He co-hosts a podcast with Lysa TerKeurst and Jim Cress called Therapy and Theology . Joel shares his journey of trauma to arrogance then humility. He guides us to see how safe curiosity brings us to humility and back to our own humanity. Joel a...

On this episode: Nate and Aaron talk about Father's Day in England and time zone challenges. Aaron smokes everything, even asparagus. Our Guest: Returning guest Michael Johnson became a marriage expert as a single person and felt led to start a marriage ministry after 10 years in his own marriage. The discussion includes seeing beyond the obvious by supplementing feelings with facts. How to reprog...

On this episode: Aaron gets socks, and Nate just got back from recovery church. Our Guest: Matthew & Joanna Raabsmith are founders of Renewing Us Recovery, where they help couples renew and repair relationships affected by sexual addiction, infidelity, and betrayal. Matthew shares his journey from youth pastor back to seminary where he and Joanna learned of the connection between therapy, psyc...

On this episode: Aaron has been writing. He turns one book into several books. Nate and Aaron also discuss the gospel, recovery, and dealing with the internal parts. Our Guest: Fausto Estrada shares how his story of addiction took him from Honduras to a place of healing in Calgary, Alberta, Canada. He shares that reading more books, getting married and having kids did not cure his addiction. He be...

On this episode: Nate changed religions to pescatarian and Aaron talks about when he was vegan. They also discuss the podcast break and England long-walk. Our Guest: Leslie Vernick - host of Relationship Truth: Unfiltered podcast. They discuss the reality that new curtains don’t fix the termites in the basement of our relationships. Leslie explains the truth that we want people in our lives, but s...

On this episode: Aaron is tired and cleans the fridge. Nate talks about the dragon of our age. Our Guest: Aundi Kolber - licensed professional counselor, author, speaker, wife, and mom. She shares her journey of being raised in the Catholic church and complex trauma. She encourages us to be present, loving, honoring, and respecting ourselves along the journey as she discusses her books Strong Like...

On this episode: Aaron rides an exercise bike and figures out how to get paid to exercise. Nate reconsiders his gym membership. Our Guest: Michael Ayala-White, a Buffalo NY native, is a Trauma Informed Certified Coach who is located in Buffalo, NY, but his certification is global and does remote coaching with clients all over the country. He specializes in addiction recovery, inner child work, and...