Phenomenally ADHD

Managing money with ADHD isn’t about willpower — it’s about wiring. You’re not lazy. You’re not bad with money. You’ve just been trying to force your unique ADHD brain into systems that were never designed for you. That ends today. In this first part of a powerful 2-part series, Zarina — ADHD & money coach and rebel-with-a-cause — introduces the first four of the Eight Money Archetypes th...

Feel like your dreams are stuck in a ‘loading… please wait’ loop? ADHD might be the reason—and the hidden key. In this episode, I break down 5 sneaky ADHD barriers blocking your progress and walk you through a powerful coaching exercise to outsmart overwhelm and build real momentum—ADHD-style. There’s a reason your dreams keep getting delayed—and it’s not laziness. You’ve got ideas. You’ve got amb...

When we talk about the ADHD tax, producing your income tax declaration is definitely something that figures on the list of what ADHD is costing you as it is not uncommon for people with ADHD to be late or even a few years behind in their declarations. The ADHD tax amounts to thousands of dollars every year. In the US, adults with ADHD earn about $15 to $20 thousand dollars LESS annually than our n...

In this episode, ADHD coach Zarina Boily reveals how the words you use in your inner dialogue literally rewire your brain. Discover the powerful science behind self-talk—from neuroplasticity and mirror neurons to your brain's default mode network—and learn actionable strategies to transform “I can’t” into “watch me.” This is your blueprint for flipping the narrative, boosting creativity, and unloc...

Have you ever wondered why or noticed how some words feel like they're secretly running the show in your brain? Like those unexpected plot twists in your favorite series that suddenly make you see everything differently? Words have incredible power - they can either light up our neural pathways like a Christmas tree or dim our whole perspective without us even noticing! In this episode, ADHD coach...

Ever blurt out way too much and then spend the next hour replaying that conversation in your head? If you’re an ADHDer who’s all about genuine connection (but sometimes forgets to hit the pause button), you’re in the right place! Oversharing isn’t just about being an open book that might make others feel awkward or overwhelmed—it’s about uncovering the hidden dynamics behind our ADHD tendencies. I...

If planning doesn’t come easy in your ADHD world, you can believe it’s never going to change because it’s always been that way or, you can shift your thoughts to create your new normal. Holding on to a belief only hardwires it deeper, shutting the door to any possibility for anything to improve.  In this episode, Zarina explains why planning can be so hard for the ADHD brain and how any chall...

When ADHD has us caught up in the daily ups and downs that challenges create, the thought of a different reality doesn't even cross our minds. Leaning to quiet the noise in our head doesn't seem even possible, let alone imagining anything else then what we've been dealing with for so long. In this episode, Zarina explains what it takes to create a new ADHD reality, because why should you...

One of the greatest gift one with ADHD can give its uniquely wired brain is a set of habits to take care of it and ensure that challenges remain as less impactful as possible and prevent it from shutting down. ADHD paralysis is when you can’t find it in you to accomplish normal activities. It’s temporary, but when it happens, you may be wondering what’s happening or if there is something wrong wit...

 Ever feel like you’re constantly playing a role, hiding parts of yourself just to “fit in”? This episode dives into the experience of masking for women with ADHD—when we cover up or downplay our ADHD traits to meet the world’s expectations. From early school days when we first learn to mask to the pressures of juggling adult roles, masking becomes second nature for many of us. But the emotio...

We’ve all heard them—the frustrating comments that make us feel misunderstood, judged, or even doubting ourselves because of our ADHD. Whether it’s ‘You don’t look like you have ADHD’ or ‘Why can’t you just be more organized,’ these comments don’t just irritate us, they can actually fuel our ADHD struggles and impact our self-esteem. In today’s episode, we’re diving into the five things people wit...

A heavy load of emotions can literally drain your energy and while you think you are tired, you may be emotionally exhausted. Too much stress and lack of self-care can lead to symptoms similar to burnout: Feeling tired even after a good nights sleep Crying without even knowing why Loosing interest in thing you live doing Being barely able to get through the day These are only a few signs that emot...

Maintaining a regular sleep routine is crucial for the ADHD brain and if you find yourself having more difficulty waking up in the morning when days start to shorten in the fall, that's because daylight affects serotonin production. When winter comes, there's actually a dip in serotonin and in this episode, you will discover how to avoid accumulating sleep debt, what you can eat to boost serotonin...

The word structure usually make ADHDers cringe and want nothing to do with it, even if you know that all hell brakes loose if you don't have it. Do you know why that is? Because most structures are not created for the ADHD brain, but the neurotypical one. That's one of the reasons doing things spontaneously is the way we prefer, but did you know that when you navigate a structure that fit your uni...

Are you a Gen-X woman who received a late diagnosis and are just beginning to see the impact it had on your life?  What about your professional life and career which ultimately, reflects on your financial situation due to how ADHD challenges hinder the ability to manage money? Job hopping to avoid boredom Missed opportunities like promotions or career advancement Burnout from trying to meet e...

Have you ever thought of ADHD happening for you, not to you or against you?  People like us would graduate with honors if they could earn a degree for all we’ve had to do to adapt to a world that wasn’t designed with us in mind. The biggest mistake a lot of ADHDers make, mainly because they don’t know how their brain works, is using methods that are designed for the non ADHD brain. Remember t...

Navigating the vast, unpredictable ocean in a small boat mirrors the journey of living with ADHD. Storms and fog represent the challenges and uncertainties that come with it. Yet, self-awareness serves as a guiding lighthouse, its beam cutting through the confusion, making each challenge manageable. Understanding yourself isn't just about avoiding obstacles; it's about empowering your voice to art...

When you have ADHD, you might feel that becoming more self aware of your distractible brain is like fighting a losing battle. ADHDers pretty much live in their head which means they’re not paying attention to their bodies, patterns and behavior. Fortunately, there’s an explanation for that and it resides in those two words: executive functioning. Self-awareness is one of the most important keys in...

If you've ever felt overwhelmed by the simplest tasks or found yourself lost in the clutter, this episode is your beacon of hope and humor where we tackle the chaotic world of house chores through the unique lens of ADHD. Join us as we dance through strategies, stories, and a sprinkle of ADHD magic to transform your approach to chores. We kick off the episode by diving into why chores can feel lik...

The saddest thing about ADHD is the narrative that focuses more on the pain and struggles than the strengths and abilities. Of course, it's an undeniable fact that there is a long list of symptoms that create a heavy burden of challenges. When everything that doesn't work gets all the attention, it's hard, if not impossible, to see what does. As an ADHDer, you have the power to choose the lens thr...

Do you find that living with ADHD feels like living life at high speed where fast is the only way to go? Do you have a hard time knowing how to or what to say no to because you don’t want to miss out on anything? If you’re under the impression that you’re missing out on the fun when you can't attend an event or didn't get an invitation and you feel left out/rejected , it could be FOMO (fear o...

Do you have a fraught relationship with your mom with your fair share of arguments, conflicts, misunderstandings, fights, and the chain reaction of negative emotions and trauma? Zarina sure has, and for the longest time, she wished her mother would change and be what she wanted her to be instead of accepting her as she was. At 18 years old, she felt that the only way to break free from her co...

Believing there is only one way of doing something and no other option possible to do certain tasks or chores such as folding laundry or reading a book. Thinking that you might as well do it yourself because you will have to re-do it anyway. Having to feel 100% ready before being able to take action for a new project or challenge you're passionate about. Any of this sound familiar? As many of the...

How does lack of clarity show up when you have ADHD and what are the impacts in the personal, professional and love life of folks with a uniquely wired brain? This episode is inspired by a challenge Zarina experiences and that's  the inability to express feelings, thoughts, emotions. ideas and needs, so that they are understood. Because everything is going fast in the ADHD brain, with informa...

The ADHD brain is uniquely wired, which makes it hard sometimes to know if what you experience is ADHD-related or not, especially if you are new on this journey. Beginning something new is exciting, even more so if something of high interest. Your brain fires up and when boredom doesn’t get in the way, levels of attention, focus and concentration are high. The shadow side of it is when something c...